Guilt free railing

[WouldBeGood]

The place to vent, moan, rail, cheer: whatever you’re feeling about Covid, and the rules, and life and the universe.

I’ve started this as I’m feeling scared and fed up with increasing restrictions despite vaccines. I feel that what should be a more positive time is instead bringing more and more doom.

I want the simple pleasures of life back, as well as all the big stuff.

Yep, Golden ombre, it's so fucking patronising at the same time.

Solidarity Golden

Things are shit for people in all sorts of different ways but I am finding wfh with the children here to be a special kind of hell for all of us. I hate who I become.

And my DH's job is more full-on, more hours, he's more senior and he earns much more, so he is holed up in his study for 15+ hours a day while it's ME combining work and childcare and my work is suffering. This same pattern is repeated amongst most of my friends in the same position and it depresses the shit out of me that all these strong clever women and lovely kind men just regress into these patriarchal roles.

Probably enough of that, if I start bringing the patriarchy into this thread I'll really lose the plot

@titsbumfannythelot 😂

@StopTouchingYourFairyGarden it is all creating a return to a 1950s culture as regards women.

I’m lucky my boy is older as I simply wouldn’t be able/allowed to have him toddling about while I do my work.

I don’t think there was even any attempt to rely on any evidence for much of this stuff, eg the takeaway thing, which shops shut, arbitrary curfews. Which is frustrating.

I’ve just realised that the paint in my newly decorated room is called Railings 😃

I'll join in too thanks @WouldBeGood

I just feel shit for my boys. They are early 20s they should be out living life and having fun, starting careers and mixing in the adult world. Instead of doing the opposite. Its just a shite time to be 20. I dont care so much about us but I miss seeing my pals for a good blether in costa. We didnt go to the pub during the last time we were allowed, well Dh went once since last march and he got covid afterwards so we're bloody avoiding that for a while. Not that anywhere is open of course.

@titsbumfannythelot

Thought you guys might appreciate this

Fucking exactly

Hi @ssd

@MaxNormal maybe once the snow is gone I will sack off this rule too then. The risk of spreading it by going to a park or walk outdoors is probably minimal. Getting fed up of my toddler living in isolation. Lost track of what is guidance and what is illegal anyway

Count me in too. I'm fed up with the constant narrative shifting from "protect the NHS" to now what appears to be "eliminate covid". Scares me even more that so many people are happy to be living this half existence of going nowhere and seeing nobody.

I'm particularly angry about them cracking down hard on travel. DH is the main breadwinner in this house and works in the sector. His company have already gone through one period of voluntary redundancy and there are rumours of a second. Last summer was awful and they were really hoping for a better 2021.

You know what I keep thinking...before covid and all this. My life was great but I moaned all the bloody time

I went to pubs, hotels, restaurants, everywhere, when it was allowed. Even on holiday. Cannot bloody wait to get out and about. We also had friends over for dinner a few times and that was really lovely. I’m not sure when that will be permitted again.

@Chasingamy good! In the very unlikely event you did give someone the rona in a supermarket, it won't magically be a nicer version cos its nearer your house

@WouldBeGood

I went to pubs, hotels, restaurants, everywhere, when it was allowed. Even on holiday. Cannot bloody wait to get out and about. We also had friends over for dinner a few times and that was really lovely. I’m not sure when that will be permitted again.

Honestly, we hardly went anywhere and the one time he went out he got it .I'm a worrier and it just made me worse.

Ah @MaxNormal that’s exactly me. I really appreciate how you phrased it ‘quietly removed my consent’
I’m a sideways version of the litter-picking volunteer type I once was.

I've never stuck to the "stay inside your council area" nonsense either. We are right on the edge of East Dunbartonshire - within about 3 miles I could be in West Dunbartonshire, Glasgow or Stirling. Going to the Morrisons in Anniesland or the Tesco in Maryhill is ILLEGAL even though I could quite legitimately drive 15 miles to somewhere like Twechar because it's in the same local authority? What a load of shite. And given the number of cars you see driving to Anniesland cross along the Switchback Road lots of other people think it's shite too....

I haven't seen my parents since the summer and Dad is really not good, probably dementia but the NHS aren't interested. He and my mum have been totally let down over the last year, fobbed off by consultants, attempts to diagnose and prescribe over the phone, no support groups, nothing. Because he's not setting the kitchen on fire or attacking my Mum they don't care. COVID IS NOT THE ONLY THING WHICH MATTERS.

Problem is, they live in a very small village - the sort of place where a "strange" car would be noticed and it would be round the village in seconds that Jim and Joan had their blatantly flouting daughter from manky Glasgow visiting. So they won't let me drive down to see how things are, even though it probably qualifies under "welfare check" exemptions.

I'm also a charity shop volunteer and we've been shut more than we were open last year - March - end of July, then again in November for 3 weeks, then again since Christmas Eve. We've no stock to put out because of the rules about quarantining donations. Some of our older volunteers are too terrified to come back.

And masks.... don't get me started on the fucking, bastarding masks. And people virtue signalling by double or triple masking. I did see a guy in Asda with a full on gas mask though which was amusing.

If I could get away with wearing a gas mask I would. I'm totally terrified of all this. But I've got health anxiety and I realise my level of fear isnt normal. I keep a lid on it though, I dont want carted off by the men in white coats. I sort of feel a lot of people might he like me and be seen as being a bit of a daftie, when they're really just scared. Probably watched too much of the news.

I've also ignored the stay in your local authority rule when going for walks. What difference does it make when we're outside anyway? It made more sense when the levels were in place and some areas had pubs and restaurants open but if we're just going for a walk outdoors what does it really matter?

It infuriated me that drive in films were cancelled before Christmas because it made so little sense. We were booked for one on a Saturday night and it was cancelled so instead of the two of us sitting in our own car to watch a film we went to braehead for a wander round the jam packed shops which was allowed?!

@ssd I think loads of people are terrified. Including my healthy 19 year old DD. There’s just always so much bad news and doom!

I work in retail, the shops were full of people out for a wander, it was murder. Now its supermarkets people wafting round. But theres nowhere else open, so I dont blame folk at all.

@WouldBeGood

I went to pubs, hotels, restaurants, everywhere, when it was allowed. Even on holiday. Cannot bloody wait to get out and about. We also had friends over for dinner a few times and that was really lovely. I’m not sure when that will be permitted again.

We made full use of the "eat out to help out" to support local restaurants. We were due to go to the US last summer and obviously that didn;t happen but we got our money back. We managed a week away in October which was wonderful.

I;m not looking to return to a life of out every night, clubbing, gigs and getting drunk in pubs. But during an ordinary week pre-pandemic I would have maybe met a friend at Costa one morning, had another one over for coffee in the house, volunteered one morning at a charity shop, gone to the Mitchell Archives to do some work-related research, taken the kids to the Kelvingrove, walk with DH on a Sunday and a nice coffee/cake sitting in somewhere. Or a wee jaunt down to Largs and ice cream. Can't do ANY of that at the morning and it's just a constant grind where every day melts into the next with nothing changing.

Yes that describes it well @RaspberryCoulis

@ssd

If I could get away with wearing a gas mask I would. I'm totally terrified of all this. But I've got health anxiety and I realise my level of fear isnt normal. I keep a lid on it though, I dont want carted off by the men in white coats. I sort of feel a lot of people might he like me and be seen as being a bit of a daftie, when they're really just scared. Probably watched too much of the news.

I totally hear you, @ssd I am usually OK but I think menopause has really affected my mental health and I've had two really bad periods of anxiety in recent years. Last March was just awful, I wasn't sleeping, wasn't eating, all I could think about was the pandemic and how everyone was going to die. It was really tough but my GP was wonderful and recommended a few things which really helped. One of the best pieces of advice was deleting news apps from my phone and not watching the news on telly apart from one main bulletin a day. It can be relentless with the 24 hour coverage and completely overwhelming. The anxiety subsided over the spring and summer and now I feel fine, but I do remember what I felt like and do know how scary it is. Headspace app worked wonders for me, the whole "being in the moment and letting go of the future" thing.

Hmm the hospital phoned Dh asking where he was "isolating at home" was his reply. They seemed to be expecting him today on a ward whereas his paperwork all states day surgery tomorrow 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's very sunny but very cold. I'm bored. Isolating from work would mean I'd be on teams calls and learning journals. Isolating during a holiday is making me really bored.