ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

v impressed by your journey by the way Maybees, I need some of what you are having x

Just found a better map Happy, now I need to find the car keys ,start the car and I might get off this bumpy road Ive been on.......

There's hope for me yet then. I lost the keys a while back and now have two pairs .

Been busy telling people about this today so thought I would say hi everyone.

Rubbish night with 3 hours awake and then an hour before the alarm goes with dreams that make you feel that you surely took some mind altering substance before bed ! Find it bizarre that in 17 years never had a single dream about exh but in last couple of months am plagued by whole variety of them ! Apparently its subconscious mind trying to sift through/sort out things.

Just had a lovely time with dd a good friend took her out horse riding which is a real treat and I sat reading Grazia in the sun. Any other dumplings love Grazia ?

Off to therapist tomorrow for a much needed boost to "living in the moment" side of things. I think all this gloom about economy is making me even more terrified than already am about how I am going to support us /get a job etc but I know from experience I can get to a place mentally where I know I can make it happen and I DO NOT need a man to take care of me

Welcome Getting -I think you truly are going to inspire us!

Starting - love your gift ideas! So genius -see how many you can give to him before hs says anything!

MB -bracelets sound interesting - what are they? You are being very inspiring to at the mo!

Dutchy -you are being so good to your dog. Lots of PK to come your way! And definitely detach from NY - the way of sanity!

Happy -sorry youve come a little off the road recently

Had a great party - turned out to be very family and couples based. But its a long time since I was up till 4.00 and sleeping into mid day. And I had a great time which is what matters. Doing a bit of rediscovery of myself and remembering how much I used to like this kind of stuff. Friend trying to get me a guest pass to a festival in a couple of weeks so hoping to continue in same vein.

Hmm festival now that may involve some mind altering substances...!

I have had a lot of fun through April and May but as I say am in reality at the moment but cant wait to get back to fun fun !

hello to old and new dumplings. Getting a bit behind on here

Not much to report here really, starting to fix things and do a little DIY, so I must be turning a corner, as I used to just want to comfort eat and watch tv/ mumsnet. Also spending lots of time seeing friends with small children and drinking tea whilst sitting in their gardenm whilst DCs play So it's good to be getting out more.

Starting - I'm beginning to feel an itch to declutter and to redecorate my bedroom since H and I separated, I want to make it lovely and feminine, like a boudoir

H's girlfriend is still staying at his so keeping my distance and he's seeing kids twice a week right now at pre agreed times.

Divorce petition still at court, not sure how it works really, as my solicitor doesn't contact me much, I know he's been issued something and has signed and returned it to court

//www.pemachodron.org/ mumfun saw you had recommended this on another thread ,have you read any of her books?

Tea sending you positive thoughts and calmness re H.

DIY sounds fun and empowering x

Mumfun will try and find a link online its just these were a bit different to usual magnetic therapy bracelets they were more feminine and you couldnt tell,a bit jangly silver and things will take pictures next time im in .I also have bad circulation cold hands all the time and white fingers if i get colder so thought it would be good for me.I think lady in the shop thinks i need all the help i can re energising my positivity and that is why she had suggested them.

Anyway a tremendous breakthru today re not renergising negative thoughts.I had an appointment this morning and the person just completely forgot about me .Was really looking forward to it so utterly floored.Anyway...rebooked then drove home stayed in the moment had a little cry as i sat with my emotions and thought how i was feeling about the situation ,then i dried my eyes and carried on with my day ,haven't needed to share,bitch or moan once about my morning to anyone ,even now only telling here cos i wanted to share my first ever positive emotional handling of a situation ever !Its a lovely feeling,also had a calm day with dcs might be getting a trampoline soon so will need to stock up on tena ladies just incase .

Lovely evening here think its the longest day !

Horses sound lovely gettin' glad you had a fab day,ive been having crazy dreams too "I dreamt that i was herding a lot of frisky young cattle along a single track road

Waves to everyone ,hope your cool Miaow x

Link doesnt seem to be working but def worth a google thanks MF x

Away to listen to Lady Sovereign again

Hi Dumplings,

Doggy is doing ok, vet had to shave his fur off today as he has developed some sores. He now looks like a German Shepherd impersonating a Poodle complete with a tuft of hair on his tail DD is bit upset, she is worried that the hair won't grow back, bless her.

Doggy is now sleeping off his pethidine as he had to be sedated, he was not a happy boy.

NY-er DID sent me 2 emails from his Blackberry, both of which ended up in my Junk email folder, doh. I feel SO stupid for not checking that, taught me a lesson NOT to jump to conclusions, I was ready to write him off for not communicating.

MumFun what is PK?

Maybees thats a great sign remember when same thing happened to me at a really low time last autumn -a cancelled facial but I thought thats ok I have face mask at home etc etc rather than "I was really looking forward to that poor me". When you can keep the momentum going you start to react to things like that naturally and it makes life so much nicer !

Sweet Dreams

Waves to all......

Getting sorry to hear you had such a terrible night, it's awful when that happens. I've had many of them but would be v rare now tg. I tend to just block out all negative talk about the recession & it's worked so far . Also stopped listening to news & reading papers, all doom & gloom.

Mumfun, glad party went so well & that you're planning to keep it going. Good for you. Exh did notice about the book as he asked dd where we got it from ! Was telling a friend of mine last night & she got a great laugh over it, suggested I keep doing it aswell . Tempting but will have to refrain for dc's sake.

Tea, v hard thinking about girlfriend staying over but I'm sure in time you will be bothered less & less by this. I found decluttering is fab, completely changes energy in house. Candles & burning oils in bedroom is also v calming.

Well ladies all going well threadmill will be gone from house tomorrow & toy room will once more be back in room it should be in . Have everything ready to roll so fingers x'd twunt actually takes it this time! It will take 3 men to move it otherwise I'd have f**ked it out the door a long time ago .

www.magnetictherapy.co.uk/scp/HAEMATITE_JEWELLERY/HAEMATITE_BRACELETS.htmlfor MF ,I thought these would look good at the festival,glad you had a lovely party x

Hi Maybees, x post earlier. Really loved your story about today, that is fantastic progress, I'm well impressed . Tempted & all that I am, I'm going to hold myself back from checking up what Freud would say about your dream of herding cows .

Dutchy, glad doggy is doing well .

Getting, loved that positive story also .

Happy, come out, come out where ever you are .

Tea, was also thinking you could of course get the painters in like I did & have a bit of fun at the same time .

Dutchy, PK - Pleasant Karma perhaps??

Just needed to break the habit Startin' didnt know i did it TBH or how much negativity i was bringing back on myself .It truly is an overwhelming feeling this transition of awareness i am going thru x

Ladies just logged onto the fishy place to check some new messages. This one has to be shared.........

"well Firstly Ill try and break the Ice "a prostitute goes to doctors, shes pregnant. doc says do u know who the father is? prostitute says if i gave u a tin ov beans wud u know which 1 made u fart?"

Secondly not been dating in bout ten year as was in relationship , and things have well and truely changed, Not too sure what to say or do, But hopefully the joke may ease into a converstion somehow!!!

Hope all is well with you , Anything you want to ask just ask!!"

All I can say is I well & truly understand why he is no longer in a relationship .

mmm you do pick them Starting

I tried to clear away some of my old dating site profiles created in a mad moment some months ago (was led astray by Dumplings). Anyone else found that dating site profiles tend to multiply? I think they all pass profiles to each other . Only seem to generate a load of dross for me anyway

off to bed x

Just remembered this
"To get something you've never had ,you've got to do something you've never done "

Meant to be inspirational rather than,
getting a sti.....from shagging a stranger with poor quality bean jokes....

Starting I'd have to decorate myself as H still unemployed and skint and barely sending me a dime. But I'm not too bad at decorating, just a perfectionist, so it takes me ages

Tea, decorating your house is quite satisfying, I have laid the bathroom floor tiles myself!

Maybees, so glad you clarified that as I thought you were advocating that I shag one of those weirdo's .

Tea, I have strong perfectionist leanings aswell & know what you mean about normal tasks taking forever! Kids tend to knock a lot of it out of you though tg! Maybe you could organise a contra with some dishy painter. He paints for services rendered .

On a serious note sorry to hear your not getting much financial help from exh .

Dutchy, I agree there is great satisfaction from doing diy stuff yourself .