Page 4 | Would you date a guy who has been divorced twice before age 40?

Cocolas · 2023-08-12T13:46:32+00:00

That’s quite a lot of marriages to get through before middle age? Or am I being judgemental?

Rosscameasdoody · 12/08/2023 16:35

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:27

'That's quite a lot of marriages to get through.'

WTF? It's TWO.

Yes you ARE being judgemental @Cocolas I wouldn't care and would still date him. As for 'he is the common denominator,' like a pp said, what nonsense. You know nothing about the man or how many times his wives were married before they met him!

If it WAS actually a lot of marriages - like 5 or 6, then I may date him, but that would be it. I wouldn't get married, or live with him, or have children with him....... There would be too many ex-wives - and possibly children too - for me to want to get serious.

I was the pp who posted that. And the OP has just posted this

Cocolas · Today 16:30
He left his first wife and child
His second wife left him after he cheated

What’s that if not a common denominator ?

CapEBarra · 12/08/2023 16:36

Depends on the reasons. If he was an abusive arse or serial shagger and the wives ran off in the dead of night then that would ring alarm bells. If one of them decided she was gay a few years into the marriage (à la Ross Geller) and the other one turned out to be a raging alcoholic who’d managed to keep the worst of it under control until after the wedding then I’d be a bit more positive about him.

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:36

BlastedIce · 12/08/2023 16:33

Or died after eating mushrooms!

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First wife died from eating poison mushrooms.

Second wife died of a fractured skull.......

Wouldn't eat the mushrooms.

I'll get my coat.

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Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:36

FadeAwayAndRadiate yes he told me

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FatCatBum · 12/08/2023 16:36

Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:30

He left his first wife and child
His second wife left him after he cheated

Given that update I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:37

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FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:39

Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:36

FadeAwayAndRadiate yes he told me

Hi there I'm John. Pleased to meet you. I have been married and divorced twice.

First one I left my wife and child because I just couldn't be arsed with them

Second one threw me out after cheating on her.

gogomoto · 12/08/2023 16:40

Depends so much on reasons and timings. A very short (ill advised) marriage in teenage years then a 10 year marriage from late 20's isn't too bad, whereas two 2 year marriages in quick succession not so much

GoodMorningHoney · 12/08/2023 16:41

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:39

Hi there I'm John. Pleased to meet you. I have been married and divorced twice.

First one I left my wife and child because I just couldn't be arsed with them

Second one threw me out after cheating on her.

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Yep fuck THAT!

CapEBarra · 12/08/2023 16:41

Oops sorry, cross posted there. In that case no. This one’s for breakfast not dinner.

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Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:41

*FadeAwayAndRadiate *he did tell me. Not in the way you’re suggesting. Over time, as trust was gained. Why would I lie?

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category12 · 12/08/2023 16:41

Does he have regular contact with his child and pay child support?

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Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:42

category12 yes he does

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GoodMorningHoney · 12/08/2023 16:42

Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:41

*FadeAwayAndRadiate *he did tell me. Not in the way you’re suggesting. Over time, as trust was gained. Why would I lie?

I don’t think the suggestion is that you’re lying, it’s more of a wtf.

Rosscameasdoody · 12/08/2023 16:42

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:36

First wife died from eating poison mushrooms.

Second wife died of a fractured skull.......

Wouldn't eat the mushrooms.

I'll get my coat.

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I’ll put my coffee down before reading further - that’s twice I’ve spat it all over the screen !! Henry VIII was the first one !!!

Hankunamatata · 12/08/2023 16:43

I don't know. I know someone who married young and then pretty much a mutual divorced then he married again thinking it was forever for his wife to cheat on him.

ChristmasCrumpet · 12/08/2023 16:43

FatCatBum · 12/08/2023 16:36

Given that update I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole

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I agree. Walking out on a child, plus a proven cheat? Throw that one back.

sodthesodoff · 12/08/2023 16:44

Nah. Run for the hills.

CobraKaiNeverLoses · 12/08/2023 16:45

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:27

'That's quite a lot of marriages to get through.'

WTF? It's TWO.

Yes you ARE being judgemental @Cocolas I wouldn't care and would still date him. As for 'he is the common denominator,' like a pp said, what nonsense. You know nothing about the man or how many times his wives were married before they met him!

If it WAS actually a lot of marriages - like 5 or 6, then I may date him, but that would be it. I wouldn't get married, or live with him, or have children with him....... There would be too many ex-wives - and possibly children too - for me to want to get serious.

For most people, two is a lot of failed marriages. Particularly if said person is still quite young and possibly looking to marry again.

Why would a prospective partner care how many times his wife had been married before him? She’s not dating them.

He is the common denominator. I also don’t see why anyone wouldn’t be judgemental regarding who they choose to date. It’s not an equal opportunity scenario, you can have any criteria you like.

Rosscameasdoody · 12/08/2023 16:45

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 12/08/2023 16:39

Hi there I'm John. Pleased to meet you. I have been married and divorced twice.

First one I left my wife and child because I just couldn't be arsed with them

Second one threw me out after cheating on her.

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Right - off to change my top now, and wipe the screen. Again !!

YukoandHiro · 12/08/2023 16:46

gaggiagirl · 12/08/2023 14:53

His previous wives died? Nah I would sack him off, he sounds a bit murdery to me.

It literally says divorced? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Xrays · 12/08/2023 16:46

I got married for the second time aged 34, but have been engaged 3 times. My first engagement/ relationship lasted 6ish years, we’d been together as teenagers but once we had dd it all went horribly wrong and I left him when dd was 6 months old. Met my second long term relationship/ husband when I was 22, was with him until he left me for an ex girlfriend he’d had before me he’d found on Facebook (lovely). Was then single for a while and then met now dh - been together 15 years or so now. I really don’t think it matters. Peoples relationships break down for all sorts of reasons. I think it depends how open someone is about what happened.

category12 · 12/08/2023 16:47

YukoandHiro · 12/08/2023 16:46

It literally says divorced? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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pamplemoussemousse · 12/08/2023 16:47

Cocolas · 12/08/2023 16:30

He left his first wife and child
His second wife left him after he cheated

Under these circumstances, no I wouldn't date him

Rosscameasdoody · 12/08/2023 16:47

YukoandHiro · 12/08/2023 16:46

It literally says divorced? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Gotta love the term ‘murdery’ though !!