ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Washing in machine ,bathroom cleaned{lavender}dcs in bed ,kettle on

Starting - really hope all goes as well as it can for you tomorrow. I'm sure we'll all be thinking of you.

I am feeling very sorry for myself tonight. Hot, tired, no energy and just fed up of being pregnant. Baby has dropped, making things very uncomfortable, and I'm just grumpy. It's times like this I get annoyed with H because I should have someone here to hold my hand and rub my back and generally make me feel something other than fed up. No chance of that :-(. But then there was even less support emotionally while he was here. I guess I'm just missing what I wish I had ... What I had with my first pregnancy to some extent. Oh well. Will wallow tonight and pick myself ip on the morning.

Whinge over

Not long to go now CM hope your managing to stay cool in this heat, big hugs x

Ok spoke too soon about dcs ,out of bed now and singing jingle bells

Evening all

Totally exhausted too hot and too many things to do

Chair, must be incredibly hot for you being pg, I am whingeing enough for all of us

Maybees good to see you back on thread - if I were you I'd knock up some clothes with the curtains, get out there in the field and wear them out with Sound Of Music songs.

Starting, girl Dumpling power is with you............xx

Strength...

?Strength is the ability to break a chocolate bar into four pieces with your bare hands - and then eat just one of those pieces?

Judith Viorst

?What does not kill me makes me stronger.?

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

?What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.?

Friedrich Nietzsche

?Storms make trees take deeper roots.?

Dolly Parton

Doe a deer is a real favourite right enough !Have gone from factor 50 suncream to aftersun now.... loving the sunshine ....but feeling a little bit more prickly than usual x

My favourite Dolly Parton line is "People are just poor if they choose to be" from A Coat of Many Colours .

And peace.........

Get into the habit of looking for the silver lining of the cloud, and, when you have found it, continue to look at it, rather than at the leaden gray in the middle. It will help you over many hard places.

• A. A. Willitts

It is not the situation. It is your reaction to the situation.

• Bob Conklin

n the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.

• Albert Camus

I'm not afraid of storms for I'm learning how to sail my ship.

• Louisa May Alcott

Picture yourself placing your problem inside a pale, yellow balloon, letting it go, watching it drift until it is a tiny pastel dot in the sky.

• Barbara Markoff

If they want peace, nations should avoid the pin-pricks that precede cannon-shots.

• Napoleon

When fire and water are at war it is the fire that loses.

• Spanish proverb

It is impossible to keep a straight face in the presence of one or more kittens.

• Cynthia E. Varnado

There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.

• Bern Williams

Loving the Spanish proverb Happy x

Liked the chocolate one

Waves to all........

Dc's up really late so only getting to sit down not (downside of sunny weather). They were playing outside in sunshine till 9 & by time I got them all settled down, showered & bed it was 10.30!

Happy, loving the quotes. My fav one like tea is the chocolate one, actually started laughing out loud to that one .

Maybees, the joys of dc's . Been there, done that .

Chairmum, moan away all you want. At this stage of pg you are bound to feel v emotional being on your own. Sending you positive vibes & thank you so much for your lovely words.

Thanks to all for your support about tomorrow. I'm am feeling fairly ok about it. Has to be done so I've no choice really. My worst case senario's would actually be No1 that his solicitor attacks into me with false allegations etc & I get all flustered No2 That he gets jailed & I'll forever more be know as bitch who sent her husband to jail. I've handed it over the the gods however & whatever will be will be.

Anyone who believes in anything might say a prayer for me tomorrow . Court starts at 10 but no idea what time our case will be heard.

Good luck. I'll send a prayer up x

Well all over & done with for now. Thank you all for your support & prayers, much appreciated. Case ended up being adjourned for a variety of complicated reasons. Obviously can't post details here but will wait & see now does exh do what he's meant to.

Bil was there to either intimidate or testify but worse again exh had someone else v v close to me there (don't want to mention who on open forum). Am v upset by this person getting involved as it's going to have a real knock on effect on both me & dc's.

Am totally drained from whole thing but onwards & upwards again..........

Sounds complicated Starting

lots of hugs to you Starting for getting through today

Quote from the other day...

?Strength is the ability to break a chocolate bar into four pieces with your bare hands - and then eat just one of those pieces?

Quote for today...

"If you've had a strange day, break a chocolate bar into four pieces and eat the lot"
DJHappy

Bet you looked great today despite everything Starting,congrats on getting thru this one,just gotta feeling that something really nice is on the way for you now and not too far away ,take care x

Happy trying to put all my problems into yellow balloons re quote from last nite but have a problem letting them go and seeing them float away ,any top tips x

tea hope wee ones not too poorly with the pox ,mine were both in nappies when they got it but wee enough they werent too scratchy.

Miaow hope you re doin ok ,thinking of you lots x

Smartie come and let us know how ur doin x

Party so glad youre feeling good,embrace the positives in life as much as poss !

Mumfun glad your doin ok and hope h not causing to much interference x

Hiya to all, thanks maybees, am embracing life, have been happy and smiling all weekend, and today as well.
might be the weather

Glad to here it Party you thoroughly deserve it mate.!

Ok, am back again, had to get rl friend over to trash it over. On the positive side what happened today could really work in my favour so that is all good. On the negative i.e. v v close person turning up with exh, having discussed it with two people now in rl it seems the only way to deal with it is an open discussion with person involved (in their favour I don't think they have grasped the full story or the implications of them turning up in court). So all in all a v v emotional & draining day but good also.

Tea, thanks for all your support & your prayer, much appreciated. Hope you're dc's are not suffering too much with the chicken pox (there's a huge outbreak here too atm). Would actually love mine to get them now to get it out of the way, eldest dd got them yrs ago so only two smallies to go.

Happy, your quote actually made me laugh again, thanks .

Maybees, thank you for the vote of confidence, I tan v easily so had a lovely golden glow today (to match my glowing hair) . Re your balloons just visualise yourself cutting the string & watch them float away .

Party, it's great to hear your doing so well .

Chairmum, hope you're surviving the heat & not feeling too down.

OK cut the ties and they still aren't fucking moving,why am i holding onto this DOOM just filling myself with blackness and cant move in either direction .

This too shall pass ..................

Just don't know WTF im meant to be doing ATM
Seeing counsellor again next week...try and keep peaceful til then.

If not posting will be reading for calmness....have a good week and take care x

Maybees, just give yourself time to heal, it can be a slow process. You have to go through the black despair before you come out into the sunshine again. Sending you hugs.

Just need to work on myself ,marriage counselling was bound to open old wounds just need to try and relax over next couple of months and what will be will be.Just complicates everything again and reminds me of the pain i have overcome.Dont want to hate,dont want to blame ,just want peace and to see the hope in my life again .Just another part of my bumpy road .Need to park up all my worries til i am in counsellors room or i will surely drive myself mad.I know that i need to go through this whatever the outcome,just got that sick feeling back again,need to relax and not look for too much.Need to let it happen and not put too much pressure on myself.
Lay on the grass today with the sun on my face reading my book,trying to clear my mind ,having a much better week than last week ,guess i am having to face my RL situation again,but need to stay in the moment,need to do something for me this week and stay in control of my emotions,

thanks for your support startin' x