Best method for clean sex when I'm on my period - any advice

[4inchheels]

Sorry if this is TMI, or slightly off topic but I'm after some practical advice about soft tampons or anything better.

I have a new man and not seen him for over a week because he has been away on business - he gets back on Saturday and I'd really like to DTD - but I'm due on any day now.

I'm not wanting to start a debate about doing it being icky and smelly or OK not OK and that men should not be squeemish. We will be doing it in his bed and any mess will put me off and I know that it is not really his sort of thing.

Do soft tampons such as www.gynotex.com/ really work? What is the risk of leak or smell? Are they good enough to let him go down on me? Any positions to avoid?

My flow is likely to be heavy-ish (Tampax Super lasts about 4 hours if you get what I mean). He is quite big and we use condoms if that makes any difference.

How long will a soft tampon hold back the tide and will he feel it?

Thanks for any advice from users.

4IH

I love sex on my period. So does dp.
Towel, shower afterwards. He's not squeamish..will happily go down on me.

It really is a problem on this topic when anyone raises even the smallest question, isn't it ?

Methinks some people do protest too much

I just wonder why any woman would be so intent on making it "clean"

If this was really a fully abandoned sexfest would she be so concerned that her new partner saw and felt no evidence of a perfectly natural female bodily function ?

Why would you want to covered in blood AF?

Of course you want to keep it as clean as possible.

Just stick a sponge up, I've heard that works quite well. Have a good rinse out or stick a towel down and use a condom. Nowt wrong with a bit of crime scene sex if he's up for it. Some men aren't keen.

Perhaps I am alone in seeing a small waving flag here ?

Perhaps the stampede to tell me that I hate sex and have never had a fantastic fuck is somewhat of a distraction

Fwiw I didn't check which topic it was in when I answered a post in active

It really is a problem on this topic when anyone raises even the smallest question, isn't it ?

Depends how that question is posed.
Why are you so insistent that you make yourself available for penetrative/oral sex ?

Sounds a bit accusatory, as though the op is being coerced and used or what have you.

I am not "against" anything

I am asking op (who seems to have disappeared) why pleasing a new partner is such an issue to her

Do people on this thread genuinely have an issue with that ?

Or are they just seeing a sex negative harpy dissing their own choices ?

But she hasn't said that? She wants to shag her partner at the weekend, I imagine because she horny, and wants to know the best way to do it without making a huge mess.

You do tend to come across as very judgemental AF, on this and other threads imo.

** threads on the sex board.

I am asking op (who seems to have disappeared) why pleasing a new partner is such an issue to her

Why is the op pleasing her partner even a question to ask? She presumably loves him, hasn't seen him for a while, would like to fuck him. Pleasure for her and him. I'm not seeing a sex negative harpy, but certainly an odd stance.

I do lots of things to pleasure my partner, not just in the bedroom, isn't what being in a happy healthy relationship is about?

I am asking her if that is the case, because the op is all about how to erase any evidence of her period from the perspective of her new partner

Dame....why would you bring up "other threads" ?

I'd suggest you go for other options instead of PIV

Would you go on the pill? Then you can run packs together to miss a period next time.

But as someone who has heavy flow I just wouldn't risk it.

Interesting question and answers. Thanks OP

Is the sex topic the only one where everyone has to be in complete agreement then ?

Only "you for it girl" type responses are acceptable then ?

I didn't get that memo...although that is certainly the prevailing message I am getting

I don't think "You go girl" type responses are all that's needed, neither are the "why must you satisfy your man" type message either.

"I'd like advice on period sex"
Should be replied with advice on period sex, not questioning motives, accusing people of "making themselves available" so on and o on.

If you want on to the cooking thread and someone wanted a beef recipe would you ask them why they feel the need to cook?

Dame....why would you bring up "other threads" ?

You asked if people saw a 'sex negative harpie' and I replied that imo you come across as very judgemental on the sex board.