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New Fred. It nearly ended in tiers.

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Cismyfatarse · 04/02/2021 21:39

Sorry. Lost track of what was proposed. Hope this will do.

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littlbrowndog · 09/02/2021 22:30

What does that mean starryeye

I don’t even know what mental health activities mean ? And binary choice ?

StarryEyeSurprise · 09/02/2021 22:37

Sorry that was in response to ByTheLoch's comment.

titsbumfannythelot · 09/02/2021 22:39

Stolen from another thread, this cheered me right up twitter.com/mikaelthalen/status/1359209202292428800?s=21

titsbumfannythelot · 09/02/2021 22:39

Thought we could all be doing with a giggle

littlbrowndog · 09/02/2021 22:39

But what are they starry.

You could share when you see mums like me are struggling

Give me and other mums ideas

littlbrowndog · 09/02/2021 22:42

Oh I like the jury of dogs titsbum

Yeah need a cheer up

Scottishskifun · 09/02/2021 22:42

I will follow the tiers but if I'm in a low tier and my parents in England are in a low tier then we will be travelling south and will book self catering accommodation. My DF and FIL aren't in the best of health no way are we spending the whole year away from seeing them. I follow every bloody rule to the letter (thanks to DH job) but I will be using the exemptions that I know in depth if they plan to keep that one in place!

LizzieMacQueen · 09/02/2021 22:48

Ha ha @titsbumfannythelot that was just shown at the end of ITV news. Now we've Jason Leitch on Scotland Tonight. Not sure this is news anymore.

WouldBeGood · 09/02/2021 22:48

The quarantine rules mean that my friend’s husband can no longer work, so they now have no income.

How is this right?

titsbumfannythelot · 09/02/2021 22:53

That's absolutely shit @WouldBeGood

WouldBeGood · 09/02/2021 22:55

It really is. It’s like a terrifying parallel universe

hilbil21 · 09/02/2021 22:59

@WouldBeGood what industry is it?

WouldBeGood · 09/02/2021 23:01

It’s specialist and can’t be done here

hilbil21 · 09/02/2021 23:05

My husband works offshore and is currently in the North Sea which is fine but every few years his rig goes to a shipyard type place in Norway and they fly back into Aberdeen. Surely there must be some occupational exceptions??

WouldBeGood · 09/02/2021 23:09

I would have thought so, but apparently not.

hilbil21 · 09/02/2021 23:11

That is absolutely crazy

StarryEyeSurprise · 10/02/2021 08:24

@littlbrowndog

But what are they starry.

You could share when you see mums like me are struggling

Give me and other mums ideas

Oh ok. Wish I could attach what I made but it'd be outing.

We've been working on mindfulness- being present and in the moment. Focusing on what we can control.

Children thrive on routine so make a timetable together. Incorporate one activity of their choice and outdoor time ( before noon if at all possible). The natural light ( even if cloudy, it still works) helps mental health and a healthy body clock. I had some who were struggling with sleep.

Also timetable some 'cool connection' time. This might break up the afternoon or morning.Whatever time you choose, they use this to phone, text, send a picture, postcard, letter- contacting someone like a friend, granny, auntie etc.

The point is that the person on the receiving end is normally so happy to hear from them and is appreciative so it gives the child a little boost in their self worth and reminds them of the people who love them outwith their home.

Also, there are more nerve endings in the gut than any part of the body so what we eat is very important for our mental health. So, I've been sending them recipes they can make with their family- maybe add this to the timetable for about three days a week * I'm upper primary.

Also practising gratitude- I can see eye rolls from teenagers already but tell them all the cool celebrities do it ;) . Start to model it yourself and they'll hopefully eventually join in - three things you're grateful for at the end of each day. You could just do this verbally, after dinner perhaps or add it to the bottom of each day on the timetable It gives a nice opportunity for you to discuss points in the day when perhaps you were all ready to throttle each other or something went wrong but hopefully you can have a laugh about it in the evening and flip it to a positive.

Hopefully this might help a wee bit.

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 10/02/2021 08:46

We do the 'three things you're grateful for' at bedtime each night. And I like the 'cool connections' idea too.

I had a son with Tourette's and he had such a hard time in the first lockdown. But what's cool is that he sees what made it worse; too much screen time and sitting in his room.

This lockdown he's making a massive effort to do things with us more and will recognise when he needs a no-screen afternoon or whatever.

I'm proud of him, he's only 9, and he's figuring out the steps he needs to take for his mental healthy (with some wee nudges from us Wink)

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 10/02/2021 08:47

Not had, I have a son!! Shock

goodname · 10/02/2021 08:51

@StarryEyeSurprise some lovely ideas there thanks for posting. I will try some of these on
Myself as well. We make sure to get outside everyday (and meet friends if we can). Can I just ask why to go outside before noon? We try and finish our school work before we go out? 🙂
I love the idea of contacting someone each day, lovely idea.

rookiemere · 10/02/2021 08:53

I hope the non UK border restrictions will be as temporary as possible. I know they're rubbish for us, but at the moment I feel we really need to get lots of vaccinations done asap and then take stock of the situation, without this constant introduction of new variables into the equation.

Inevitably if there are exceptions it's the rich and famous that take advantage cue "social influencers " and rich friends of friends jetting off to Dubai at Christmas time.

That's such a shame for your friend @WouldBeGood - could they not stay in the other country for the short term, and see what happens ?

IsurviveonCoffeeandWinein2021 · 10/02/2021 08:55

Can I just get my head around something and see what you all think. So we where told she absolutely cannot shut the borders that needs to be Westminster ... except from Monday she's shutting all the borders and enforcing quarantine even though Westminster are only doing red list countries?

So all that last summer was nothing more than grandstanding? Opening travel corridors because she had to but NS and JL standing up there day after day lecturing us not to go? Turns out she could have enforced quarantine all along.

anon444877 · 10/02/2021 08:55

Yes if we go outside before noon, we struggle to get work completed.
Think goodname and I may have similar kids. I suspect a bit of visual stress for mine but too young to dx yet.

We try and get an hour to an hour and a half of work done and then go out, about 11 with a snack.

It's really hard to create a routine as routine at school at home - I do think that's why some are struggling, school is a half hour by half hour routine.

goodname · 10/02/2021 08:56

We do prayers at bedtime (I do realise this is unusual/odd these days 😀). It’s a similar idea to the gratitude thing really though. We always say what we’re grateful for and also think about people that need help. I’m often surprised by what the boys come out with at night.

Even though mine are getting older now (10,8) we try and do bedtime stories and prayers still and it’s a great way to connect and decompress at the end of the day. It does not however stop them then getting up several more times asking for a drink, a snack, saying they are too hot or too cold and generally being annoying 😀😬

anon444877 · 10/02/2021 08:56

isurvive yes I've long thought the real issue was lack of quarantine enforcement, powers they've always had.

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