ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Waves to all.......

Maybees if you believe in God or a power greater than yourself try to trust that there is somebody up there who is looking after you right now. We don't always get the outcome we are looking for but we prob always get what's best for us in the end. Pain is a great teacher & it is in the times of our life that we are going through our worst pain that we tend to learn our most valuable lessons in life. Just hang in there, try to do nice things for yourself & trust that you are being guided to a happier place .

Chairmum, hope all is going ok with you.

Tea, hope the chicken pox are starting to fade.

Happy, hope you're happy .

Woke this am with feelings of deep rage over person who turned up in court. Had to dump rage to rl friend so that I wouldn't become toxic from it. Also know I need to keep dumping it so that when I tackle this it will be from a place of calm & not rage (as nothing ever gets resolved in anger). It was another horrible blow & v wrong on so many different levels but it may have been the push I needed as Starting is now like the pheonix rising from the ashes . I think the song "I will survive" is appropriate here...........

maybees - any counselling is hard, so you need to allow yourself to feel raw about it. I think living in the moment is right, and all that you can do.

I don't believe in any higher power but I do believe in people and their innate ability to survive. If we are determined and we make use of the people around us who will support and love us then we can, in time, make ourselves better (and in turn be a support to those around us). We have to have faith in ourselves and in the idea that we can find and trust the right people to help us.

Starting - I can't imagine what you are going through at the moment but you must be feeling so betrayed by that person. I think its good to get the anger out, and hopefully your friends will help you to keep letting all of it out until you can deal with it calmly. Do you have a counsellor for that? Maybe just to vent for a few sessions before you start trying to sort it out in your head? I know you can't post details but remember we are here for general venting!

I am awake at this stupid hour because I have painful heartburn and a sore throat (don't know if the two are related) so am having some spearmint and camomile tea to sooth it before trying some more sleep. Thankfully DS seems to be sleeping ok tonight so far though.

Can everyone send good softening thoughts to my cervix please? I've had enough!

Hi Chairmum, great to hear from you. The last few wks can be v uncomfortable so you have my full sympathies. The comment about "good softening thoughts to your cervix" really gave me a laugh . I will do a visualisation of it softening for you .

The rage has gone tg. I am seeing counsellor tomorrow morn & I'll be due to see person who turned up in court at w'end. There has been enough destruction caused in my & dc's lives by exh so if at all possible I am going to try to resolve this with person involved. Resolving it will be the best thing for me & dc's. When BIL verbally attacked me at xmas I gave him a chance to move forward again. I told him ball was in his court but he made a choice to condone exh's violence. As a result of this & him turning up in court, I will never have anything to do with him again. V akward for me & dc's as he lives v near me & we bump into him regularly but it has been his choice to do this.

Chin up, tits out, onwards & upwards.......

Hope everyone is doing ok.

for all the daddies that just didnt make the grade !

Anyone about? Am tired, uncomfortable and utterly fed up with being pregnant. Need to whinge

How ya doin miaow is it 37 wks today....chat away ,post some indie if you can be bothered !

Whinge away Chairmum, I haven't the excuse of being preggers but I'm a bit fed up too.

Maybees, great choice of song .

Have to deal with person who turned up in court tomorrow & I'm feeling really angry again. It's just such a horrible position to have been put in.

Really thinking Tai chi is the way to go Startin' we have to learn to see the bigger picture and not to allow the negativity to let us become victims,instead we will see the positivity in our everyday lives!

Meditation with movement.....

Ok on the last chapter of book,really given me a boot up my arse.Had a bit of a shock this week,nothing to do with H but manically cleaned the house today only tiny so only takes an afternoon ,but defineately helps my mood.Have to put carnellian crystals at my front door but not sure if i put them at the door that we use ,the back door or the door that we dont use the front door ,i think i will put them at the front
Think we should all stay up for mid summers night and meditate,i nominate startin to type us some tips ,thinking of getting a tourmaline sphere x

Hi all been off for a few days but glad to see you have all kept the thread warm. The good news is that I have been somewhere with plenty of eyecandy. I plan to see more next week.

Chair - now I'm back my thoughts will be on your cervix.

Maybees - you are becoming an expect in something I know little aboout. I will be doing some googling.

Starting - sounds like you've a difficult convo ahead. It will be fine though, I can feel it.

No Maybees you are right about all that. The group meditation I've been doing recently is an ancient meditation from the Himalayas. My friend who did Tai Chi yrs ago said some of the movements are similiar.

Your story about what door to put the stone at made me laugh & reminded me that yrs ago exh decided to have somebody come in to do Feng Shui on the house. I won't tell you what this cost as it could induce vomiting! Anyways, I ended up with my bed at an angle in the middle of my room & a bowl of water at one side of front door & a pile of rocks at the other side of the front door. I know, I know, I really should have left him then! For months everyone calling to the house asked wtf are the rocks & water doing there?? After about 6mts of this insanity I got p**d off & dumped the lot & put my bed back where it should be. Of course typing this am thinking maybe there is a slight possibility if I left it all there things could have worked out differently!!

Happy, glad you're back in the land of the living. Anychance you'll get to sample some of that eyecandy??

Ok, typing that just reminded me that Feng Shui man had given me something to hang on back of front door to ensure prosperity. I was sure it was gone & just hopped up to check & low & behold all these years later (numerous lock changes) & it is still there. So if nothing else I should at least be prosperous

Spent all morning looking for a tai chi class and theres loads out there,you get tai chi with weapons think that may be the one to go for

Startin'feng shui so funny WTF!Just remembered the banjo thing if H brings that up in counselling i promise i will roll about on the floor and kick my legs in the air.Oh man ....we have come so far on this journey of masculine selfish insanity and yet some of the best laffs i have ever had in my life.

Happy ...tourmaline is a shiny black crystal that protects you from others negative energies.more info on the talent please.

Love the Feng Shui story.

Interestingly, I spent years keeping the loo seat down so that all of the goodness didn't go down the pan.

No sign of sampling that eyecandy yet but hoping for more sweets in the shop next week

Maybees re the mid summers night thing. There is an old tradition here that if you bang a slicepan off the front door on new years eve you will never be without for the year. I wonder on that vein of thought is there anything we could do mid summers night to ensure we won't be without sex for the year??

Maybees, pmsl at the bango! Must put a tourmaline in my pocket tomorrow! Tai Chi sounds like a good plan, my friend said she spent a long time fantasising about kicking her exh's head while she was doing it, v theraputic .

Happy, if you've an ensuite Mr Feng Shui said your doomed. Sleeping near............is contaminating!!

Can't recall if he said anything about toilet seat . I'm sure I dumped all the notes he gave me but if I come accross them in my cleaning blitz I'll post them for a laugh.

Kids kickboxing is doing a fight nite i think i might have a natural talent
I think martial arts is def the path for me to follow and the guys are fit as fuck !

By the way ,i think you can do rose quartz for attracting love ,will post something 2 morrow x

ps wtf s a slicepan?

Ok, obviously you call it something different there, it's a loaf of bread!

Thought rose quartz was for peace & serenity, have been sleeping with one under my pillow for past wk, I wonder if there's some action on the way...........

aye we have plain or pan loaves,i thought it was a frying pan
rose quartz is for love ,but also loving yourself and who you are prob need to have a sackful near my bed for sex to come my way but def read a ritual so will look it up with better explanation 2morrow.prob brings peace and serenity too,would def help if i had great sex.def a pathway to follow....read your other thread miaow hope ur cool,and you got more gaviscon x

Well if I'd to choose between peace & serenity or sex it'd be the peace all the way........... Mind you after the twuntish behaviour we've all been through maybe the universe will be kind & send us both .

How did it go with your friend today starting?

Rose Quartz,is the stone of unconditional love and infinite peace.It is the most important crystal for the heart and the heart chakra,teaching the true essence of love.It purifies and opens the heart at all levels and brings deep healing and self love.It is calming and reassuring,excellent for use in trauma or crisis.
If you want to attract love,look no further than rose quartz.Placed by your bed or in the relationship corner of your house ,furthest right from front door [i think]it is so effective in drawing love and relationships towards you that it often needs amethyst to calm things down. In existing relationships it will restore trust and harmony and encourage unconditional love.
It gently draws off negative energy and replaces it with loving vibes.It strengthens empathy and sensitivity and aids the acceptance of necessary change .It is an excellent stone for mid life crisis.It is a healer emotionally releasing unexpressed emotions and heartache ,it soothes internalized pain and heals deprivation .It teaches you how to love yourself,this stone encourages self forgiveness ,acceptance ,self trust and self worth

MM I think I need some rose quartz can you chip some off?

Waves to all. Tea, thank you so much for thinking of me today. It went v well, was v emotional but cleared the air & hugs all round tg.

Maybees, went up to my room before having to tackle issue today & grabbed 3 stones (rose quartz, a green one & a blue one) & popped them in my pocket. If the rose quartz is for lurve then I'll be keeping it in my pocket me thinks .

Happy, pop one in your pocket for your eyecandy adventures.

Thank you all once again for your support & well wishes for today. Am so happy exh didn't manage to ruin yet another friendship.

come out of your caveand enjoy living with respect,peace and freedom x