Would you ever be a stay at home wife/gf/mother?

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If you had a rich partner, or too risky?

Yes definitely!

If married for a long time then yes. Also if there were enough assets in the partnership would both be ‘comfortable’ in the event of divorce.

There’s a big difference if the prospect of divorce means a downsize in the same area or if it means an insecure rental and teens sharing bedrooms IMO. If you’re giving up a career you don’t want to end up skint because his eyes wandered…..

No never. I’ve been married 30+ years and we have enough shared assets for us both to be more than comfortable in the event if a divorce, but we’ve both always worked and it would change the dynamic if I didn’t.

Have been working part time since Ds was a baby - 25 years ago now. Had one 2 year period where I was a full time sahm. Has worked really well for us. But always had full and equal access to money (shared bank accounts) and have always paid into a pension.

Only if I was independently wealthy (I’m not) and didn’t enjoy my job (I do).

No way, changes the dynamics of relationships I've seen (albeit not many as my friends all professionals who want careers)
I'd only give up if I were independently wealthy and didn't enjoy my job but I'd probably do charity then anyway

Nope! I'd be bored shitless.

No.
I'd want to keep a toe in a career if my own. If/when things go tits up, I want independence. I hope I will never be/need to be reliant on a partner.

I’m going to be once I hand in my notice…

but I am married and our income is comfortable enough for extra childcare to cover my study time, I have family around if I want a break, any extra courses I fancy doing and I can choose to go back into the workforce at any time for any salary. DH is happy if I am happy and if I want take a low paid, fulfilling for a while- there is no pressure for me to ‘pull my weight’ financially.

Not working is going to give me quite a few benefits professionally and educationally. I realise I am very lucky.

I would feel very differently if i was ‘forced’ to be a SAHP due to childcare costs, had no external help and we had to be extremely frugal.

Yes. I'd love it. I've got loads of hobbies, would love more time for them. I wouldn't tolerate a power imbalance or anything like that so wouldn't be worried about that. I'd have to be in love with the guy though, wouldn't do it just cos he was rich.

Same. The only experience I’ve had of this was mat leave & I was not keen.

No chance, I skipped back to work after maternity leave.

No. I think it in fact suits very few people.

Yes, I’d love to. Would only do it if married etc and if he were happy with the arrangement, not if it would cause resentment.

I’d be very happy to never work another day in my life so I’m sure I’d love it. Especially as my kids got older

I was while the DC were small. Once DS2 started nursery school I went back to work part-time, then increased my hours as they got older. Admittedly working in education gives me the school holidays, which does make things easier in terms of childcare...

I would if married, because it would be too precarious a situation otherwise

I've done it from time to time for various reasons. It doesn't mean you're sitting around decoratively getting bored. As well as the upbringing of DC, I've done a lot of volunteering, general neighbourhood stuff, courses (for fun as well as for utility)

I would never be a SAHM it's not for me, but I would be a Stay at home Wife (no kids at home) as long as I was wealthy 😂

I was a SAHM for about 15 years. I enjoyed some being there fur the children throgh thier teenage years and we were abs still are very close. I also controlled all the finances/house admin so had access to everything. However the main reason was my mental health issues and I really wish I’d sorted them out sooner so I was confident enough to go back to work.

In my late 40s I got some new skills and joined dh’s business, been there 8 years am an integral part of it and absolutely love it. So it’s worked out in the end for me, but I know it doesn’t for everyone.

Excuse all those typos!

No - but I would like to retire early if possible.

Yes. I was a sahp. When kids were little there was enough between them, the house, my resident teenage stepkids t let me occupied. As they got older (and my partner passed away suddenly) I flipped houses. Now I'm starting a digital textile business as my oldest has left home and my daughter is doing her A levels. Neither of these would support us, but it keeps me busy, growing, and stimulated.
I would not do it unless I was married.

No I'd be bored shitless. I'd maybe cut my hours from full time to part time but I couldn't stay at home all the time. Plus I'd feel a bit of a shit expecting my OH to go out grafting in order to pay the bills. I'd much rather my wages went on bills and food shopping and his went on holidays etc

Prob not full time but I would enjoy scaling back, choosing what I did and not having any financial burdens

No never. I'd rather die than lose my financial independence.
I'm the breadwinner in our household and very proud to be a modern woman.