Best method for clean sex when I'm on my period - any advice

[4inchheels]

Sorry if this is TMI, or slightly off topic but I'm after some practical advice about soft tampons or anything better.

I have a new man and not seen him for over a week because he has been away on business - he gets back on Saturday and I'd really like to DTD - but I'm due on any day now.

I'm not wanting to start a debate about doing it being icky and smelly or OK not OK and that men should not be squeemish. We will be doing it in his bed and any mess will put me off and I know that it is not really his sort of thing.

Do soft tampons such as www.gynotex.com/ really work? What is the risk of leak or smell? Are they good enough to let him go down on me? Any positions to avoid?

My flow is likely to be heavy-ish (Tampax Super lasts about 4 hours if you get what I mean). He is quite big and we use condoms if that makes any difference.

How long will a soft tampon hold back the tide and will he feel it?

Thanks for any advice from users.

4IH

i'm going to hazard a guess that this is because you are wrong.

sorry, that was to AF. it's a bit busy in here tonight...

No !

I was matching whiskey 's childish response up thread.

I can't do right on here, can I ?

Yes, I shall endeavour to find out how to hide the topic on my phone. Don't all cheer at once.

What would your answer be to the op, AF, without asking her a question? Genuinely interested

AF. I was being childish because you took the OP's post and turned it into something else. I said "yeah" meaning maybe your input isn't helping so go away. She wanted tips to make it cleaner and you babble on about why she is so desperate to eradicate her period and just because you don't want to engage in something so "clinical", the OP does. So how about give her a tip and if no tip...why post?

I have sex on my period and there's barely ever any blood. Even on a heavy day. It's like it temporarily stops or something during sex.
However there's nothing wrong with not wanting blood everywhere (it stains for one thing)

Why are people talking about a smell, is your period supposed to have a smell!??

Mine does...like a sour ribena type smell

sour Ribena smell lovely!

I am with need though on I cringed about someone's dh giving them oral sex whilst on period, but I wouldn't have sex on my period nor wouldn't dh. Each to their own.

I like when AF posts on threads their responses are usually very to the point and honest which i appreciate on mn

I thought all period blood smells as essentially it is waste and waste never smells partically pleasent?

Maybe it's me? I have a heightened sense of smell or maybe I am the only who does smell in the first place?

No I can smell it too wouldn't describe it as sour Ribena though I don't know how I'd describe it, not nice though very conscious of it

Menstrual blood and/or water are very ineffective lubricants.
So what? No-one had suggested using the blood as a lubricant.

I just wonder why any woman would be so intent on making it "clean"
Because I don't like blood on the sheets, on my/his fingers and body or dripping on the carpet. Does that mean there is something wrong with me?
Neither of us are squeamish, I'm not trying to erase signs of anything, but I do like to cuddle up and go to sleep afterwards, not put a load of washing on!

Perhaps I am alone in seeing a small waving flag here ?
I think you are. You are also the only person who interpreted "I'd really like to DTD" as a woman who was somehow having to make herself available for sex.

I hadn't seen a guy I'd been dating for ages. We went and I must have drank nearly a bottle of wine. Got back, not intending to dtd but we did as went for a wee and there was nothing there. Having researched afterwards alchol Does have an affect.

Or drink a bottle of wine and you'll be past caring

I understand ibuprofen or nurofen can slow the flow by 20-30%. I think it takes a few hours to work but could be worth looking into if you can take it safely.

We tried the sponges. DP could feel it and it tuned out to be a 2 man job to retrieve it!! Finally decided that a bit of blood was fine. DP says he can taste it when I have my period and that's my saliva not anything else. It's not nasty just different.

Thanks for everyone's comments (and the entertaining personality clash with nothing to do with the subject!).
To update you all, I got some Gynotex - not used in proper action yet but I had a "dry (wet?)" run at it last night. Period started late yesterday afternoon so I thought I'd try one out for size.
I had a bath and a good sloosh then inserted Gynotex as high as possible. I was still showing pink on loo paper so I used a tampon to clean out the last bit. It felt fine. I had a cup of tea and then decided to replicate sex with my trusty vibrator (roughly penis sized and cream coloured - so good test). After a bit of warming up full penetration felt fine but there were pink streaks on the vibrator. No strong smell but the vibrator definitely smelt time of the month when close to my nose - so I'll avoid him going down. After a good 10 plus minutes of internal stimulation in lying on back and doggy, no leaks and the pink streaks seemed to disappear. I managed to climax (I have strong vaginal/cervical contractions when I come) - still no leak. I lay in bed for about half an hour and then yanked out the Gynotex which I would say was full and saturated by that time - down the loo it went. Easy to get hold of for removal (2 finger pinch).
I don't think he will notice or feel it (they are very soft - even with deep fingering it is unlikely to get noticed). I'd definitely use with a condom - if he had come on the saturated sponge I think it could have made a red mess in the bed.
I'm going to tell him I'm using one - but it will be all action tonight. I now reocommend them.

If you don't want to use a condom, just stick a towel on the bed.

Or one of those absorbent, disposable changing mats?

New partner,best use a condom!

Ahh I missed the 'new man' bit.

Yes, definitely use a condom.

Crikey that was.....descriptive

That really was a lot of information! It was like an Amazon review

I was reading as am amazed by these sponges never knew they existed!

I can now report that the Gynotex worked well when we dtd - no mess. Biggest problem is to not fall asleep afterwards. I have found that there is another brand called Beppy which is bigger and absorbs more - so might try those. I can recommend Gynotex to anyone that might be inclined to dtd when they are on.