If there are no grammar schools the top sets of the comprehensive are just like the grammar school. They don?t lose all work ethic because they have to mix with the less bright DC in the dinner queue or on the hockey pitch. It is ?cool? to be bright-how is it going to be ?cool? for the top end of the school to be jobless? They are not stupid! If they are in the top set and someone disillusioned and disruptive thinks they are a ?geek? or ?swot? or whatever why would they care?-they know the person is a loser with no prospects. They are secure in the fact that they are not alone, and they are the winners. They are not going to give up aims of a top university because some idiot thinks education isn?t ?cool?! (of course you will get it in the worst schools, one DC can?t stand out alone, but where there are no grammar schools you are talking about a huge top end of bright motivated DCs).
I don't think there's any point arguing about all this as we're talking about experiences. I've already described some of the problems with my DC's community primary, and there are plenty of parents of children in secondary comprehensives, in non-selective areas, who describe the same thing. To which your reply is to insist that we must be imagining it because you have some extraordinary omniscient knowledge of all the comprehensives in the country and are in a position to tell us that it can't possibly be that way.
I'm not for a moment suggesting that my experiences stands for everybody - and indeed I've already said I'd be very happy with a good comprehensive if I lived in an area that had them. But if you're not even prepared to accept that people have the experience they do, because you are so attached to your theory of how it works in an ideal world, then there's not much more to say. I could come up with a similar model of how well selection works for everybody in an ideal world, but I won't bother because you're clearly set on the double standard of judging selection by reality, but non-selection by ideal theory.
In the old days of pass or fail, I did feel a failure. Not through my parents, who firstly looked at private but couldn?t afford it, and then made the plan of grammar school 6th form, or the secondary modern where the attitude was ?you are just as good and can do anything? or through my friends at the secondary modern, all A stream and very bright-it came through society as a whole. If I told people what I wanted to do ?when grown up? I got ?can you still do that?? so I gave up explaining-it was easier to say ?I haven?t decided?. It seemed that year 6 the world was my oyster but year 7 the height of my ambition was supposed to be shop assistant! I wanted to scream ?I am the same person!!?
That all makes sense. But it really isn't like that any more. I don't know anyone who broadly writes children off just because they're not at grammar school. And if they transfer to a grammar 6th form and take their A Levels there, noone's even going to know what they did before that or care, anyway.
You're arguing about a social phenomenon that you're stuck in from the past. I'm sorry you can't get beyond it but that's not a basis for dealing with the present.
The stereotypes annoy me-I expect most people reading this have a picture of a secondary modern-most probably a 50s or 60s rundown concrete block-mine was an old country house set in parkland. The library was the old library when it was a private mansion-oak book cases, floor to ceiling with library steps to reach the top. The music room was superb, the old dining room with a curved outer wall, huge windows with shutters looking over the garden, the art block was the old stables. People should forget all the worst films and news items they have seen and leave the stereotypes behind!
This is truly bizarre. You vehemently condemn the selective system for not offering a decent education to all the kids at secondary moderns, and in the same breath wax lyrical about how fantastic your secondary modern was, and how you went on to go to university and do all the same stuff anyway. You do realise you completely demolish your own case like this?
If the sterotypes annoy you, then it might make sense to drop them and move on, like the rest of us.