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ElephantOfRisk · 18/10/2021 16:31

I'm in the car reading a few threads where folks are fed up with the misery and fighting so thought I'd start a new thread. Not for politics or covid or fighting , just general stuff 🙂

I've had a nice day, off work on hols so we took a wee drive down to Peebles and had lunch, bought a few pies from lovely butcher and now heading home.

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Scottishskifun · 25/10/2021 13:13

@GrouchyKiwi I think I would give them the option blow up mattress downstairs or finding accommodation but be clear that DD room is no longer a option but would be clear in the next day to give them time.

GrouchyKiwi · 25/10/2021 13:15

My 5 year old would cope quite well with the adult sized one, Elephant, if that helps.

DD1 is 9 (the other two are 7 and 5), and this seems to be the age where difficulties become more obvious for girls with ASD. I'm honestly not sure whether PIL would be upset; they should understand given their experience, but you never know. DH doesn't think it's necessary to ask them to stay elsewhere but we've not had a proper chance to talk it over yet.

We used to have a sofa bed but had to get rid of that when MIL sent us a piano we told her we didn't want - and we couldn't send it back since a friend had brought it up (was a nightmare, I was so mad) and MIL hadn't told us she had done it.

Anyway. I've been thinking about other options. We could maybe play a little bit of musical bedrooms, put the younger two together and DD1 into DD3's room, which might work.

DD3 has a Hemnes day bed from IKEA, which is supposed to pull out into a double, but we've never managed to get it to pull out. That's the problem with DH and me making kitset furniture. Grin Will see if I can get that to work and maybe PIL could sleep in there instead.

There's a Travelodge close to us, and they can borrow one of our cars, so it would be OK from a logistics perspective.

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 13:56

Mine would also have been fine @GrouchyKiwi but my DC were generally two years bigger than average. Saw Dnephew recently and he's really slight. I also feel a bit sad giving him a plain one when his sisters have patterned ones. I have ordered some plain ones for older boy DC on my side of the family but those were in their football colours and little DNephew isn't into football of anything yet, i'd ordered one with space type theme. I'll need to decide over the next couple of days.

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sartorius · 25/10/2021 14:11

Oh @GrouchyKiwi I feel your pain about having items foisted on you! My DM (god rest her soul) used to do this to us with assorted furniture from relatives which were "such a good make/antique" whatever we just had to have it!
The worst was a telephone table, think 1972 vintage Hmm
Not only did no-one want use a telephone table any more, but it was designed to go in a hall.
And we had more of a bottom of the stairs than a hall.

Still, at least she never landed a piano on usConfused

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 25/10/2021 16:35

Can you cancel the child one and look elsewhere for a suitable sized @ElephantOfRisk?

I think I'll make a start on some Christmas shopping tonight, I'm usually well on the way by now but have barely bought anything except some fizz and ordered the turkey!

WeeTattieBogle · 25/10/2021 19:22

@GrouchyKiwi

Enjoy your quiet day KobraKai.

Hope your run went well prettybird.

We have no plans really, just the usual daily grind. The in-laws are supposed to be coming to stay next week (not sure when they're arriving or for how long), but we're dealing with some very difficult behaviour from DD1, whose room they usually sleep in when they stay, so I'm thinking about asking them to get accommodation instead.

We think DD1 is on the spectrum (DH and his brother are, though DH has mostly been able to "grow out of it" as he terms it), but have no formal diagnosis. She's really struggling to control emotions and has been hurting her sisters. Sad I don't want to leave her without her safe space even for a few days.

Would you be upset if asked to stay elsewhere in those circumstances? I'm really not sure what to do.

I wouldn’t be upset at all.

I frequently have to say to family (and friends) that their sibling is too unstable to have a house full of people around him and that I’m pulling the drawbridge up for however long it takes for him to be on an even keel again.

No one is ever anything but understanding.

dementedpixie · 25/10/2021 19:46

I got my drive powerwashed today. Poor guy got rained on a lot. He needs to come back on a dry day to resand it so God knows when that will be. My drive looks much better although there was a lot of mess during the process; up my windows and doors. Luckily he also cleans windows so he sorted that mess out Grin

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 20:06

@WhatWouldTheDoctorDo

Can you cancel the child one and look elsewhere for a suitable sized *@ElephantOfRisk*?

I think I'll make a start on some Christmas shopping tonight, I'm usually well on the way by now but have barely bought anything except some fizz and ordered the turkey!

Yes, I'm looking at stuff now but just not seeing anything in either size that is catching my eye. Such a pain, I thought I was all sorted.

I have a few bits for DS2, just clothes really. He has very predictable taste so I usually put together a little bundle of new jeans, t'shirt, shirt, jumper or top and underwear/socks. last year he got a new warm jacket too but thinking maybe some new boots this year. I've got PJs for both DSs and some socks for DS2 girlfriend. Apart from booze/snacks/chocolate, I'm out of ideas now for anyone. We have DHs 60th next month so I need to get sorted for that too. Not too much gift wise required as he got a new car!

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GrouchyKiwi · 25/10/2021 20:11

WeeTattieBogle
Thank you. We have decided this is the last time we suggest people stay with us - until we get a spare room.

We worked out how to extend DD3's bed into a double so now just have to convince her that sharing with middle sister will be fine. Wink

DH is going to call his parents for a chat tonight and let them know how things stand.

Sort of an optimistic time of year to get the drive done dementedma. Grin Hope you don't have to wait too long for a sunny day!

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 20:22

I've also sent DS1 links to internships for the summer as he needs to do a placement and he has social anxiety and selective mutism so is finding this prospect daunting but at the end of the day, it's a requirement and he'll need to be looking for jobs at some point because I shouldn't have to support him financially forever.

If anyone is aware of anywhere looking for someone doing an MEng in Computing Science for next summer who is very academic but not very outgoing then let me know Grin

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 20:23

@GrouchyKiwi

WeeTattieBogle Thank you. We have decided this is the last time we suggest people stay with us - until we get a spare room.

We worked out how to extend DD3's bed into a double so now just have to convince her that sharing with middle sister will be fine. Wink

DH is going to call his parents for a chat tonight and let them know how things stand.

Sort of an optimistic time of year to get the drive done dementedma. Grin Hope you don't have to wait too long for a sunny day!

Could you or they use the double in that room and pop DD3 in with DD2?
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GrouchyKiwi · 25/10/2021 20:26

Elephant Yes, we're going to put PILs in DD3's room, and then she go in with DD2. We've still got her toddler bed, which she just fits, so she can sleep in that instead of on a mattress on the floor. She is coming up with all sorts of reasons why sharing with her sister is a bad idea (even though it's fine on holiday), so just need to manage that. 5 year olds are funny. Grin

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 20:33

Mine had separate rooms up until they were maybe 4 and 5 and they wanted to share. When they got to age 10 and 11 they wanted their own rooms again but did share on holiday until much older. Most of the time we try to get them their own room when away but sometimes it a choice of sharing or no holiday. More complicated now that DS2s girlfriend has been coming along so they can't exactly share with Ds1.

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ssd · 25/10/2021 21:39

It does get complicated when girlfriends come into the picture.

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 22:33

GF is lovely and we are very happy to have her join us but it complicates as they are still young (20 and 19) and have been together for 2 years but there is always the risk that they wont be together next summer if we book our holidays in advance. Obviously I hope not and we could book a week before and still have them break up before we go but risk is less I guess.

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ElephantOfRisk · 25/10/2021 22:38

I found a bottle that I liked and it's in-between the size I ordered originally and the standard size so I've bought that and emailed back to the company to ask then to cancel the delayed one and dispatch the other 8.

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ssd · 26/10/2021 18:02

Been wet and damp here today, my heads been sore all day. I went to the shops and made the dinner. Nothing exciting really. Feel a bit meh.

forfucksakenett · 26/10/2021 18:12

It's the weather. It makes everything just a bit shit. Wine

GrouchyKiwi · 26/10/2021 18:13

Good stuff, Elephants.

I've felt rubbish all day today too. Cleaner came and made the house look lovely, I did a little bit of work with the children (history and animal of the week), and then we got pizza for tea.

DH is out late tonight, though someone in his office has tested positive for Covid so they're all supposed to isolate. He's just taken a negative LFT, so is asking his choir whether they're happy for him to join in tonight or would prefer him to stay away. He has to be out anyway to get the PCF (or whatever the other test is called), which he has booked in for this evening.

Hope you have a better tomorrow ssd.

WouldBeGood · 26/10/2021 18:16

I went to yoga which really cheers me up and helps my old sore self. Then did some work.

On the subject of the weather, it was horrible! Tiny dog refused any notion of a walk 🤣

WouldBeGood · 26/10/2021 18:18

@ssd I hate a meh day 💐

forfucksakenett · 26/10/2021 18:34

I would love to try yoga. I am too fat and shit at things like that though.

I see the Queen isn't going to make the COP. Can't be good.

Bonbon21 · 26/10/2021 18:39

You are never too fat for yoga OR pilates!!!
Try some on you tube to build your confidence.... 10 -15 minutes a day for a couple of weeks and you will feel the difference!
Honest.

forfucksakenett · 26/10/2021 18:40

Any specific practitioners (not sure if that's the word?) that you'd recommend?

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ElephantOfRisk · 26/10/2021 18:41

sorry for all the meh-ness, i need to join. working today but things still not really set up properly for my return to work. Feeling a bit shite about it all but it ends up all being on my plate to sort out. Just a general lack of communication and people being busy but it's not helping work being sustainable for me. Have my half yearly appraisal tomorrow covering basically all the time I've been off so that's useful....

Nice easy tea though with shop bought chicken pakora and I made noodles to go with it.

The crows had salmon for breakfast as we found a pack that went out of date on Saturday and no-one was willing to risk eating it. They were waiting in their usual spots on the neighbours roof but were down on the fence ready to pounce before DH even got it scattered. They has little bits of offcuts from the lamb on Saturday so they are truly spoiled!

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