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me and alcohol have ruined my family

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jesuswhatnext · 31/05/2010 12:32

title says it all really - i really cocked up last night, dh walked out, i cant remember what i said to him

today i have actually been in touch with AA but i think its all too late, my dd hates me, as does my parents, yes im feeling sorry for myself right now but i also know i have to change and stop drinking but dont know how.

what can i do to put things right? help me!

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curryeater · 12/07/2010 19:55

Chinkoflight - thanks for sharing - heavy stuff and light!

Indie - great poem. Ase you a scouser? I'm a misplaced Merseyside girl.

MIFLAW - in all seriousness, you could write a book. It could be very funny, helpful, gripping. I wish you would. In the meantime, more long posts please. They're great!

Please can I make a slightly bossy request: please can we not use "old bags" in the thread title for the next one because we are all too gorgeous and lovely and brilliant for that. I think we need something sparkly and motivational, not something that puts us down. Sorry to be pompous but I think the "I'm just an old bag, what does it matter" mentality is a bit too close to the "another bottle of two for a fiver plonk, why not, who cares anyway" mentality.

Have a great evening everyone. I am thinking of you all, with your painting and pomegranate juice and pregnant partners and everything else that is good.

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 20:52

hello girls - sorry to be a misery, but i am havong a bit of an evening here - in fact, right now i have got the right hump and im afraid i am fighting the urge to pick up

just having a shit evening, face like slapped arse and quite frankly, no amount of fucking pomegrante juice quite hits the mark!

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algee · 12/07/2010 20:56

Don't do it JWN, fighting here too and imagining how pissed off i'll be if I don't make day 4, just think how far you've come, just think how cross you'll be... i'm ready to vom apple juice...stay strong...

algee · 12/07/2010 20:59

fancy practicing some mental arithmetic with me?

A pupil scores 42 marks out of a possible 70. What percentage score is this?

...feel better? Sorry if flippancy isn't the thing tonight, but maybe you like a bit of the old maths stuff??? If not I'll just bugger off!

LittleMissHissyFit · 12/07/2010 21:01

JWN, have been popping in, but not posting, keeping up with your journey, it's so insirational.

I'm just checking in today and seeing you are struggling, can we help?, wanna talk it out with us?

You can get through this, this is your second wobble? you got through the first.... keep going.

All of you that are having a hard day, stay strong, we are all here for you rooting for every single one of you!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:02

oh thnaks algee - sorry to be a pain, just had a long day, the sodding cat has cost a fortune, had a dingdong with dd, bugger me, teenagers can be fucking lazy.

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:05

i know im just having a rough evening, dh is out, dd is out, the cat stinks and there is fuck all on the telly!

oh woe is me!

how dos it go miflaw - poor me, poor me, pour me drink!

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TooPragmatic · 12/07/2010 21:07

hi JWM, we don't know each other but I have seen your thread in active convos for some time. Please, please don't do it. I know how you feel.

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:07

thanks hissy - yeah, i feel better already! just needed to have whine i think - i guess that sometimes being sober is so good that i expect everyday to be fantastic, but guess what - life aint like that, so i had better get a grip on myself and get on with it.

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algee · 12/07/2010 21:09

what, not even mock the week on dave? ...let's struggle together. I've actually had a chat to my bottle tonight. I really talked to a whiskey bottle ffs! Arse. Stay strong!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:09

sorry everyone - wobble over!, do you, it only lasted a couple of hours, but it felt a lot longer.

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TooPragmatic · 12/07/2010 21:10

not even Mary Queen of Shops?!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:12

actually, coming on here and having a bit of of a fucking swearathon has helped sorry!

fuck fuck fuckety fuck!!!!

btw - it has also pissed down on all my fucking washing!

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LittleMissHissyFit · 12/07/2010 21:12

Mary queen of shops on BBC2.... always good for a chuckle....

yeah, not every day is great.... one day at a time, tomorrow will be better.

Pat on your back, you have had a tough day, and you didn't crumble, you are stronger than that!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:13

algee - you know to worry when the bottle answers back

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:15

not in the mood for telly - just a bit twitchy, i spect its me hormones!

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algee · 12/07/2010 21:15

good here i'm finding. Have my 'puter on refresh while I practice my maths...just to remind me...

my bedding still on line from yesterday; was pissed on this morning and i was too idle to get it in, and have remained too idle all day!

Nearly night time...

TooPragmatic · 12/07/2010 21:15

the rain has pissed on my washing as well.

algee · 12/07/2010 21:17

...it's not been talking to me since last Thursday!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:18

i am ungrateful old cow sometimes - here i am, having a right old moan and poor old dh is sitting in a grotty church hall at alanon - im going to dig him up some nice dinner for when he gets back in a mo!

back in a bit - and dont worry

I WONT BE DRINKING TONIGHT!

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jesuswhatnext · 12/07/2010 21:19

PS - I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!

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algee · 12/07/2010 21:19

best just to leave it out until the next day i find...

TooPragmatic · 12/07/2010 21:19

well done, JWN!!!!!

ChinkOfLight · 12/07/2010 21:37

JWN this is just it, life has ups and downs whether drunk or sober. Thing is when you are drunk it is amplified , during and after. It's hard to relearn how to deal with stress without our old friend.

I've had a fantastic evening, took the DC shopping for new shoes - discovered an oulet store and got some really fab timberlakes for DD and converse for DS. Also some outfits as a photographer is going into preschool this week. Then cooked a lovely meal for my parents after the DC were sound asleep
Feeling a little lonely home all alone but being able to rant at you lot helps.

I can't drink anyway but I put a photo of the DC in the front of my wallet, just so if I was ever tmpted to go buy booze that would be the first ything I saw.

It's crazy since I came out of the closet as it were how many friends have said they were worried about their drinking. We have done a 'dry' bbq and also started going out climing whereas we;'d usually spend sunday in a pub garden getting drunk. I'm very lucky to have this support.

A little worried about the weekend though as there is a largwe family bbq and my family are all heavy drinkers. I can't remember the last occasion I was sober around them. I plan to be in charge of the food and keep busy busy.

Stay strong guys, we are all amazing.

Oh and do tell me to such if I go on too much, my friends all do. hah