ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Big wave to you all there.

Well, I have made huge progress according to my therapist, I simply no longer respond to any of my X's baiting and I can tell you it feels so good to be in control of my own life again.

Once you actually see through all the games they play, it is a big eye opener and you actually see how pathetic their lives must be that they feel the need to control you. The three words Non-Molestation order has made him behave like an adult for the last week or so which is a massive improvement

X v annoyed as he knows I am seeing someone, since I have a huge smile on my face the last few weeks (great sex can be very healing )

I really, really recommend counselling, I don't think I would have come through all the drama otherwise apart from MN of couse!

Hello DutchyGirl and

Just about to veg in front of tv with a curry, kids been in bed ages after a busy afternoon at the park today with a friend.

Hope everyone is well. Little bit of dutchgirly yet again

Waves to all. Hit the beach again today. Tea am your dc's are already in bed & you've chilled already! Mine are still going full steam!

Dutchy, that sounds great. Glad your life is coming back together for you. Agree on the counselling front, I'd still be reacting to & caught up with exh's twuntery if I hadn't gone!

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Was wondering where you all were, thought you'd all gone and left me ! I think we all seem quite tired tonight.

Early night maybee.

Maybees
Happy
Chair........you all ok ?

Mumfun.......are you lurking ? are you ok ?

Evening dumplings!

starting - very jealous of the beach. We've been playing outside nicely today, but the beach would have been great! I also managed to fall asleep next to DS for a while during his nap, so H now has a toddler that slept for 3 hours this afternoon! Whoops!

I've had a lovely bath and a naughty dinner and am now trying to convince myself to do some more paperwork / accounts as I have to have the figures for some benefits forms before the end of the week!

Starting - my little ones are so young that if they skip a nap (which they both did today as out and about) they do go to sleep early. They'll probably wake early tomorrow though...

Off to bed as very tired, now my neighbours have turned the music off, was very loud and made me feel a bit before.

Hi there here on the late shift as have been out on the town

Nice to see you back Dutchy and to hear about your sexploits.

Starting I am very of the beach!

Waves to all other dumplings

at all the faces.

It is just so much easier to deal with X if from time to time you're paid a compliment from time to time and you realise that you are a lovable, funny, sexy person instead of the horrible human being that X tries to portray you as.

I now just shrug my shoulders when X says' I know some very unpleasant stuff about you and I could tell everybody' (eh like I am finally seeing someone after almost 3 years of celibacy?) just to wind me up and intimidate me. Now I just tell him to F off whereas it would have kept me up at night why he would be so nasty to me.

Hi all what a lovely day

How was access today Starting?

Anyone fancy some music later or is everyone out living it up? Just trying to plan my evening.

Waves to all

Good, went to a farm with Grandpa and kids. Although dd got thoroughly worked up about chickens and geese coming near her, they wanted the bird seed we'd bought in their shop but she's so irrational about them, she gets hysterical Kinda put a dampener on it all, as she barely went near horses etc as there were chickens and cockerels everywhere.

Lovely day though. Lovely.

Got a text from H telling me he's home now, been away of course all week with OW, caught train home as car is bust. I can't even be bothered to reply.

Probably going to cook some tea in a mo and watch some tv.

Watching Britains Got Talent reminds me that maybe I dont have that many problems compared to some

Where are you Maybees ? you ok ??

Happy.....Sorry, I'm too tired for a party tonight. Went out with a friend today and am totally knackered. Every part of me aches.

Going to bed to watch telly.......bliss.

Nite all. x

Waves to all.

Dutchy, enjoy the new romance you deserve it. Wish you the best of luck with it & glad your having fun.

Tea, glad you managed to get out somewhere nice with dc's today & that you're getting support of FIL.

Moviegirl, I watched some of britians got talent aswell with dd. It's great for a laugh anyway.

Chairmum, glad your doing nice stuff while your getting the chance at the mo.

Happy, access went fine tg. Fingers x that it continues that way. On the music front I think the clash with britians got talent may have cramped your style . Will have to regroup!!

Pink, hope all's going well for you

Clash with Britain's Got Talent

Competition for me . Surely not.

Hello Dumplings! Can I come back or have I been ostracised for truancy?!

Have had funny few months. Carried on seeing Womaniser then dumped him for lying. Still miss him, like a fool.

ExH has a "new" GF who he's moving in with in the summer. She has met the DC, EMAILED ME!!!, everything. Don't know how I feel.

Coping with DC is vv hard by myself but have a new flatmate now.

REALLY NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT. That is new goal.

How are all of YOU??!

Wow Beauty, welcome back . I have often thought of you & wondered how things were going. I read your thread about womaniser & was glad to see you were doing ok. You'll bounce back from this again, just give yourself time.

The thing with exh & new girlfriend is bound to be hard emotionally & throw you for awhile. It sounds great that you've a flat mate.

I don't need to lose weight but I am trying to get my body in good shape i.e. the condition of my skin, nails, hair etc. Neglected this over the past few mts a bit.

You might be a godsend back to the thread. You could help motivate us to get ourselves in tip top shape . Restore us to fabolousity!

Aww, thanks Starting!! I do think we can beautify our way out of depression.

I no longer recommend dating-out-of-depression, although I see from this thread that one of us is doing really well with it! It's too complicated for me, though.

Beauty treatments, however, are cheap, morale-boosting, positive, and can be done every day.

Hi Beauty, good to see you back

Beauty treatments sound like a good idea.

You may have noticed that the thread has become a little cleaning obsessed recently and, whilst, I'm doing my best, I think I would be better at beauty treatments than cleaning.

er what sunshine - been raining here all day (somewhere up north)

Beauty - welcome back! Us newbies have heard all about you

Happy - I give it a few weeks before I am too pregnant to be so enthusiastic about my cleaning - I think I'll resort to beauty treatments then

I had a strange, low couple of hours earlier - felt really down and couldn't put my finger on why, but I seem to have perked up now! Must be really tired (had a random couple of hours awake in the early hours) so I will go to bed with DS and try to sleep all night

Hope you all had a nice weekend dumplings.

Waves to all. Dear God, I spent most of the day tackling my wardropes! Am not even half way through. It's a nightmare. The only two things that kept me from falling into complete despair was that firstly I found a new pair of faith boots stashed at back of wardrope & secondly I found £210 stashed in an old handbag!

House now seems to be worse then ever as I'm spending so much time trying to clear out I'm neglecting the normal cleaning. Pink please tell me this is worth persuing?? Would I be better off throwing in the towel & going off in persuit of sex or something instead of this quest for the perfectly organised clean house??

My friends are always telling me god your house is always so clean how do you do it. I now know, its by cramming every wardrope & cupboard full of crap. This could take me months............

How the hell was I oblivious to this??