Best method for clean sex when I'm on my period - any advice

[4inchheels]

Sorry if this is TMI, or slightly off topic but I'm after some practical advice about soft tampons or anything better.

I have a new man and not seen him for over a week because he has been away on business - he gets back on Saturday and I'd really like to DTD - but I'm due on any day now.

I'm not wanting to start a debate about doing it being icky and smelly or OK not OK and that men should not be squeemish. We will be doing it in his bed and any mess will put me off and I know that it is not really his sort of thing.

Do soft tampons such as www.gynotex.com/ really work? What is the risk of leak or smell? Are they good enough to let him go down on me? Any positions to avoid?

My flow is likely to be heavy-ish (Tampax Super lasts about 4 hours if you get what I mean). He is quite big and we use condoms if that makes any difference.

How long will a soft tampon hold back the tide and will he feel it?

Thanks for any advice from users.

4IH

Ok i ve looked at your link and im presuming that they go at the top near your cervix as it says you cant feel them during intercourse?

How would you remove them? I would be worried about not being able to remove them as they are too far inside you.

Having mess when on a heavy period is inevitable. Its unavoidable im afraid.

If you really want to have sex on a period when you will be heavy ish then i would just put a towel underneath on the bed and just get on with it.

Yep towel and wipes for after. Then a little later, a shower :D

I use a natural sea sponge for this purpose. Well actually i use them instead of tampons as an alternative to a mooncup. But they can be left in during sex and DH has never even noticed.

I find a smallish one will do the job for maybe an hour?

I don't think you'd get away from any smell, and whatever you use to stop the flow I think you'll get some blood.
Probably best to avoid him going down town, but if he's happy with it just lay a towel down. A nice relaxing shower together afterward can be part of the fun

Not an immediate solution for this time, but I have a diaphragm that I no longer need for contraceptive purposes, but is perfect for holding the blood back so I can have sex during my period. I don't like getting blood all over the place - it restricts what I am happy to do, but the diaphragm removes that issue completely.

There is another product called a softcup that I tried, but I hated it.

Why are you so insistent that you make yourself available for penetrative/oral sex ?

I imagine because she finds it pleasurable anyfucker.

Having to plan something so clinically sounds like the least "pleasurable" prospect to me

I love planned sex!
It can be hugely exciting to have the build up, especially when you have had some time apart, knowing that you are going to be having sex later.
Even if we just know that we've got the house to ourselves for a while the next day, we can plan a bit of sex for that time!
Knowing that you are going to have sex does not make it clinical.

Love spontaneous sex too.

How so AF? She wants to have sex and wants to be prepared for it!

Best thing I've found is to go in Bath and douche a little with water - nothing else in it. That pulls out all the blood sitting there. Do this right before and you'll be grand.

You can buy and use things to still have sex when on your period? Blatant placemarking!

Have a hot bath before, that's all.

Place marking for any great suggestions!!

Sea sponges are good OP like a pp suggested.

What on earth is wrong with planning sex?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/2664032-A-pondering-about-the-Sex-topic-and-wider?pg=1&order=

Of we didn't plan sex, we'd never have it. Work, child, tiredness etc etc etc and it all makes spontaneous rutting impossible.

Surely this is what "shower sex" is for?

So that wasn't a thread about individual posters then ?

Menstrual blood and/or water are very ineffective lubricants.

Make yourself available??? What the hell?

AnyFucker if you don't like penetrative sex that's your problem. Or maybe you've never been with a man who's any good at it?

The rest of us who enjoy it, carry on. Personally I find if I take a tampon out right before the act it's ok

Also, taking ibuprofen reduces blood flow.

Have fun op!

Fwiw.
When we dabble with red winging we put a thick towel down and use super drug cherry lube. Why cherry? I don't know, it smells good though.

Loads of foreplay, being very aroused can slow the flow too.