ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Started smoking again 2 weeks ago but think this will give me a good boot up the back side and blow some cobwebs away .......

bit late and no battery but have just flown in for a visit

thought the baby would have come by now - or maybe it has?

didn't expect to come back to tales of sugar soap but it sounds interesting x

Hi Maybees, glad I'm not the only one still up. Stopped for a ciggie break . Have got carried away with the sugar soap & my house looks like a bomb hit as I've been obsessively cleaning my kitchen! Have to dig deep & find the energy to clean floors yet as I've people coming tomorrow & there may be kids crawling on my floors which are presently a health hazzard! Also have to put kitchen back in some order. The plus side is my kitchen is sparkling & presses are clutter free & gleaming. I am v close to having my home clutter free & gleaming, yipee!

Hi Happy, x post. Welcome back . I know, have become a bit of a saddo with this cleaning obsession. Will move on to the more entertaining persuit of sex once I've the cleaning done .

Maybees, will be cheering you on in virtual space . Btw I'll be like that woman in the tv advert on Fri doing sack race at dd's sports day . Have too many professional runners to attempt the normal race, made that mistake before , so will stick to the sack race from now on.

Oh good starting, I will definitely come here more often so I can read about your exploits. Just avoid the PPT's

Off to bed and no battery............back soon

Hope you get a good night's sleep Happy. Well just went on to check my messages on the fishy place (I know, I know, anything to delay doing floors!). Anyway I kid you not, there is one guy with loads of tattoes, table of drink in front of him & he's sitting spread eagled touching his tackle! Looking for a relationship . I kid you not! I'm beginning to feel sick already, I doubt I'll be leaving profile ther for v long.

Ok, this is my last post & I'm off to do my floors. Just thought I'd give you all a laugh & post a few quotes from the fishy place.

"I just want to be happy and have loads of affection to give to a lady ...... love easy listening hate loud rock music ............im open honest sober / non smoker .and love driving ...... i have no inhibitions in life. and im very impulsive ......adventorous ......"

I was married to an impulsive, adventurous fuckwit already & I know where that leads, next........

"how yo doing looking for fun and a bit of crack.im fun to be around love the crack and having a good time.looking for similiar woman'love going to gaa matches and still play a bit"

The above quote comes from somebody who prefers not to say what his marital status is!!!!!!!!

F**king Next.............

Ok bottle of Blossom Hill in the fridge ran barefoot so more grounded with the earths natural energies

Three cheers for Maybees . Oh behalf of all your dumpling mates may I be the first to tell you how proud we all are of your great achievement . Pressure now on for my sack race tomorrow .

Just see I have a message from a person called "johndasailor" on the fishy place!!!!!!!!! I mean really could you even be bothered to read a message from someone with a name like that!!!!!!!!

AFF's just went on for a quick look

"go for a walk and catch fish in the pools and coffe afterwards get food from the chipper light a fire and watch a movie with you in my arms.take you sailing and swim from the boat.like being in sunny climates .i love kids im baby sittin my niece as i write this"

"treat u with respect and make you laugh.hope you would do the same for me simple things like feeding the swans nature etc .im also quite wild and up for most things nothing would shock me been hurt by women before dont want to go there again"

Ok, think that's me done with the fishy place again............. How can anyone be arsed with this??

If this is the best on offer think I'll ring my solicitor & cxl the divorce...........

Starting

You are cracking me up. Gosh that fishy place is something else. There will be a PPT soon Ill wager You are a brave woman venturing out

Glad to hear sugar soap so good - must try it soon

MB - you have done us proud - good indulgent prize too!

Dutchy - sorry about doggy - but you can only do your best for them (())

Happy - you sound a busy bee - hope you can update us soon

Chairmum -wondering if you have a baby yet? Hope you do and are having lovely new baby snuggles

As for me. Trying to work out what to wear to party Saturday night -will be a cracking party as birthday boy works in film industry so should be a good bit of talent there

H was a silly person the other night to me in further discussions re any future together - hes such an a*se sometimes ! Im very calm and serene but beginning to think hes a bit off his skull really

Glad to be catching up with you a bit more! Hope all have lovely weekends!

Hi all, just having a small lurk before bed.

Chairmum's got a thread on "chat" called "Dunno if I'm in labour......."

I thought she would have posted on here today but it seems not.

I'll pop back tomorow.

xxx

Hi Mumfun, great to hear from you again. Sorry to hear things not great with your h. Good that you're managing to hold onto your serenity though! Enjoy your party, sounds like great prowling ground . Gotta be better than the fishy place anyway .

There was nothing brave about me venturing on there. Am anonomous & have no picture up . Glad you got a laugh from my postings though! So lighthearted relief on my part .

Hi Pink, am so glad to see you back posting. I was wondering if you were lurking & asked you to come back on some of my posts to help keep me motivated on the cleaning/decluttering business. You'll be proud to hear I've even been posting about the benefits of sugar soap on the thread . My house is almost complete .

P.S. continuing on the whole subject of sugar soap, I used some on my wooden floors last night & they came up a treat . Highly recommend it!

Have had a few reality checks today which has made me feel really sad & brought home to me what a horrible twunt my exh is . I feel so sad for both myself & especially dc's that I picked such a fu*kwit for their father . There is no other way to describe his behaviour other than evil . How the hell am I going to manage dealing with him for the next 15yrs over access . Feel really sad tonight but know I'll pick myself up again tomorrow. Am also beginning to fear that he's going to end up damaging the dc's with his twuntery at some point in the future. Sometimes I think it would be better for them longterm if he was gone out of their lives .

anonymous

Never venture over to chat so took awhile to find but here we go......

Posted by Chairmum Wed

"I'll post a proper birth thread later, but about 20 minutes after my last post my second stage kicked in and I was screaming!

Anya Rose was born at 5.54 in a moving ambulance on the way to the hospital, weighing in at 9lbs. Nothing but tens and g&a!

They let us out at midday and we're all doing well!"

A huge congrads to you chairmum . Really love the name.

Hello!

Finally made it over here - you ladies had dropped off my threads I'm on!

I've posted my birth story here, although there's not that much to it, it was so quick!

Things are a bit wierd with H - having him around so much, but DS is coping really well and my new little DD is very easy so far, so we're going to try to get back into normal sleeping arrangements ASAP - trial run of DS going to H's tonight.

Yay Chairmum -will read your story later!

Yay Pink is back -update us how you are

Oh Starting -Ive been thinking same lines last few days how did I pick such a fwit but lesser extent how am I going to manage next 15 years dealing with H when he can be such a t*sser. But not evil and kids much better off seeing him so mines a different scale. I think youve got to go ahead like another girl posted on another forum. How do you eat an elephant? - one bite at a time! You are very resourceful and you will find the strength - I do hope your social services or police will recognise the reality of his behaviour and protect you and kids accordingly if his behaviour deteriorates..

As for me tonight planning night in watching football, painting nails and otherwise party preening! Anyone else?

But big downside in last 2 weeks is that Ive noticed my hands going more numb and just finding it harder to do stuff. I have felt little deterioraton so far so a little shocked for this to happen. Really just have to ignore and focus on the positive.

Hope all have good weekends

Wow Chairmum

Congratulations, just popped in and finally it has happened!

to hear that you're getting those symptoms MumFun, you're right, focus on the positive and let's hope that the symptoms go away

After weeks of cr** at work by the way I think that things are getting slightly better. Still up and down though. Lots of worries with DS which are also pretty scary but trying to stay positive

Just wandered into this by the way - infidelity link and discovered that XH is emotionally retarded, but then I guess I knew that really

I've read that link before on mumsnet, the romantic infidelity is my H to a Tee! Good link.

Not caught up on this thread in a while but hello fellow dumplings, nice to see some old faces back

Hi Chairmum, so glad all went smoothly & that baby Anya Rose arrived safe & well .

Hi Mumfun, am really sorry to hear your struggling with health issues on top of everything else . Your attitude is an inspiration . Hope the party preps are all undertaken & that you have a fab night out tomorrow night.

My concerns with exh is more a case of how they will be effected longterm by having such a crap father . My counsellor always says as long as dc's have one stable parent they will be fine . Will just have to take it a day at a time & do the best I can in it.

Hi Happy, to hear you're under so much pressure atm, hope things improve for you soon. I diagnosed exh as being emotionally retarded a long time ago . Read that article some time before & exh best fits the philanderer type .

Hi Tea, hope all's well with you.

Hi Maybees, hope you've put your feet up & cracked open your victory bottle.

Busy but fun day today with sports day, birthday party, play date & my usual fri movie night with dc's! Wish I had as good a social life as my dc's .

I know what you mean startin this week has flown by with dcs activities,needed several cups of rose tea to get thru it all but I am recognising my stomach churning shoulder tightening countdown to crossness for the first time in my life and I am going to keep working on my quest for inner peace I really think it will help my self respect if i can control my negative emotions.I need to sit with them when I feel them coming closer and not go down a path that will make these feelings stronger.I am also trying not to re energise past negativity ie when someone did me wrong in the past all I am doing is bringing those feelings back upon myself .This is a major change in my life ,but I cannot change anyone elses behaviour I can only change my own and how I cope with other peoples negativity .Now I feel it is best to move forwards with the new maybees .Still working on the forgiveness thing at least 90%there with H not started on the other people yet but had a really good day with D Sis .Read this thing about carrying a lot of heavy books and one by one you can put them down as you forgive others,you are lightening your load but it has to be thought about so you don't ever bring up why they wronged you and use it against them.Indeed I will have to seek forgiveness from others to.Dignity and serenity where often in short supply in the early months and previous years

God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change,
The courage to change the things i can,
and the wisdom to know the difference

Mumfun I saw these glam magnetic bracelets in my wa wee woo shop the other day dont know if thats of any help.I just love the peaceful times in my house now with H gone so understand what you mean about not wanting to feel your hs bad temper.Just think when ur cross you are even crosser after a blow out and it fills you with toxins .I just want to be round warm fuzzy people just now ,being positive seems to make my family and friends like me more,strangely enough,lol.

Waves to Pink how's ur summer going ,mate ?

Happy hope youve booked in for a massage with a muscular young man.

How is the world cup doin any handsome strikers i should be checking out ?

Tea hope your good and having lovely times with dcs x

Chairmum you are wonderful,congratulations on your first class delivery.Baby Anya Rose what a lovely time of year to be born ,wishing you peace and joy with your little bundle x