OLD nightmare - do I call the police or am I over reacting? (content warning: sexual harassment and abuse)

Block and move on

I think by forwarding videos he might have done something illegal? Check with the police.

I would report via 101

https://www.police.uk/pu/contact-us/

Hope you are okay

WTF?!?! No, that’s not normal! Are you saying he has filmed himself raping someone and then sent you the videos? I would definitely contact the police if that’s the case.

Yes, report him.

Quite apart from the threats he made to you, which he did! What he's done with the video is also illegal. It's illegal to share sexual photos and videos of anyone without their permission. He sounds absolutely vile and potentially dangerous.

Men like him who don't get reported are free to carry on harassing other women. Claire's law is there for this reason.

100% report him.

Don't be so ridiculous. He's shared videos of another woman and threatened the OP.

OP you need to report this.

100% report! That video could assist in a prosecution for rape (if it wasn't consensual) but him sharing that without the woman's consent is a criminal offence in itself.

If the woman in the video hasn't consented to him sharing the footage, i think this would come under the scope of being illegal. The fact you're worried the other woman might have been forced into the sex acts is appalling and that alone would be enough reason for me to flag it with the police.

You must be traumatised OP, and thank god you listened to your gut instincts and called the date off. I'm sorry this happened to you 💐

There are too many lines wildly crossed here by this vile specimen, certainly enough for you to make a report to the police not just for your safety, but potentially the woman in the video, also.

He's clearly unstable. God knows what else he has done during his time on earth...

Op I think you should report it especially as you have the evidence of another poor woman being raped.

And no that's definitely not normal for OLD.

Hope you are OK.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/revenge-porn

Yes, this comes under the crime of 'revenge porn'.

Report him OP.
And well done for listening to your instincts and cancelling the meet up.
Women should never ignore instincts.

Report OP , and be very thankful you listen to you gut and cancelled ..

So there's 3 potential offences here:

1. Malicious communications
2. Rape
3. Sharing explicit material without consent

This man sounds awful.

Jesus wept, that is horrible ☹️

I would definitely report him for that, and as others have said, well done for trusting your instincts.

Jesus wept, that is horrible ☹️

I would definitely report him for that, and as others have said, well done for trusting your instincts.

Thank goodness he doesn't know where you live.

Whilst I would agree that you need to report - no question - do be a little careful as he sounds fucking unhinged. By that I mean, check social media is locked down etc so he can't work out from photos etc where you live and don't threaten him or get into an argument with him - just ignore.

He is a nasty piece of work that needs reporting but you don't want someone like that having a vendetta against you.

That’s horrific. And terrifying.

Definitely report to the police.

I’d also make sure I spent a good bit of time increasing the security settings on all your social media accounts to him and strangers, and blocking him from them.

Make sure there is nothing he can see that will allow him to work out where you live. Do this immediately.

I’d also make sure to tell a friend about this so if, god forbid, something was to happen, they’d be able to relay information to the police.

I really don’t want to scare you but his behaviour is absolutely unhinged. I’ve dated numerous men in my early twenties, some of them have been “crazy” when rejected, but nothing like this. This is really deeply concerning.

Please ensure your doors are locked as well and if you don’t have a doorbell camera perhaps look into getting one. Again, I don’t want to worry you, but I’ve never heard of anything like this from my own experiences, my friends’ experiences and colleagues I’ve worked with over the years as well.

I agree with the above message.

Does he know where you work OP? If he doesn't, can he work it out by calling the different locations of your workplace/type of business and asking for you?

I'd be inclined to tell security/reception that you have a stalker so they can fob him off. A colleague of mine (a guy) was threatened by a client. The company ended up moving him to another premises as the client threatened to wait outside the office. The threat was taken seriously and the colleague moved to another business location for his own safety.

I'm so glad you listened to your instinct and cancelled.

The more I read on MN it's horrifying to see that there are a lot of dangerous fuckers out there. Thank god you didn't meet this guy.

Dear God, that’s dreadful. Yes call 101 and report this and do make absolutely sure he can’t track you down. 💐

No it is NOT normal and I would report it. I met my husband OLD. Before him I probably went out with about 30 guys (this was over several years) on dates. Not once did any of them act like this. Had some rude behavior like being late and once I got stood up but that was worst. The man you are describing is obviously a violent predator. At the very least police should have him on their radar.

I would tell the police and also report it to the OLD site. That is not normal and you are not overreacting. Make sure you block him on everything.

Definitely report him.