I Have name changed to write this as it is sensitive.Dh and I have been married for 9 years and our marriage has been up and down. We have especailly had problems with sex which we are both currently seeing a relate counsellor. I found out yesterday by mistake that my husband has an e mail address I did not know about. I found out by opening a parcel that was sent to him (I know very V V bad of me) the parcel contained men's underwear which I would describe as erotic and not the type he wears normally. I have found pants hidden in his sports bag before of this type but never seen him wear them, they have never been through the wash (i know I do all the washing!) and the ones I have found before he has obviously ejaculated in. He has also had other deliveries of mens pants which have never turned up in his pant drawer. He told me when I asked about the email address that he had only used it for recruitment and to order a shed. When I asked if he had ordered anyhting else he said no. I resealed the parcel and left it on the side with the rest of his post and I saw him pick it up and rush off with it. I have looked everywhere to find it as I thought if he had simply ordered some new pants he would have said, when I asked him what the parcel was but he said it was nothing, just something for work. If it was innocent why did he lie? Am I being paranoid? I know I should trust him and not be sneaking about opening his post I am just desperate to know what is in his mind (He does not talk about his feelings much) If he likes to wear these pants to masturbate I would be OK with it, I just want him to share is feelings with me. All sorts of things go through my mind! What do you think?