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Is there such a thing as a bad blowjob?

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Beenawhile1 · 30/04/2021 14:50

Obviously aimed at guys really....

So the question is in the title really! I read the thread about how to give a good BJ but is there such a thing as a bad one? What makes one a good one or not?

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wsbts · 30/04/2021 15:20

Male view. Female is rough with her hands and may have long nails. It is a delicate organ and the most sensitive part is the tip and this should be worked. Female swallows is also sign of a good BJ although if this is not the preference then flavoured condoms use can be just as good.

Female looks male in his eyes while performing, caressing of testicles and possibly at the same time the female is masturbating with her other hand can be a complete turn on. Alternatively male masturbating her while she performs.

69 is incredibly sexy.

Hope this helps OP

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Beenawhile1 · 30/04/2021 15:32

Thanks @wsbts so is there such a thing as a bad one? Apart from the nail/rough thing? As a woman, if I’m receiving and it isn’t good then I kind of shut off and would rather not bother. Is this the same for guys?

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JustAnotherOldMan · 30/04/2021 15:46

Not really bad as such, but rough nails are not good, personally I find the skin underneath my penis is quite sensitive and long nails just tickle, which is a bitoff putting.

One partner used to put the tip in her mouth and then pull on shaft really vigorously, I thought she was trying to pull it off, not good

everywhichway · 30/04/2021 16:05

Biting's not much fun either...

wsbts · 30/04/2021 16:09

@Beenawhile1

Yes it the same for me if the BJ is bad then I would rather have normal sex

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Beenawhile1 · 30/04/2021 16:17

Thanks all very helpful... so I’m guessing same as women that all men are different and would like different things.... Is actual sucking an ‘end’ thing? Is I annoying to swap between say licking then sucking or whatever ...

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noego · 30/04/2021 17:18

As with anything sexual, it's an art form. A woman can only be good at BJ's if she has been educated and the guy she's giving it to needs to educate her. We're all different

Wherearemymarbles · 30/04/2021 18:39

yes there is
In the same way as there is crap cunnilingus

noego · 30/04/2021 20:34

Why would you put up with crap cunnilingus? That's why guys are crap at it. educate them!! If not for yourself for all the women that come after you.

MyAltAccount · 30/04/2021 20:53

Oh yes, it is such a thing.

Not retracting the foreskin!
Keep stopping.
Licking only the shaft.
Only licking the head; not moving the lips over the 'bell-end'
etc etc

There are loads of ways a blow job can be less than satisfying.

PicaK · 30/04/2021 21:07

Honestly men have such different tastes.
Just ask them what they want

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Beenawhile1 · 30/04/2021 21:35

Not a turn off asking them?

Oh god @MyAltAccount paranoid now. I’m so out of practise (years and years I’m talking) and want to be good at it!

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MrsTombliboo · 30/04/2021 22:14

Mine can't be much good, I've never made my DH cum from a BJ in 20+ years.

Namechangeforhere · 30/04/2021 23:26

Personally I am a fan of the rough handling and biting, so its horses for courses. Just licking and sucking doesnt really do it for me. I rarely cum through oral alone tho.

Its the same as women don't always like the same oral on them. DW loves her clit sucked and flicked with my tongue, but previous partners have not wanted me anywhere near it, and preferred their labia to be licked. Everyone's different.

MisterT373 · 01/05/2021 01:34

For me tbe worst thing is knowing tbe woman doesn't enjoy giving BJs and especially not if she doesn't like the man cumming in her mouth. From a practical point of view teeth, roughness and too much saliva are downers for me.

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Beenawhile1 · 01/05/2021 07:02

I’m so glad I asked but now I feel even more self conscious about being any good! I thought ‘the wetter the better’! Hence why edible lube is recommended...

@MrsTombliboo how does that make you feel? Has he ever asked you to change method? I would feel like I had failed if I can’t make a guy cum.... but that doesn’t seem too unusual? For a guy, is that ‘bad’ if you don’t come through oral or is that not too bad? I have never swallowed snd the thought makes me a bit Ill to be honest but maybe i should try.

@MisterT373 doesn’t it hurt a bit if it isn’t wet enough? Thinking of friction etc? Just interested

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DrDreReturns · 01/05/2021 07:14

One where I don't cum

Sparkybloke · 01/05/2021 07:26

Personally I like it wet. As others say...bad things...nails, biting and too dry. Good things for me...focus on the head....lots of licking the shaft and sucking. I like my balls massaged. I do like to ejaculate in dps mouth. She usually spits out after. Most importantly i always return the favour as receiving a bj is lovely but so is tasting my partner and getting her offGrin

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Beenawhile1 · 01/05/2021 07:29

@DrDreReturns why is that?

@Sparkybloke how exactly does one ‘massage’ the balls? I always feel like I’m fumbling and don’t focus much on that... I need to change that too!

Is it a turn off to ask a guy what/how they like it? I’m thinking maybe that may be better?

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Sparkybloke · 01/05/2021 07:52

@beenawhile1....just gentle caressing really....sometimes she licks them...really...don't over think things....most men will be delighted with what ever you do....just ask...everyone is different

Sparkybloke · 01/05/2021 08:28

Really..as with all love making, communication is key...ask him what he likes. Tell him what you like. NEVER feel pressured into doing anything you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable with...enjoy!

MrsTombliboo · 01/05/2021 08:53

@Beenawhile1 It makes me feel useless and rubbish in bed.

This is kind of related to another thread regarding discussing other partners with your current partner. Whilst searching for reassurance, I asked about his previous experiences and all this did was confirm my BJs are rubbish and my technique poor. This was my interpretation, not his language, but I did press the matter, which was a mistake.

I think in a nut shell, I'm not enthusiastic enough, don't get enough of it in my mouth, i.e not deep enough, keep on catching it with my teeth, don't do it for long enough (my jaw aches after a while) and am just not sexy enough in the process.

Like I say, never made him cum once in 20+ years. To rub salt in the wound, his oral technique is fantastic.

Namechanged1010 · 01/05/2021 09:01

It's very personal I think to the guy and couple. When I first met DH I progressed to doing BJ's I thought I was doing how he liked it...and he said he did but he really wanted to feel when I was doing it like he was circumcised....so foreskin back really tight and made him feel he didn't have one....Christ when I started doing that to him...did he moan like I've never heard before. But to another guy that would probably have been exactly what he didn't want

xpc316e · 01/05/2021 11:03

There is definitely no such thing as a bad BJ. There are varying degrees of wonderfulness, but for a person to do such an intimate thing to another can never ever be bad.

AverageGuy · 01/05/2021 11:34

@Beenawhile1 - back again? Grin

I was 57 before I experienced my first full BJ Shock - by that, I mean I "finished" in my partners mouth. Until then, I had never been fortunate enough to be with a woman wiling to allow that, although some would often "pop down" for a little while.

Having now experienced it, I definitely want more! Grin - if a woman is willing, then it can't be bad!

I would say, enthusiasm is important - eye contact, enthusiasm and vocalisation - just dreamy.... Pardon me whilst I have a cold shower.. Grin

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