It seems DH is plotting to secretly meet an old GF while on a business trip. WWYD?

[CoteDAzur]

He hasn't breathed a word about this to me and it sounds like a rather romantic date.

WWYD?

If I go for "forgot password", he will know something is up because his password will have changed.

Looks like you got your PI

"It was a coincidence that she would be there to visit a relative, they would just meet for a quick dinner and have a chat, her divorce was painful and she needs a friend to talk to, etc. Nothing wrong with any of that, is there honey?"

In a foreign city, in which he does not have an actual business trip? How can that be explained?

Tortoise - It would not be a problem for him to arrange a bona fide business trip on a chosen date. He had clients in that city and goes there on occasion for meetings.

Kerry - You are hired

He went out to buy cigarettes last night, then called me to get in (forgot keys in car). When I looked at his call history this morning, the only call there was to me. He has erased history before coming home

Cote - yes, but you know that there is no current business trip, don't you?

So the fact remains, that whether or not he goes through with it, he has planned to meet another woman in a foreign city for dinner, not told you about it, and it is not a genuine coincidence.

I understand that he could convincingly arrange things to cover the plan up. But the plan itself remains, in black and white, as an arrangement to meet another woman in another city which was arranged before any business trip was planned.

I just don't see how that could ever have innocent connotations.

cunning advice from Kerry. Assumign he hasn't covered his tracks inside his FB account that could presumably be all the evidence you need? Are you going to try it?

Hi,
I am not going to hi-jack this desperately important thread, but Please Kerry could you tell me how to open DH account in Google Chrome . We are mostly separated and I now live in a different location. It is absolutely obvious that I have been reading his e-mails if you look at activity details. I have an apple mac. I am computer naive. H has made all sorts of promises, but he has a life long habit of philandering. I would like to "snoop" secretly. Thank you for your help.

Erasing call history certainly looks bad, I agree Cote.

In Facebook messages and in email, you can select the messages you've opened and mark them as unread.

BA, depending on your browser, look for a "Private Browsing" option in Tools or Settings.

Cote - I don't know how you're coping with the tension! Don't suppose you could check his call history via the online billing page?

Ah, but if you tick the litle box to the left of a message, you can then click on the button above 'mark as unread', which then replaces the message counter.

Always knew that would come in handy one day!

Arse. And oops

Cote - how are you this morning?

Hi
Thanks Kerry. Yes we are mostly in different countries. I do know his passwords ( he has several accounts, hence "sending photos to himself" in earlier post). I tend to access his gmail account when he is in this country, so that the activity details show this country at a time when he is here. He often uses my pc anyway, so would not be alarmed. I access his me.com account daily, am amazed that he doesn't know, but he apparently doesn't. I have learned a lot. He assumes that ex-colleagues are telling me things. He even assumed that one of his emotional affair women, an ex-colleague, telephoned me herself. He ended that affair, for the time being at least.

His skype (I can pretend to be him) has many now blocked strange names.

I hate to "snoop", but I have had enough of being in the dark.

Cote - admire you cool stance. Hope h is not planning to cheat but even so, the deception is bad ............and deleting call history would make me very suspicious. Hope you are ok.

His secretary sent me a mail saying he will be travelling on at date next week. Now I'm shaking

that date

Oh Cote. I know that feeling only too well. Ugh.

I'm so sorry.

Sinking feeling.