Sixth-form girl living alone

[BoboChic]

Do you think that a private mixed sixth form should admit a new pupil who will be living alone in a small rented apartment during the week, returning home to her parents at the weekend?

Your friends are deluded and looking for a scapegoat.

I'm quite sure the teens involved are lying through their teeth or at best obfuscating about what exactly went on. If it hadn't been this girls flat, trust me, it would have been somewhere else. Teens have always partied and shagged.

Just one other thing. What's an official party?

Official party = one planned in advance with invitations and probably needing to inform parents where you are (as opposed to improvised parties where people hang out and pretend to their parents that they are at play rehearsal/MUN/tennis)

In answer you your question to me ill ask you one. Does that mean my living situation is not optimal? I don't shout from the roof tops that dh is working away for security reasons? I tell Dd not to answer the door if I'm dropping her brother at swimming she is old enough to be left alone I'd just rather not advertise that she is.
Not advertising these things is not because it's not optimal it's being sensible even if that reason is simply that is has bugger all to do with anyone else who lives with who.
Incidentally I agree with the people that say it's the parents fault for not having a clue where their own children were and what they were up to and it's an easy scape goat to blame the girl living alone that isn't there now than blame themselves or blame the school for that cohort not doing as well in their exams. It does sound like blatant snobbery.

So let me just check I got this right.

Tarquinius didn't get into an RG and had to go to a former poly but it's not his fault, it's the fault of that Tracey off the council estate who went and got ideas above her station and got into a (grossly oversubscribed) private school whereupon she opened a cheap rate knocking shop and boozer over the Chippy?

You did state during the week. Which make your claims even more farcical.

That the parents of the cohort didn't know their kids are out till all hours mid week, and not being able to keep up with their work. And then just failed their actual exams. Or did parents actually get a heads up from the teachers that their children were not hitting their grades (given that they were so great at GCSE level), and the parents just buried their heads because they can't say 'no' to their offspring.

Either way, it all smells. And points the finger even more at the parents for not knowing where their kids were on school nights.

No, nothing like that Annesmyth. The girl's parents were very well off.

So why the emphasis on her state background?

The reason Tarquinius didn't get into his RG is because little old Tarquinius didn't get his finger out his arse. Whether he wasn't bright enough, or lacked motivation, the responsibility lies with little old Tarquinius and his parents. Who had no idea where the fuck he was all week when he was busy a'drinking and a'shagging.

Ps. It's the unofficial parties you need to know about. Fuck all ever happens at the official ones. Officially.

We'll get the 'she's the daughter of famous parents' next...

Official parties are where teens tell their parents where they are while unofficial ones are where they lie about their whereabouts... Who knew!

I assumed weekends because of the parties, weekday parties are quite rare afaik.

I don't think there is any emphasis on the state background (I think it was a RC school, if that makes any difference).

Weekday parties hardly ever happened when DD and DS were at school / tech. Actually Friday night hardly ever because of sport matches on sat am. Was usually sat night.

I don't know the ins and outs of what was happening. I have heard a lot of quotes from former pupils and I am that such things could carry on under the radar of school. Parents not o much because school was not communicating well with the parent body (certainly not by my standards).

Why do you care? Genuinely.

Loads of stuff happens under the radar of schools all the time. Seriously. Were you never 17/18?

I don't care. I am, however, interested in the management of schools and of children.

The parents of all the other kids had a duty of care to their own children. They had a duty to know where they were and what they were doing. All those parents failed in that.

The girl and the school are not responsible.

I might as well blame my school for me layering my car on a beach at a party age 17. An unofficial party no less. And a man with a tractor had to pull me out. My mum and dad never knew about that either.

The parents fulfilled their duty of care towards their own DC in accordance with the ecosystem of the school as they knew it. Only one year group has had this issue.

Wow. This is some Chinese whispers, gossiping, elitist BS, finger pointing and general looking for blame for their own piss poor parenting if ever I saw it.

The parents fulfilled their duty of care towards their own DC in accordance with the ecosystem of the school as they knew it.

Is there an award for most waffle, least meaningful statement?

No they didn't. If they had, they'd have known where their kids were and what they were doing. For a whole year. Two years. In a knocking shop cum speakeasy.

And all that because of a girl living alone

How would the parents of the girls in the year not notice all the make upping and hair drying and general bling every other night in the week and not say "catch yourself on you're not going out again you were out last night"

Why are the parents abdicating all responsibility to the school and the poor girl from the state sector?