Is there such a thing as a bad blowjob?

[Beenawhile1]

Obviously aimed at guys really....

So the question is in the title really! I read the thread about how to give a good BJ but is there such a thing as a bad one? What makes one a good one or not?

I have been told I give the best BJ in the world by a few men. My current partner has slept with a fair share of women but I'm the only one who has made him come through a BJ. Same with ex H. I asked current partner if there's such a thing. Yes, there is. Not going deep enough and going too slowly, no enthusiasm. Not retracting fore skin.

@namechanged9999 well that’s quite a claim to fame!! With regards to not going deep enough.... surely there’s only so much room in your mouth??

Sorry if it’s a proper grim question, maybe one for guys... how far down is best to retract the fore skin? Do all guys want that? I’m not sure I have done that I’m the past... how soon do you retract it??

@xpc316e

There is definitely no such thing as a bad BJ. There are varying degrees of wonderfulness, but for a person to do such an intimate thing to another can never ever be bad.

Disagree with that. The intention might be wonderful but the act can be dreadful. It's how you deal with a bad one that makes it count.

Teeth. The thing about teeth is that at the time you don't realise she's catching you with them. You will the following morning though - and for days afterward !

how far down is best to retract the fore skin? Do all guys want that?

My most recent sexual partner wanted me to keep the tip covered with the foreskin. Which actually made BJ impossible. Then he complained I didn't do them often enough.

Oh Lordy.... so what do you do then if you can’t win either way? Ask them?? @VanGoghsDog do you automatically pull it down then and he said no?

I am SO sorry for asking everyone such personal questions. But it is really helping me feel more confident ... just need opportunity to meet him ASAP!

@Beenawhile1

Oh Lordy.... so what do you do then if you can’t win either way? Ask them?? *@VanGoghsDog* do you automatically pull it down then and he said no?

I automatically pulled it down a bit, but also it moves up and down as you move your mouth or hand.

He just told me he prefers it if the foreskin is kept over the tip. But it's honestly impossible. I spent more time focusing on not moving his foreskin than on anything else. It made me think he actually probably didn't really like BJ. But then I felt I couldn't do them, partly for that reason, and he complained.

The other reason was that he had some erectile dysfunction and it was really tedious sucking and licking this limp thing. Not his fault but pointless for both of us.

@VanGoghsDog

how far down is best to retract the fore skin? Do all guys want that?

My most recent sexual partner wanted me to keep the tip covered with the foreskin. Which actually made BJ impossible. Then he complained I didn't do them often enough.

Not sure if this helps, but when I was in my 20s I would have been nervous about this because my glans was so sensitive. I remember actually preferring sex wearing a condom because otherwise the feelings would be so intense, and not in a good way. Retracting the foreskin always made me a little nervous back then.

He was 61!

He obviously just didn't like what I did, yet wanted me to do it. He was quite whiney generally.
I've only ever had good feedback from other men.

@Blokenamechangesexboard there is no chance of me sleeping with a 20 year old

Maybe I somehow need to ask what the guy likes, how they like it. Just wouldn’t want to put them off

@Willow79 - same same :)

@Blokenamechangesexboard

Retracting the foreskin always made me a little nervous back then.

This is a v good point and I'd forgotten about it. I did know the gland can be v sensitive. Bit like how the clitoris can also. No wonder you felt a bit nervous with it in inexperienced mitts/jaws!!

So - does it desensitise a bit over time and usage?

I'm always naturally rather respectful of it, out of a mixture of thinking it must have been covered up as needs protecting, and just plain awe. ...