"At least one parent educated past statutory school leaving age and in a professional/semi professional job, books in the house, meals round the table, occasional broadsheet newspaper in the house. Probably but not necessarily not on FSM."
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See this is what really pisses me off in the anti-grammar argument and the idea that all those terrible "middle class" (yuck, spit!) kids need a "reality check".
Books in the house and meals round the table are a CHOICE that some families make because (a) it's the lifestyle they want to live, and (b) it's the way they think children should be brought up. Books are not expensive, and given the ubiquitous presence of plasma TVs and games consoles in the majority of so-called "working class" households I very much doubt that money is the reason some children are exposed to them as normal and some aren't. "Meals round the table" cost no more bloody money to buy or cook than the same meals eatern in front of the TV. What they "cost" is the will to raise a family to be inquisitive, articulate people engaged in life with other humans. If you want to call that a "cost" - for me it is the great joy of being a parent and a privilege I could never repay.
I'm really sick of hearing about how, because I've raised my kids to read, think, debate, delay gratification, eat properly, relate to other people and not just mong out like lumps of jelly in front of a PSP 24 hours a day, they're undeserving recipients of some kind of "middle class" (yuck, spit!) privilege and need to be brought down a peg a two by having those qualities beaten out of them by kids whose parents were too lazy or uninterested to stimulate them in the first place.
If the families sending kids to secondary moderns want their kids to enjoy, respect and value learning, then it's up to THEM to bring them up that way and carry those values over into their school life. It's not up to me to do it for them - Christ, being a parent to two kids is hard enough. And it's certainly not up to my kids to do it for them.
The idea that this is about money and privilege is just an evasion of responsibility. In the London borough where we lived before moving to a grammar area, both my neighbours were builders and earned far more than me and my wife, both professionals. (Anyone seen what builders earn in London!) My DC's class at school was full of kids whose parents were on benefits, yet only about a third of the class could ever actually get to school on time. Question: What make a person on benefits, with no job, so busy that they can't get their kids to school?
These are questions of values and will, not money. Don't get me wrong, I vote Labour and support the welfare state enthusiastically. I would gladly pay more tax for full-on, committed programs to target the issue of disengagement from education that many of these kids inherit from their parents. But I won't accept that my child doesn't have the right to be in an environment where his qualities are valued and nurtured, and should instead just waste his time learning nothing at secondary the same as he did at primary.
Which is what happened. So don't tell me it's my middle class (yuck, spit!) imagination.