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School skirts? Why is it such an issue?

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jobadoo · 26/02/2023 14:04

I don't have daughters and my sons are still at primary school so I don't understand why secondary school girls' skirts are such a massive issue that there are silly measuring by ruler and pupils protests and drastic school decisions to remove skirts from uniforms??

What's the solution?

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BungleandGeorge · 26/02/2023 17:31

The kids are anxious on non uniform days because they have a single day where they’re judged by their clothing. Funnily enough there’s no anxiety when they’re meeting friends/ going to clubs etc, they’re pretty much all in some type of trousers and hoodies etc!

TheExistentialistCafé · 26/02/2023 17:32

School uniform is archaic.

user1471427614 · 26/02/2023 17:37

Fredoraly · 26/02/2023 16:07

I have no idea why we insist on school uniform. Kids should be able to wear what they want.

One reason is because it equalis everyone and makes school about the learning and not which kids can afford the most expensive brands

hazelnutlatte · 26/02/2023 17:39

I went to Rainford High in the 90's (the school on the news.) I wore a short skirt because that was what everyone else was wearing and it was what teenagers do.
No one could care less. I managed to pass my GCSE's. No one complained about being distracted/ damaging reputation of the school etc.
I don't know why it's such a big issue now, surely the school has more important things to focus on!

daisypond · 26/02/2023 17:46

All school uniforms should be sportswear -tracksuit tops in school colours/logo and jogging bottoms. Same for boys and girls. No shirts, blazers, ties, skirts or trousers. Loose fitting, practical, not too short, too tight, too long. Available from any supermarket, so cheap. Branded and logo tracksuit top if school wants.

Dotcheck · 26/02/2023 17:46

CrankyP · 26/02/2023 14:49

If a female CEO turned up to a board meeting in a micro mini and blouse buttons undone most people would think that it is pretty odd. It’s her choice, but still if she was considering doing that, most people would advise against it. Kids, girls, don’t understand what other people think. It’s our job to tell them how not to make a fool of themselves. Sometimes, you need to make rules and enforce them went they won’t be told. I think this is one of those cases.

I know people roll out this reason, but I don’t think it’s true. Many schools in the world don’t have uniform, yet people manage to learn how to dress in a professional environment.

There are many things school doesn’t teach, but people still manage to learn

CrankyP · 26/02/2023 17:51

What kind of rebellion is it to show your knickers to the world? This isn’t Tehran. It’s pathetic.

ShowOfHands · 26/02/2023 18:07

BungleandGeorge · 26/02/2023 17:31

The kids are anxious on non uniform days because they have a single day where they’re judged by their clothing. Funnily enough there’s no anxiety when they’re meeting friends/ going to clubs etc, they’re pretty much all in some type of trousers and hoodies etc!

But when they're meeting friends/going clubbing, they're with peers and ones who can afford to go out and go clubbing. Believe me, the students who don't come in on non uniform days or sit in the pastoral office having a panic attack, tell us they're happy to wear uniform. And our year 11s and heads team voted only recently, in a mock parliament and keeping the uniform was passed by them.

lljkk · 26/02/2023 18:07

More expensive brands have length options, but supermarket brands don't.

I sell for charity, £2 each, preloved school skirts with variable waists & length, on ebay. Check it out...

The Rainford school ones are £20 new at Slaters, looks like you can buy same style on ebay new for £9 each. I imagine there's a local parents group selling them on for less preloved.

JustAnotherManicNameChange · 26/02/2023 18:08

What I would like to know is exactly how many girls show their knickers or bum cheeks in any given school. Is it actually a significant number/the majority or is it one of those situations based mostly on assumptions and "silly" girls?

I went to a highschool with very lax uniform rules. I can remember about 5 girls (in the whole school) wearing very short skirts, the vast majority wore jeans.

ShowOfHands · 26/02/2023 18:21

Nearly every girl wears a skirt. Probably 90% say. Years 7 and 8 don't really roll up skirts but years 9+, I'd say at least 75% do it. To a length where they can't comfortably sit cross-legged or bend over to retrieve something from the floor. Wearing the skirt the regulation length is desperately uncool. We even have shorts as an option. One person wears them. One.

HighRopes · 26/02/2023 19:18

My experience of a non uniform school is that hardly any girls wear skirts, its all jeans and leggings, and skirt length just isn’t an issue. In fact, the PE uniform skorts are by far the shortest skirt I’ve seen any of them wear, and unless the weather is really hot they mostly seem to put leggings underneath the skort.

I don’t think you can compare non-uniform to mufti days - its very different if you can spend the money you would have spent on school uniform on more home clothes and if you see people in their non uniform clothes all the time.

Newbutoldfather · 26/02/2023 19:26

This is such a vexed issue now.

If you have a uniform, you somehow need to enforce it. And, even if you don’t, most schools will ask 6th formers to dress professionally.

on the other hand, skirt inspections should be a thing of the past. But, if you do nothing, some of the girls actually show their bum.

I do think that only the worst offenders should be dealt with (and you really don’t need a test for these, it is nakedly obvious,).

I think tutors should have a quiet one to one word with these and ask them to dress professionally. Only if girls fail after this should they be sanctioned.

The fair alternative is trousers for all, but I know many don’t approve of this either.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 26/02/2023 19:44

When I was at secondary school back in the late 90s if your skirt was too short you were asked to roll it down. If it was too short even after it was rolled down then you were taken to the office to sort through the lost property/spares box to find a suitable skirt to wear. No one wanted to wear the scabby spares so it worked pretty well as a deterrent. Not a 100% success rate there were always the few who were determined but it was enough to put most people off. I'm pretty sure the office staff deliberately only kept the odd/ugly/wrong coloured spares in the box so that it would be even more off putting to wear as it would be obvious to everyone.

snowtrees · 26/02/2023 20:03

My DD Yr8 never ever wears skirts or dresses. Trousers to school tho only when very cold. She does what every other 12-15 year old does and wears a rolled up skirt. With shorts underneath

snowtrees · 26/02/2023 20:04

Sorry. No skirts ever out of school.
School = rolled up skirts as that's what 90% do

PotKettel · 26/02/2023 20:10

My dd is at a girls school. Choice of skirt or trousers. Only about 3% wear trousers and most of them are covering up for religious reasons. Most girls roll their skirts short.

The solution is: They have to wear opaque tights.

My dd has to wear a skirt because she is slender and tall and the uniform trousers won’t fit.

Kranke · 26/02/2023 20:13

We could wear trousers or skirts at school. I wore both, later proffered skirts and always rolled my skirt up. I used to wear black trainers instead of the usual black shoes (when I wore trousers and would cover them). It was rebellion! Blimey, just a little bit of freedom and no harm was done. When something is forbidden at that age, it makes it more exciting. I used to hear stories from my great grandmother who did the same. We had to wear ties, which was silly and had to wear a jumper in winter. I rebelled then saying I was too hot, and just wore my shirt! That was a bonkers rule too.

Kranke · 26/02/2023 20:16

Also my netball skirt was indecent. But that was regulation. We wore big pants obviously, but the skirts were pleated so they always went up and the majority of the time you could see our pants.

JaninaDuszejko · 26/02/2023 20:24

I do worry about how impractical and sometimes, risky their tiny rolled up skirts are. It's pretty risky in food tech and science for example

I am a scientist. We wear labcoats in the labs to protect ourselves. In reality there's nothing in the least bit dangerous done in school science lessons but making the kids wear LEP and labcoats (or aprons in food tech) would teach good safety practice.

Rolled up skirts is one of the reasons I hate school uniform, it's so sexualised. Soon as they go to 6th form they wear nothing but jeans, trainers and baggy jumpers. Which is exactly what I wore to my (non-uniform) school back in the 80s.

My kids school allow girls to wear trousers, very few do because they don't like the fit. DD2 refuses to wear school trousers because she's curvy and petite and they are too baggy at the waist and too tight over her bum (she's a size 8). At weekends she wears leggings or petite mum jeans which suit her shape.

JaninaDuszejko · 26/02/2023 20:26

During the pandemic the DDs has to wear PE kit on the days they had PE, they much preferred it.

Topnun · 26/02/2023 20:28

I think uniforms are good overall, as long as they are actually affordable which isn't always the case. Girls should be allowed to wear trousers. Sure enough girls have always rolled their skirts up, it's pathetic though.

Iamnotthe1 · 26/02/2023 20:31

ShowOfHands · 26/02/2023 18:21

Nearly every girl wears a skirt. Probably 90% say. Years 7 and 8 don't really roll up skirts but years 9+, I'd say at least 75% do it. To a length where they can't comfortably sit cross-legged or bend over to retrieve something from the floor. Wearing the skirt the regulation length is desperately uncool. We even have shorts as an option. One person wears them. One.

In our local, the Y7s and Y8s roll as well. Some of my Y6 girls even tried to get involved with it last year. It's about "the look" and it's seen as something all the girls do as a sign of maturity and being "ready" for secondary and boys.

Schools are getting harsher on this because, in recent years, in response to the Everyone's Invited movement, things have changed. Schools have been made responsible for removing any "sexualised banter" or talk as well as preventing those behaviours and attitudes developing in the children.

They are now judged on how well they do this and an environment where underwear and bum cheeks are visible in the corridors, classrooms and on the stairs, is not deemed acceptable.

Crabo · 26/02/2023 20:33

This is an ancient chestnut. Girls since the 60s have always had a desire to shorten their skirts as a way of rebellion. Pity the teachers who had to enforce the rules! Interesting that the girls who were told to wear trousers instead insisted it was their ‘right’ as girls to wear skirts! But while kids are rebelling this way they are not doing anything worse.

snowtrees · 26/02/2023 20:34

A friend of mine has a yr8 at an expensive private school with knee length A line tartan skirts. She's not skinny. Poor child looks like a sack of spuds.

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