Porn and new od

[spankingnewme]

Met a guy online, all going well. Tried couple new things as he obviously was into them anal being one. Liked him a lot so tried more than once dispite it never being on my to do list and found it ok but nowhere near as pleasurable as normal sex which I love. Anyway had a very rare wknd away together and he'd bought me a couple of pairs of sexy undies and some anal beads, also we watched some porn, which I don't usually but after he was asleep I carried on flipping through clips and found the most revolting things like women being as they called it 'face fucked' till they puked omg it was vile and I wish I could unsee what these stupid women were letting be done to them ( they did not look like trafficked women just normal porn 'stars') anyway it's tainted my view on him and his porn usage, if he watches this stuff which I'm sure he does and explains why he likes the cum in your face thing, then he's just going to want more and more isn't he? Gutted as he seemed ok, bloody pissed off this filth is on the net as it has no place and the men should be fuckin well castrated.

I'm going to draw a line under this attempt at a relationship anyway. And very interesting that maybe I identify with the feeling used and abused thing too, it definitely hit a nerve for me, and am I really the only one? I mean really I will watch slightly rough stuff but I really don't see what kind of audiences these clips are aimed at?! In my mind it's the totally perverted dirty old man or maybe not even old. And also the girls are made to look young ok so we all know they can't go around doing this to any young girls they meet but do they? And should this stuff really be normalised?? I am actually feeling so sad for my children growing up in this world. Will definitely work on my own self esteem in every area so I can build my daughters too would be devastated if she started going for these women hating men. Because that is what they seem to be to me.. But if anyone here wants to defend the stuff or explain why they get off on it then I'd be intrigued to hear.

Bloody hell I've lead a sheltered life.

If stuff like this is the new 'normal' i am more than happy to be viewed as abnormal.

I might change my user name to Mr Magnolia.

Good luck Spanking concentrate on the newme part of your name.
Look into the Freedom programme.

What is face fucked? Is it oral?

Face fucking is exactly as it sounds. Violent oral sex until the woman vomits in tears usually.

Oh and I did do some research before posting which is what led me to be angry at the women aswel as they get paid much more to do this extreme stuff, yes brilliant for the rest of us and the next generation growing up watching this garbage. Lovely to hear from a bloke who has never heard of this stuff, I'm literally looking at men differently as someone else said, and yes I know that's stupid as hopefully it's just a sick minority into this kind of thing, oh and no I don't write (normal read) the mail as I find it all either propaganda bullshit or the kind of depressing stuff I just don't want to read about, who wants to read about some paedo that rapes babies for pleasure then usually gets a smack on the wrist by some corrupt judge and released to re offend? If child pornography is wrong and these women really are 'victims' in it then why is it allowed?

That should say nor read not normal!

Yes those women really should know better! If it wasn't for them the whole porn industry would not be successful!

I find your attitude abhorrent, to be blaming the women involved as they get paid a lot, shouldn't facilitate etc is narrow minded and quite honestly unbelievable.

I'm not just blaming the women the men doing it are OBVIOUSLY to blame too and I do include them in the sick in the head category. I would have thought that was obvious but maybe not.

Face fucking is exactly as it sounds. Violent oral sex until the woman vomits in tears usually.
That's not a fair representation of what face fucking is. It isn't always violent and I have never seen it result in vomiting. I don't doubt that it happens sometimes, but you said "usually", and it is definitely unusual.
It's putting the man in control of the blow job so he is thrusting rather than the woman controlling it.
A lot of women like it (yes I do), but it relies on a very trusting relationship so he knows when to stop.

I agree that a lot of porn has normalised acts that used to be niche. That doesn't make the acts themselves wrong but it has skewed some men's perspective of what they can expect from sex. Women need to have the confidence to make their opinions clear and if you don't want to do something, don't do it! And if you do it and don't like it, tell him you don't like it and don't want to do it again.
You can't control porn but you can control you.

Ive not watched a lot of face fucking porn, only as part of documentaries etc but the woman choking, vomitting and in tears is very much a feature.
Real sex at home is obviously different to porn.

OP, your crazy.

Whatto dowith poo no I don't think so Im just realising there are a lot more fucking crazy sick people in the world than I realised, on here included! I'm not bothered by men in control of blow jobs, this was literally women spewing, choking etc and very violent. It's eye opening how many on here think it's fine and dandy, explains a lot of what's wrong in the world.

If the men are in control of the blow jobs and the porn is made primarily by men and for men how can you 'not be bothered' by the men involved?

You have some serious woman hating going on there, OP.

OP, you're coming across as being not quite the brightest candle on the cake here.

I think you're angry with yourself for engaging in things you didn't enjoy. You need to address that rather than being so angry at women in pornography.

Whatto dowith poo no I don't think so Im just realising there are a lot more fucking crazy sick people in the world than I realised, on here included! I'm not bothered by men in control of blow jobs, this was literally women spewing, choking etc and very violent. It's eye opening how many on here think it's fine and dandy, explains a lot of what's wrong in the world.

You are completely proving my point.
You are making a lot of assumptions and judging people very harshly on them, it appears you have no ability to reason or discuss and I would say that people that can't reason are what is wrong with the world.
Please don't think this is a debate argument or discussion this is a simple comment on you and is not up for debate.

It's eye opening how many on here think it's fine and dandy, explains a lot of what's wrong in the world.
Where has anyone posted to say it's all fine and dandy?
You made some rather bizarre links and people disagreed with that.
This is certainly not the cause of all the world's wrongs!

Lilac where do I say I'm not bothered by the men involved?? These are the ones I say need castrating, they obviously don't know what their cocks are for if they're busy choking women with them. I don't hate women at all. I'm getting a bit bored of all the nonsense replies to this though, not many brain cells between the lot of you. I'm not overly bothered by having tried new things and not saying I wouldn't repeat some of them, my main concern is the violence involved in some of this porn. I m actually in defence of women in saying there is something wrong with it, but if you disagree let's hope your daughters end up with one of these fine men.

Now you're just being goady.

Saying you hope people's daughters end up with the kind of man you voluntarily hooked up with is disgusting. You are an adult who went willingly into a sexual relationship with a dickhead you met online. You have posted quite recently about how you think he drugged you and now you have started this thread about willingly engaging in sexual acts that you wish you hadn't. Then you've bizarrely blamed female port stars for the behaviour of your sexual partner.

And now you're wishing nastiness on other posters daughters?

Nice.

Whatto no you are right I stand by my beliefs and I won't change my opinion on what I deem sick and wrong. I can take on board the comment if a woman consents it's ok, but at the same time others are saying she's the victim??!

Haha yes it gets you thinking when it's closer to home rather than some unknown woman doesn't it. People need to wake up and see the connection. Or carry on defending these scum.

No one is defending anyone.

A lot of us have said that porn is made mostly by men for men but you've blamed the women involved.

Don't try to make out you're on some great feminist crusade when you've made ridiculous statements about 'peedos' and people's daughters.

The op has had a shock.

So she's not as articulate as she might be, so what?

Yes op, there is a lot of porn out there that focuses on acts that hurt women and there are a lot of women who jump in very quickly to defend it.

What people choose to do with a partner within their own 4 walls is up to them.

My partner and I have joked in the past about the fact that when I deep throat him while I can control the gagging my eyes stream. Anyone seeing me would think I was crying. Am I being abused - no. Is he forcing me to do something against my will - no. It's just an involuntary reaction.

Weve also tried blow jobs where I've let him take control again completely consentual. There's no way by any stretch of the imagination he's abusive or coercive.

Personally I'm not into porn but I'm happy to be experimental. It's not up to one person to dictate what's 'normal' & what's not

Whatto no you are right I stand by my beliefs and I won't change my opinion on what I deem sick and wrong. I can take on board the comment if a woman consents it's ok, but at the same time others are saying she's the victim??!
It is not a 1 size fits all situation you have shown vitriol for absolutely everyone involved you said porn leads people to being paedophiles you said the men should be castrated and the women are nasty shits.
Not everyone is a victim but some are, not everyone is abusive but some are.
Your inability to use reason and label people so hatefully and ignorantly is making you look crazy.