ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Starting - so glad it went well. We lose so much at these times that losing a friend can be so hard to bear so it's great you could hang on to yours.

Maybees/happy - perhaps we need a job lot of rose quartz to dish out to dumplings?! I have a favourite necklace that I am pretty sure is rose quartz, perhaps I should wear it more!

I had a good day relaxing round the house and getting a bit if gentle housework done, then a BBQ for niece's birthday which DS seemed to love. He has really adopted SIL's parents and calls them 'mum' and 'dad' - copying SIL and her sister or 'danny' and 'danpa' - copying his cousins as best he can. Considering my complete lack of contact with my own blood relatives and the physical and emotional unavailability of H's, it is a real blessing for him to have them, and the affection on both sides is clear to see!

Now I'm sat up in bed with raging heartburn though. U hate it! Last night was bad too, and I struggle to get comfortable to sleep at all now. That and being utterly ready for this baby to just come NOW makes me want to whinge constantly!

Hello everyone, like the rose quartz idea, I am going out to buy some asap. Need all the help I can get in all those areas.

Chairmum, I had terrible heartburn with my last dc so I empathise with you fully. I was also convinced my middle child would come early as I was as big as a tank (ds) so the last few wks dragged horrifically & the little fecker didn't come till 5 days over so again you have my full sympathies. The adopted relatives sounds lovely for your ds.

Pink, if your lurking on the thread could you please please come back. I could really do with your words of wisdom. I went out today & spent money I really shouldn't have on 2 tops & 2 dress type tops & loads of stuff for dc's. I have spent months decluttering the house so am aware this is not good but end up justifying it by telling myself I've been through so much I deserve it!

Waves to all........

Anyone lurking please say a quick prayer for me, I've to pick dc's up from exh in 20mins as usual person who does drop offs had to go somewhere else. This will be my first time having contact (aside from court cases) since last oct when he had psychotic eposide.

Pick up went great. Exh seemed more like the man I used to know & managed to take the opportunity to discuss a few issues related to dc's & access. Bit of twattery when he said he was going for joint custody which I completely ignored. Old me wouldn't have been able to resist telling him he must be completely fu*king insane if he thought he'd get joint custody. He did however say he would be looking for overnight access within the next few wks so will just have to see how things go.

That's good Starting Although not so good some of the stuff he said at time

I missed both your messages as H was here with DCs for a while this afternoon.

Hope the heartburn is ok Chair, I had it too. Not long to go now...

Starting, glad went ok with XH. Funnily enough I indulged in retail therapy this weekend also. One of my favourite stores has opened just down the road which is good and bad I think.

I'll be out and about with work this week everyone so hoping to view more eyecandy on the way. Which made me think of this old tune your kiss is sweet as candy

Feeling a tad strange. Somebody asked me this morn would I be interested in them setting up a date for me. I asked who they had in mind & was a man who appears to be lovely (I see him in passing most days), is ok looking BUT is about 50ish I'd say! People tell me I look v young for my age, dress youthful etc so wtf is this all about?? I've already dumped one older man & was really hoping for someone at least younger than my parents this time around . I was thinking more along the lines of toyboy!! Would settle for 2/3 yrs older but really can't be doing with wrinkly arses anymore . The rose quartz may be working but sadly it aint going in quite the direction I would want.............

Would it be v insulting to tell person who wants to organise this that he's too old??

No just say you're looking for someone closer to your age. Just be honest.

Besides only 10 years down the line with him and he'll be needing heart bypasses etc You want someone fit enough to give you a good seeing to and take you off places for many years to come without being exhausted by it all bodywise

hmmm >

throw him this way honeybun and I'll check him out

Nice to know he's looking though,but I agree dont start something if youre not interested.
Had a mixed weekend but planted lots of flowers today,was wondering how your planting got on miaow i remember you sowed some seeds.Hope your doing ok.
I remember my legs got real swollen at this stage and i had to wear rather gorgeous support stockings
Hope everyone else doin ok will talk about another crystal 2morrow ,ate a whole bar of galaxy today and organising a nature walk and picnic with some local kids at the weekend so looking forward to a chocolate cake and lots of cups of tea.Take care x

Waves to all.........

I have just spent a few mins trying to figure out what age I was, I couldn't remember . Worked out I'm 37 so think I'm def still eligible for a toy boy & won't be settling for anything less unless of course I become completely desperate for sex in which case anything is possible . I have a friend who's 50+ & I'm going to suggest him to her tomorrow. He's v quite & shy so I don't think he picked me out, it was more a case of match making friend saying "what about her" I think .

Tea you have just given me one more reason to smile for being rid of my pensioner exh..........

Happy sorry too far to throw but think you'll manage to nab someone in the near future yourself .

Maybees nature walk sounds brill hope weather improves (has been raining here solidly since y'day). I had put new grass seed on the bald patches in my garden (from dog & ice) & they've been washed away. I had already put some down 2 wks ago & it was scorching with not a drop of rain & I was too busy cleaning to be arsed to attach hose & water it so it scorched! Third time lucky me thinks..........

Just turf it mate ,instant grass and you get a hunky delivery man,ive got a phone no if you like nationwide company its called HUNKY TURF satisfaction guaranteed !

Well if it's satisfaction guaranteed send me on that number..............

Starting if you're 37 you have years of good lovin' left to you Enjoy, find a toy boy with plenty of energy With my dad if it's not a frozen shoulder, it's back problems, then he had an anyeurism last year and needed full open heart surgery, the list is endless, as for my mum it's hip problems, knee problems etc. Get yourself a young un'

Sorry Happy I have no idea how old you are, but I certainly don't mean offence, your profile says more than 40. Get yourself a toy boy too x

God Tea I'm sorry to hear your parents have had so many health probs recently. Hope they're both on the mend now.

If I remember correctly you're the baby of the group & only early thirties so I hope you've got over the Catholic guilt & are on the look out for a toy boy yourself .

Had a chat with my friend this morn & explained that as I have to see him on a regular basis I thought it mightn't be a good idea. Subtly asked what age he was as I said I had a friend who was older then me who could be a match. Match maker friend thinks he's only 40ish but said she's a hopeless judge of age. Didn't see him this morn but will be on the lookout now to give him a proper scrutinising before I hand him in friend's direction .

Yes I'm only 31 My H was 5 years younger than me. I'm done with mothering boys who need to grow up though. I'm looking for someone about 34-35 if possible this time. Not asking much am I?

Hello,

Back from our holiday which was absolutely fabulous, had great time with little one. She was absolute star in the plane, slept most of the time.

Still going out with NY-er, he has met little one and dog whilst in park and he has not done a runner as of yet. He is at least 10 years older than I am but experience does count for something.

Tea, I am nearer your age and I can understand about fed up with mothering little boys!

Ooo Dutchy soooooo You lucky thing!

I'm 32 in 4 weeks, maybe as my new single life beckons I should consider doing a party or meal out?

Btw starting, if they really are in their early 40's and not 50's then I take all my comments back about old men and health problems creeping up soon, as there's plenty of energy left in them still surely?

Mind you George Clooney is 48 I think and I still think he is gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!

Sent my friend who I thought might be more suitable on a bit of a wild goose chase to check out match makers man but he was no where to be found. We both agreed I need somebody younger so she'll happily step up to the plate if he proves to be suitable . She's going to return the favour by trying to find somebody younger for me .

Tea I'm coming from the complete opposite perspective in that I'm fed up of mothering an old fart . My exh was also a lazy fe*ker but that had little to do with age. I think people vary a great deal & you can have one person ancient at 50 & another v youthful. Will be aiming for best of both worlds, youthful & mature this time .

Dutchy, glad holiday went well & that things are still going well with NM. One dumpling sorted anyway................

Morning all (Afternoon now as I started writing this post just before my friend arrived to take me and DS out),

Still nothing here, getting more and more grumpy!

starting - I suspect I'm the baby of the group. 30 in 9 days (yes the day before the baby is due!)

Spent a lovely day with H and DS yesterday - we went to a national trust place and then to the supermarket. It was all very relaxed but didn't make me have stupid thoughts about getting back together. Everything seems to be working and H even phoned relate this week (although when the baby could come any time I'm not ready to start that) so I think that whatever the outcome, everyone can be happy. Strange to think that.

Got a couple of hours while DS is at nursery so I think I will do very little (except get dinner ready)!

Oh FFS! My car was in being checked this morn as seemed funny. Just been told it will cost £1000 to get it sorted!

Ouch! Your credit card will take a hit then Or is there another cheaper option?

Having contemplated the issue during my cleaning have decided to put the guilts on exh to see if he comes up with anything .

I like your thinking starting

Sorry to just jump in and whinge ladies but I'm having a bad night here. No sleep as yet, feeling a bit queasy and uncomfortable but mainly just can't sleep.

Had counselling this morning and it just brought home how much everything about my life is on hold until this baby comes, which makes the waiting all the harder. We were talking about the future and how I felt H and I had changed already and what I wanted put of counselling and stuff and I know we've both come some way but we're stuck now - can't move one way or the other till everything has settled with the baby.

I've just been feeling tonight like all I want is a cuddle and some sympathy. Things aren't bad enough for me to feel able to really offload to friends, (and the main ones area struggling themselves at the moment, with good reason) but I just feel like a good cuddle and maybe a cry would help relieve some of the tension and frustration. H is tryin but we're dancing round each other re-learning how to communicate, not wanting to mess anything up.

I'm so desperate I went out an bought raspberry leaf today, and will go and look for some clary sage oil fr the bath when I can manage to lumber all the way into town. Arrgghh

playing my sleep music now so maybe if I leave that on I will be able to drift off.

Thanks for reading dumplings.