11+ waiting for results

[Mumoftwinsandanother]

Hi there

My twins have both taken the 11+ in Bucks today. Results come out on 13th October, I think. It could really go either way for both of them. My biggest fear is that one gets in and the other does not (really quite possible).
Saw that last year there was a thread from parents during the waiting period and I wondered if anyone wanted to take part in a hand holding thread this year (for any county). Obviously have to be very careful what I say to DTs so would be useful to vent here.

Anyone else in similar position?

Congratulations to everyone who has received the good news.

And thank you Taffeta for offer of help!

I'm none of the wiser what it comes to choosing the school. We visited Judd this morning and as much as I was looking forward to it, I didn't come out hugely impressed or excited. I think it was the other parents who put me off in the end. As at the end of the tour, there was free mingling in the hall with refreshments and members of staff available to answer questions. You should have seen the elbowing to get to talk to the admissions lady. She was surrounded by this type of parent six people deep. I gave up in the end.

Helipad, we visited Judd today too, and I know what you mean! Though, given the general atmosphere around the 11+ in Kent, it perhaps shouldn't come as a surprise .

Gongrats to everyone who passed and hugs and comfort for all the kids, who failed. It just one (stupid) test

We had the (expected) results. One twin has a very high score and will get a place in whatever school we choose and the other twin has a borderline score. For entry 2018 he would have been in, for 2017 entry not. We don't know before March.
We hope to get the results for the other school destrict tomorrow (posted 2nd class on Tuesday).

Congrats not Gongrats

I don't know what to do. My child has qualified for a grammar but not one close by. It's about an hour on the bus (half an hour in the car). An outstanding school is five minutes walk from us so for me that's the obvious choice. But she seems to have set her heart on the grammar! How do I persuade her out of it??

@Exexexcel is it an easy bus ride? And regular so if she wants to do before and after school stuff?

What time would she have to get up and get home then maybe an hours homework etc.

It is a big lifestyle change if she's that far away but not too bad if easy journey on a bus. But I always think in middle of winter and dark and cold it's a different story.

My daughter got 331 for colchester girls.

*Exexexcel", you have to be the adult! A 10 year old has no concept of these things. There is a huge advantage to being close by for friends & after school activities.

But she seems to have set her heart on the grammar! How do I persuade her out of it??

I would say you don't. You tell her she's travelling there herself. You explain that she will have less time/her friends will live further away. Then if she still wants to, you let her.

If you "persuade" her not to she may feel resentful-she did the work, she passed, you didn't let her-even if she agrees in principal she'll potentially resent it.

But also if it doesn't work out, by the sound of it you should be reasonably high on the waiting list. She can then potentially transfer. If the local school doesn't work out, she probably won't get a second shot at the grammar.

don't know what to do. My child has qualified for a grammar but not one close by...

... But she seems to have set her heart on the grammar! How do I persuade her out of it??.

Presumably, she sat a test which in theory gave her access to that grammar and at least one other which was easier to get to, but in light of her results, the one you don't want her to go to was the only one for which she qualified? Otherwise, why make her sit the entrance exam, if you had no intention of letting her go to the school?

@Exexexcel we effectively were in the same position last month.DS was allocated the comprehensive, a 20 minute cycle away, rated outstanding. Then in the 1st week of term we got a call from the grammar offering him a place from the waiting list. T hats a 50 minute door to door journey, bike plus train. Put on the spot. He wanted to stay at the comprehensive. We had the weekend to think about it and what we did was ask him to remember the prep he’d done and the reasons for doing the tests. He chose the grammar and hasn’t looked back.

Wish I'd found this post weeks ago. my son sat the 11+ for local grammars. Got the results yesterday and to be in with a chance you have to get a top 500 score. He got low 400s so in theory has "passed" but just need to wait now until march to find out if he has a spot at one of the schools.

(2 schools each take 160...just hoping some only put 1 of the schools or want other grammar schools. Last year his score would have got him a place)

I wanted to have a good back up option in case for some weird reason we didn't get the local school. I wasn't expecting her to want that one more! Anyway, we talked about it again today. I went over what the journey would be like, that it'd be public transport not the school bus if she wanted to stay late for a club/match, that her friends wouldn't be local to home - the points raised on here basically (thank you!). Nothing doing. Then I made sure she knew that in terms of results the schools are equal... And that seemed to be the reason because after that she agreed that the closer one made more sense. So I think we're nicely aligned now

And yes I know I can 'just be the parent' etc but I like to understand the reasoning that goes on in her head and make sure she understands mine. Everyone wins.