Guilt Free Railing 9

[WouldBeGood]

Nine!!!

@WouldBeGood

They have been absolutely amazing *@ElephantOfRisk*

That's good to hear and must make you feel a bit comforted that he's in good hands.

I am in awe of their care, knowledge, and patience.

I’m glad to hear that your das is doing ok!

Good Luck with your permitted visit!

I want to rail that my neighbours are out in garden and from previous experience are likely to stay out until stupid o’clock being very noisy.
More annoying as if that was anyone else on the street they would be first to complain!

Can't beat a good hypocrite can you running! Hope they didn't keep you up too late.

would that's awful - I remember with my DGM there was a similar dilemma, they ended up trying anti depressants first - glad they care is good.

Oh no, yedancer. I'm really sorry to hear about your holiday. It does sound odd that it's just Scottish routes that are being abandoned, when as far as I know the rules on travel are going to be the same into both Scotland and England. Just the messaging is a bit different... but that may be enough to give the travel companies the heebeejeebies? Who knows.

Glad your dad's getting good care wouldbegood - that must be reassuring. Though at the tactful nurse!

Hope you managed to get some sleep last night runningpink. I've only realised quite how noisy our neighbourhood is overnight when we've been having to sleep with the windows open. Our glazing must be pretty good at soundproofing because it sounds like there's a party going on all the time! (Also, our milkman makes an absolute racket at about 2am, clashing bottles together with his engine running, and screeching off round the corner when done as if he's on the run from the police... not the kind of sedate experience I imagine being a milkman to be. I had to check it was the milkman and not an actual burglar).

Aaagh just typed out a message then lost it!

I didn’t sleep well but that was due to the heat

It actually ended up quite entertaining. Another neighbour came out to purposely wind them up by power washing stuff and running their motorbike. Basically making as much noise as they could.

Insults and threats were slung over the fence to each other along with a glass of wine! 😂

It’s normally a nice and quiet street!

I can't find bloody shorts in any shops. I hate that I have gained weight 😭😭

Zara usually has nice high waisted shorts @Groovee.

Ha! Noise wars. Love it.... as long as you're not trying to get kids to sleep

I feel you groovee. Even when I was young and lithe yeah, right I could never find shorts that worked with my legs without either digging into my substantial thighs, riding up between my legs or falling off my hips as I'd had to size up so much to solve the thigh thing. Plus, my knees are not pleasant, appearing to be both podgy and bony at the same time . I just gave them up as a bad job three decades ago and have gone with lightweight trousers or billowy dresses/ skirts since.

H &M are my go to for shorts. Free delivery if you are part of their membership scheme. Though I am watching mine fluttering on the washing line outside my tent and due to my weight gain I think shorts is a misnomer and will now refer to them as wides . The amazing weather has completely taken my (already capsule) camping wardrobe by surprise. So with tent hair and the wrong clothes I am glad I only have a tiny makeup mirror .

@Lidlfix "wides"

I'd like to rail a bit about covid and my DPs. We went up to visit them today and they are seeming a bit down. I've probably said before DM is early 80s and DF late 80s . He has diabetes and DM will not let him go or do anything as she's worried about him catching covid even though double jabbed. She has low level anxiety- they couldn't go on a trip abroad a few years ago as she basically had a panic attack at the airport although she called it something else.

DF is also gradually losing his memory. He desperately wants to go out - every time we visit he says they should come to ours next time, but DM won't let them. She has a valid concern about his driving but I'd happily drive them there and back.

Today he was saying he didn't want to end up in a care home and not having been able to go out again- he's getting a bit frailer.

Sorry as I know this place is for somewhat light hearted ranting, but I hate how covid has robbed them of effectively the last 16 months.

Such a shame @rookiemere I said months ago that this has a worse effect on folk at either end of the spectrum. I know it's shit for everyone, but the years lost matter so much more for the younger and older folk.

That's what I think too @ElephantOfRisk , thing is it's not even covid that's keeping them in now, it's DMs anxiety.

Last summer when cases were low I tried to tempt them to an outdoor lunch place but DMs stomach played up a few days before so they ended up not going.

I know she can't help it and compared so some younger Mums netters they're probably not that bad - they go to the strawberry shop once a fortnight, will see us including teen DS and will go out for walks - but I do feel a bit angry about it.

My experience of parents on both sides in their early 70s is that they're even more anxious and poorly mentally this year than last. DM is willing to do even less. I can understand feeling angry, mortality is a hard concept to reconcile at any age.

@rookiemere it’s a terrible thing they’ve done to old people.

@Lidlfix wides describes a covering for my arse 😂 I meant to say, the meal at the Balmoral was amazing- best I’ve ever had, including ambience and service.

@rookiemere would she take gentle build ups?
Say a NT gardens and getting a take away coffee but sitting at the benches then progress to outside cafe, followed by outside restaurant etc etc but just slowly so doing the NT a few times first?

Thars a good idea @Scottishskifun - I’ve heard a lot of people saying they feel better once they’ve gone out, rather than the thought of it.

@Scottishskifun - that's a good idea. I was wondering next time if I should suggest taking them for a drive somewhere, they can't walk too far but I could maybe try to find somewhere with a small walk nearby.

She doesn't mind doing things herself - she even caught the bus into town for an appointment the other month, but won't let DF even inside Morrisons.

Anyway it is what it is, we're very lucky that they don't need much actual caring, I just feel singularly ill equipped to be their only social contact.

Ooh I've never eaten at The Balmoral @WouldBeGood must give it a go.

Oh, @rookiemere, it really was amazing. Not wanky at all either. I’d go back in an instant.

*note my classy review there. They’ll probably want to use that to advertise

I know what you mean though @WouldBeGood .
Right I'll book that in, all that money we've saved by not going abroad and spending a fortune on tests means we must be rolling in it. Am secretly plotting to buy an actual- not inflatable - hot tub.

It is so difficult rookiemere. I suppose the anxiety and increased frailty could have happened anyway, but it does sound as if covid and all the messaging around that have worsened/ exacerbated it. My DPs travelled the length of the country by train to go to a funeral in March 2020 just before everything kicked off, and I honestly can't imagine either of them would be able to do that at the moment... just the lack of socialisation/ little walks here and there and so on that they haven't been able to do over the past year, coupled with general getting older - DF always used to walk to the shop to get a paper, but felt nervous doing that, and now he can't make it that far any more. It is sad.

I think the suggestion of little trips is a really good one, though. DPs have started going to a farm shop and cafe, sometimes with a friend, and they do enjoy that, and now they're fine with eating inside in restaurants/ cafes as well as outside.