ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Just a quick post to say don't worry about me. Gave up trying to sleep and had a bath at midnight, after which I did manage to drift off.

Didn't want to get out of bed this morning but was fine once I was out of the house, and DS was really well behaved so we've had a pretty good day.

Got my clary sage oil and have just had a nice long bath with it, so I shall retire to bed with DS soon and hope for contractions!

Hope everyone else is doing fine.

Chairmum.

Hoping things start moving soon for you with the clary sage oil and raspberry leaf tea x

Here's a virtual ((hug)) for you, it's a really big squige x

Waves to all.......

Chairmum sorry to hear you've been having such a hard time of it. Hope things start moving for you soon, the last few wks can really drag & in your situation it must feel a million time worse . Good luck with the raspberry leaf tea I drank bucket loads of it on 2nd pg lol!

Hope everyone is doing well.

speak like a child

eminem lose yourself

hello, bit knackered

It's awful quiet here....

How y'all doin .had an exhaustin weekend .Went to a 5yr old b'day party last night and kids played in the garden til it got dark.Kids of all ages so v entertaining.
Then picnic and nature walk today but managed to sneak in a luxury chocolate cake and a flask of tea so very enjoyable.
Waves to everyone,hope we've all survived another week away to find a tune x

Ok this song is all about "learning to love myself"waking up and knowing that i'm good ENOUGH and knowing that i can do this and it will be alright .......Throw those curtains wide ...its looking like a beautiful day !back in 2mins

ElbowLove the line "Its only now i see the light "loads of versions on you tube but this ones supporting our troops - God Bless You!

just ate a whole packet of maltesers that had melted into one big malteser ...mmmm

just ate a whole packet of maltesers that had melted into one big malteser ...mmmm

Waves to all, hope everyone is doing ok. Exh is back to being a complete twunt . Never even got chance to mention about car but have got someone to do the job a lot cheaper . Great day at beach today with dc's, hope this weather continues.

Chairmum, hope you're doing ok.

Maybees, glad you had a fun w'end.

Big waves to Happy.

Tea, hope things are going ok for you too.

Hello!

Very of beach trip!

Potty training here and it seems to be going well. All mostly ok.

Chairmum finally got my healthy start vouchers today, anything I need to know? Or just hand em' over? How's the bump, any signs of imminent arrival?

Hello,

still nothing here - having good days and bad days but I'm generally just fed up.

Tea - I've heard of people having trouble with them, but I think so long as you stick with major supermarkets you'll be fine.

Hi Tea, oh the joys of potty training . I used to find it so funny potty training mine & they can be so proud when the master it . Enjoy

Hi Chairmum, sorry to hear you're still feeling fed up. Hopefully you won't have much longer to wait now.

Tis the season for breakages fridge has now gone on the blink!!!!!!!!!

Hope you have a big credit card Starting.

DD took potty training to a whole new level today and when we were out the back of our flats on the grass playing with bubbles and kicking balls, she took her knickers down and wee'd on the grass It's so overlooked I dread what people thought. Thank goodness it was only wee.

I think because we have been caught short before in this potty train lark and done it in the bushes, she thinks it's ok outside to just let rip

Oh dear...

Waves to all, hope everyone is doing ok. New fridge freezer sorted today & being delivered tomorrow tg. Taking a bit hit this week between bloody ff & car!!

Tea, all smallies go through that stage of dropping knickers in public or in case of my ds proudly pulling out his willy . Nobody takes any notice, they're so cute & innocent at that stage.

I know I haven't been posting about this recently but am still busy with the whole cleaning/decluttering business. Am starting to see a real difference now & am approaching the home run .

Ahh that's good Starting, you'll soon have the perfect home

Hello all,

still No baby here. I'm sitting in my clary oil bath (iPhones are great!) willing it to happen.

Tomorrow I'm 30 and I have been trying to ignore it hoping I'd have a baby before then and wouldn't care, but it's coming andni have frustration instead of distraction :-(

milestone birthdays haven't bothered me in the past but this one seems to bebhappeking at such a shit time - however much I am coping or at least seem to be - my seemingly wonderful life is still in absolute turmoil. Everyone tells me how well I am coping, how the times I feel like I'm not are normal and understandable, how I'm being too hard on myself etc but I still can't stop judging myself about how other people wouldn't let the TV babysit their kids even in this situation. I know in my head they are right but it is hard to see past the fact that I want to slap DS every time he divebombs my bump :-(

I'm trying to see this as the start ofthe next phase of my life, but the fact that this baby is still in here is driving me nuts. I can't start to sort things out with my counselling until the baby arrives and is settled and I'm getting caught up in all that and forgettig how much I want to change about myself. Today has made me remember that and I want to hold it close in the days ahead.

I'm not managing too well on the serenity with DS but at least I am keeping my cool with H. He has reverted to calling me 'dear' which we called each other generally and that hurts a bit because I have no idea whether he's slipped back into a habit or if I am actually dear to him :-(

it's hard to go into a birthday like this feeling alone and unloved by the person you thought would always be there for you, and I can't even talk to my best friend at the moment as she is goig through far worse things than me at the moment and I can't stand the thought of making her burden worse :-(

I guess I'll wallow in the bath for a bit then get out and pray to all the gods I don't believe in for this baby to come tonight so I dontnhave to think about all this.

((hugs)) Chairmum

I've spent vast amounts of time allowing my DCs to watch tv whilst I do something else either selfishly for myself or chores etc. It's a very difficult place to be in when you're a single mum and my frustration sometimes gets taken out on my kids by me loosing my patience with them far sooner than I should and I know it's because I'm struggling internally with everything on my plate.

Wish I could give you a big squeeze!

30 is just another year. I don't think milestones have the same significance they used to. I'm 32 in a few weeks. Never did anything for my 30th.

Invite some friends round for an evening of chocolate and a chick flick? I would say wine but obviously not in your situation. Well... maybe 1 sneaky glass

thanks tea, I do need some hugs.

I know 30 is just a number really but it can be hard to ignore the hype.

I am having friends round tomorrow - for takeaway curry And going out for lunch too, but I feel bad that I'd much rather just go into labour tonight!

Have the midwife in the morning (I'd rather see my friends at toddler group). Perhaps I'll go into labour in the clinic!

Oooo that's a lovely day planned.

Of course you want this baby out! Who wouldn't. I couldn't stand the waiting at the end, even when happily married

Don't feel guilty for any of your feelings, you are waiting for a big event to happen and of course are in limbo with your man. But do try and enjoy tomorrow it'll be the last time for a while that you can do something like that, as it says on my fb profile: Going from one child to two is like going from owning a dog to running a zoo.

Hi Chairmum, hope you managed to enjoy your b'day night & are not feeling too fed up (or maybe you've had news ).

Hi Tea, it's really great to hear you sounding so strong & positive. You've come a long way in a short time.

Waves to all, hope everybody is doing ok. Well got new fridge sorted & am due to have car back on Mon. Not sure what exh up to but being a twat again about access. His attempt to be reasonable obviously was too much of a struggle .

Not feeling desperately positive tonight, had a good friend over though and chocolate (when I'm meant to be on a diet)

H has decided to have the OW to stay until the end of June which stirs up old feelings long forgotten and a whole load of pain. It's been so nice her living 4 hours away and far far from me and DCs. Many thoughts crowding in right now and none good. Grrrrr