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Is there such a thing as a bad blowjob?

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Beenawhile1 · 30/04/2021 14:50

Obviously aimed at guys really....

So the question is in the title really! I read the thread about how to give a good BJ but is there such a thing as a bad one? What makes one a good one or not?

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AverageGuy · 06/05/2021 08:18

As for anything anal, if you are both into it, why not. From what I've heard, prostate massage can give a guy an amazing orgasm.

Just try not to over think that, either! Smile

VanGoghsDog · 06/05/2021 08:31

@Beenawhile1

Isn’t it a turn off though *@VanGoghsDog* to keep checking they like it?
I don't think I suggested that you do that. I wouldn't be checking all the time, no.
Beenawhile1 · 06/05/2021 09:06

@VanGoghsDog you are right sorry that was aimed @JustAnotherOldMan comment yesterday evening.

I KNOW I’m over thinking (that’s me all over) hopefully get the opportunity at the weekend Wink

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VanGoghsDog · 06/05/2021 09:45

I think ensure they know they can ask for what they want but other than that, ask afterwards, not all the time during.

Beenawhile1 · 06/05/2021 10:06

God no I wouldn’t all the time! Maybe I will try to pretend to ask in a seductive manner ‘how you like it’ Grin

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everywhichway · 06/05/2021 10:27

Why pretend? Just ask him!

TopTips4TopTips · 06/05/2021 18:36

When I started my thread, I really was anxious. By the end, and having read loads on Bad Girls Bible, I felt as confident as possible. I how think I'm fucking awesome at them 😆😁😁

OH is delighted. He raves about our sex life, the BJs, the anal thing!!! And yes, re that, I get it, and was initially very against the idea, sounded gross. But he'd just showered, and was super clean. It felt really amazing. I've never even considered it before, but I'm crazy about this guy, and wanted to. His first time too. And he did it to me, and my mind was blown.
New adventures. Enjoy. He'll be delighted at you wanting to improve. Good luck.

TopTips4TopTips · 06/05/2021 18:38

@VanGoghsDog

use warm milky tea/coffee. Not hot!!! Or cold, fizzy drinks. Or mouthwash.

I like to do it with a perfectly chilled champagne....

Sounds fab. I'm tee-total, coke works great for me/him.
Ponchek2 · 07/05/2021 02:40

@Mahrezis

Girlfriends - one was spectacularly good. Swallower and filthy eye contact. Good memories.... Maybe I should have married her!

😂😂 thing is, eye contact and swallowing are so easy ... I thought everyone did that??

@Beenawhile1
Yes I do think you might be over thinking a tiny bit. Just look in his eyes?

Blokenamechangesexboard · 07/05/2021 22:30

My DW will only give me a BJ if I'm wearing a condom (that's not because I'm stinky but because she doesn't like any cock emissions of any sort in her mouth ever). She is enthusiastic enough, but because I'm in my 40s I'm a bit desensitised. So the condom makes it all a bit meh compared to PIV.

I need top tips for my top tip too.

I thought maybe lube in the condom tip and pull back foreskin (I'm uncircumcised).

Suggestions?

VanGoghsDog · 07/05/2021 22:32

I wonder if a femidom in her mouth, rather than a condom on you, would work better? Worth a try?

SparklingStars10 · 08/05/2021 10:28

@Blokenamechangesexboard - A penis tastes much better than a condom (unless the guy happened to not be hygienic!)
When you say emissions, do you mean pre-cum?
Are you sure it’s not a case of not being de-sensitised but a lack of friction through the condom?
I don’t see any other alternative to be honest, as if she doesn’t like a bare penis/pre-cum in her mouth, the only solution is carry on with condoms.

rwalker · 08/05/2021 15:19

Yes there is and still got scar on forskin to prove it

Blokenamechangesexboard · 09/05/2021 04:24

I suppose it must be pre-cum. There's no way of asking this question without giving the impression that I'm a massive soap-dodger and smell like an old dog that's rolled in a dead whale.

It's honestly not that. I asked DW and she says that she doesn't think it's hygienic. I can't imagine that spermicidal lubricant is very good for her either.

I think she just doesn't like mouths being close to genitals. She wasn't keen on me going down on her either for years. Then she decided to try it, really liked it, and we did it lots. But after that, I bought her a vibrator and she's meh about oral now as she prefers the vibrator instead.

A pity, because I do love a good 69.

Ponchek2 · 09/05/2021 06:12

@rwalker

Yes there is and still got scar on forskin to prove it
Hahahahaha 😂😂 ouch!
Ponchek2 · 09/05/2021 06:18

@Blokenamechangesexboard

I can't imagine that spermicidal lubricant is very good for her either.

No it is very bad for her. It is poisonous! Sperm way better for her!

Personally (and now I may get the comments ...) my ex DP did usually have a v clean one, as meticulous with it, but even on the odd occasion where I caught him unawares and it wasn't freshly washed, I still loved it.

I have heard of women giving bjs through condone but I can't honestly see how one could properly, and myself could not bear to suck a condom.

Pre cum is one of the best moments!! So much would be going to waste inside that plastic strait jacket!!!

If your DW likes the toy and was also persuaded by oral .....

Ponchek2 · 09/05/2021 06:21

@Blokenamechangesexboard

sorry hadn't finished!

If she likes that then maybe you could use the toy on her, with additional licking from yourself, and at least lie side by side (in hopeful 69 position) and get her to at least stroke you? Would she lick your balls? Maybe if you drive her wild enough with the vibrator and licking? And your erection is mm from her face? Her instincts might just take over??

SparklingStars10 · 09/05/2021 09:10

I think it’s hard to change someone’s view about the genitals being associated with pee and other bodily fluids, I guess some women just feel that way. I can also understand why you’d prefer wet lips/mouth to a condom too. I’m not sure how you’d get over that one though, unless she was willing to try again without a condom?
With regards to the vibrator, could you agree to use it every other time you have sex?
I’ve used a bullet in the past but I prefer my husbands mouth every time, also because it feels so intimate.

Sparkybloke · 09/05/2021 09:47

My DP wouldn't do a BJ with a condom on. The lube is harmless (except to sperm obviously) but does not taste good although you can always used flavoured condoms without spermicideSmile. As far as pre cum and semen are concerned I guess one either does it does not like the taste etc....semen can be affected by eating strong flavours like curry...they say drinking pineapple juice improves it! maybe an urban myth.
No idea if the same applies to vaginal secretions...I love the taste of my dpGrinGrin.
As with all things though cleanliness is vital...we almost always shower before making love....

Blokenamechangesexboard · 09/05/2021 22:38

@SparklingStars10

I think it’s hard to change someone’s view about the genitals being associated with pee and other bodily fluids, I guess some women just feel that way. I can also understand why you’d prefer wet lips/mouth to a condom too. I’m not sure how you’d get over that one though, unless she was willing to try again without a condom? With regards to the vibrator, could you agree to use it every other time you have sex? I’ve used a bullet in the past but I prefer my husbands mouth every time, also because it feels so intimate.
I think that's where it's at, and that's where it's going to stay tbh. That's just her view.

And she's always preferred to be stimulated one way. Years ago it had to be PIV. Then it had to be oral. After that, when I was going through a low patch, I bought her a vibrator to take the pressure off me a bit. Just in case she hated it I got a cheap bullet. She thought it was an odd idea, but we tried it out and it sent her up to 11. Then she burned the motor out, and got a really expensive bullet.

Then about a year back I bought her a Womanizer (having read the recommendations here) and the expensive bullet has been gathering dust ever since.

So she has very definite likes and dislikes and they don't easily shift.

The Femidom idea is growing on me.

SparklingStars10 · 09/05/2021 23:46

@Blokenamechangesexboard - I guess if the toys work for her, then that’s a good thing but do you still incorporate oral, or has the Womanizer taken its place?

I can’t help feeling I’d be a little peeved if I was willing to accept the taste of her but the feeling wasn’t mutual but then I guess we are all different and we can only accept their reasons and choices.

Ponchek2 · 10/05/2021 13:06

@SparklingStars10

I can’t help feeling I’d be a little peeved if I was willing to accept the taste of her but the feeling wasn’t mutual but then I guess we are all different and we can only accept their reasons and choices.

I got roasted alive with she-devils dancing round me chanting murderous incantations, for touching on this view on another thread 😂😂😂

Of course the only option is to wolf with the other person's sensibilities and views. Unless there's room for even the slightest bit of movement, in which case I guess one can try to work on it. If @Blokenamechangesexboard 's DW was very set on eg the thoughtfully-procured bullet, but now has moved on to something else, then maybe her position on tasting him may also be able to be revisited. Although these are two different things. One is about her pleasure. And the other she perhaps perceived as being about his.

I wonder if a bad blowjob is one done without the giver seeing her own pleasure to be had in it. ?

I'm perhaps not the best to talk, as myself could spend hours on a blowjob, loving everything about it. I see the object of my affections as no more associated with anything unpleasant than any part of my body would be. And in some ways let's face it - you have the whole length of the penis to go at, which has the sole function of getting hard so it can enter you easily and give you pleasure/create new life (if that's on the cards). With oral on women I imagine one is a lot more right up against an area that does quite a lot of things apart from get wet and have orgasms? I've always been delighted I get a penis to play with rather than a woman!

(sorry to women who love women, here - I'm just commenting on my preference and this subject here being particularly about kissing um men ...)

Willow79 · 10/05/2021 22:12

I've been told I'm proficient by multiple partners Grin

I honestly think I am just good! I have good rhythm - I am a musician and dancer and I do think there is something in that.

I have always swallowed. Quite surprised to hear so many dont, their choice of course. I pay attention to the head, shaft (love taking in the length of it), stroke the thighs and stomach, and I love the balls. I don't know why, but I've always had a thing for them.

Enthusiasm is most important of all.

Ponchek2 · 10/05/2021 22:35

@Willow79

I've been told I'm proficient by multiple partners Grin

I honestly think I am just good! I have good rhythm - I am a musician and dancer and I do think there is something in that.

I have always swallowed. Quite surprised to hear so many dont, their choice of course. I pay attention to the head, shaft (love taking in the length of it), stroke the thighs and stomach, and I love the balls. I don't know why, but I've always had a thing for them.

Enthusiasm is most important of all.

@Willow79 are you me? : )
Willow79 · 10/05/2021 23:41

@Ponchek2 having just read your post, I think we may be one Wink

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