ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Mumfun - The amount of time's I went bananas at my DCs in the early days with my H and I separating, I could count on both hands and even now on a tough day if things are getting to me, my tolerance levels drops IT's not that they were being anymore naughty than usual for toddlers, it's just my patience had disappeared and with everything else on my mind I went "up" like a Roman Candle

You're not alone. I'm reading a good book at the moment which is helping me put things into perspective on mum's and dealing with anger.

I love my DCs soooo much and always always feel guilty when I end up yelling It's so hard being a lone parent though

Sending you a ((hug))

Tea - could not believe what your H said on the telephone. Don't make any rash decisions.

I am quite upset as the family dog is quite ill, waiting for the final test results to come back tomorrow but vet told me to brace ourselves as most likely it is something very nasty ie cancer.

Dog has been with me for over 8 years so spend the whole of Tuesday in bit of a daze and cried a lot.

Going on hols Saturday, luckily good friend will stay in my house to take care of dog.

I'm a bit late in catching up on this but Happy your last link just gave me a great laugh . Where do you come up with this stuff!!!!!!!!!

Don't worry Dutchy no plans to get back together...

Kids have caught chicken pox, spots really gathering pace now in arrival

Sorry to hear about your dog, I always find it so hard when a loved pet is poorly or passes away Hope it's not bad news tomorrow x

Mumfun - welcome back!

Everyone cracks with their kids at some point. I spent 20 minutes trying to bribe, cajole or trick DS into walking home from nursery but instead he wanted to squash ants, eat flowers and lay in the path. I ended up putting him under my arm and carrying him, screaming, home, which was not easy. What I really wanted to do was leave him there. When we got home I took a couple of minutes to regain my calm then gave him a cuddle and tried to explain why I was so upset and annoyed with him. I have no idea if he understood but he did listen at least.

My point is we all have days like that. DS soon forgot about it.

Hi all

MumFun, I lost completely with DS1 this week too. Feel guilty but equally I am pushed to my limits at times and not perfect.

Tea, I am btw at your XH - but not half as shocked as I would be if my xh did that! OW has truly taken over in his world and hi on pedestal.

Dutchy about pet ....

Chair, you need a trolley for DS like in the Apprentice last night.

Waves to Starting and all lurkers. Starting, it's business time has been a favourite for a while .

Maybees, where the devil are you?

Waves to all, was out tonight hense posting in the twlight hours.

Mumfun for some reason I missed your post when I posted earlier. Don't beat yourself up, you're only human & prob emotional with h back on scene. I think we've prob all had moments that we wouldn't be proud of with dc's.

Tea, am wondering what book you're reading??

Dutchy, sorry to hear about your dog .

Chairmum, it is no easy task to carry a struggling toddler when you're on your last legs............I remember it well!

Happy, yes I think you may have posted that before on one of the music nights but it really is brill. I will have to come back to it if I ever feel myself starting to wallow.......... Defo a great one for a reality check .

Ladies can you come over here and advise?

Phew a bit hot today

A lovely weekend ahead hopefully

Tea - I've been there and posted

So the OW turned up at H's home last night unannounced, so she booked and caught a train and then taxi all the way from Mancs to see him, he didn't know she was coming he said. She's changed her mind. I wish he'd never told me the other day it was over.

God knows what's going on in her head or his for that matter? And how much of the truth he's told me. But I've had a really grumpy day. I truly didn't want to get back together with him but I was so relieved it was over, as the change in him since their affair began has NOT been a good one. He is half the man he was and his head is a mess. I just wanted him to get his head together and life back on track. Mainly for the children as they grow.

So naturally I haven't been as tolerant of my children's difficult behaviour today, which is typical when not only do they both have chicken pox but were both throwing tantrums and all sorts today, probably from feeling rubbish. Grrrrr

Hello everyone.

Do you know I've had another good day.

Work was great and then had a treat of manicure.

Spoken to both DC's and finished a lovely bottle of Rose.

Feel quite content and thought of stbexh on hols with GF just once or twice, not continuously.

Maybe I'm making progress, although I have told myself it's too soon.

When is it too soon to get over it or maybe not over it but accepting of the situation.

It's been 7 months, am I covering up, my true feelings?

Can't decide, anyway, all I know is that I will sleep well tonight.

Waves to all, only getting a chance to log on now as eldest dd was playing pacman on computer & youngest dd fell asleep for an hr in car today & is still running around full of beans! Had a great day today with dc's but am beginning to feel slightly sick about pending court case. Aside from rescue remedy is there anything herbal that I could take to calm me down before testifying?? Am afraid I'll get so nervous I won't be able to speak.......

Tea, sounds like a v difficult place to be emotionally. Just try to keep your focus on you & dc's.

Party, you are doing great .

Hey thanks. I like to think that.

Is this real?

Evening all

Tea, sounds like a mucky situation .... good idea to keep distance I think

Party - glad you had a good day

Starting - serenity important I think - but how to ensure serenity - I think I would go for personal pampering, smelly candles, some meditation and a nice spa or some kind of alternative therapy - but what I' not sure......

Party, after 7mts it prob is real so enjoy the peace & serenity .

Happy, have been doing a lot of meditation & will try to organise to do session with friend again on sun. One way or another it'll all be over on Mon please god.

I've found Kalms quite helpful as well as rescue remedy and Chamomile tea as well Starting.

Well how r u all today?

Despite the on-going challenges to our serenity no denying it was a beautiful day today

Waves to all............

Tea, thanks for the suggestions. Have managed to calm myself through meditation tg & feeling fairly ok about the whole thing for now anyway.

It is a miracle that I am able to post. My laptop is more or less in 2 pieces, ds dropped it on the floor. Not only am I missing 7 buttons from dc's pulling them off for a laugh, I now have screen hanging on at one side & the piece about the keyboard has cracked open! It was less then 2 yrs old & now resembles something from the scrap heap . Not to mention all the virus's from babysitter logging onto crap sites! Anyway, he's lucky I'm so serene from all the meditating & got off lightly with a calm "ds look your after breaking my laptop can you please leave it alone in future" .

Oh, this weather is fab. I treated myself today & did sweet f all while dc's were out. I meditated & read my book lying out in the sun, it was bliss.

Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine. Only downside is stripping off my clothes to balm in the sun always makes me want sex .

Speaking of which, Happy any news?? Maybe I could feel satisfied by proxy at this stage...........

No sorry

Considered stripping for the cause but....

Oddly he mentioned a girl's name mid lesson. Could it be that he has a girlfriend?

No worries anyway going dogging out for a walk with a friend tomorrow. Will watch for talent

Happy, oh well I'm sure you'll find someone soon............

()Happy

Good advice- Tea I would haave said all that

You serenity is excellent, Starting - very impressive Hope you canhold on well till tomorrow

Have managed to dry my eyes after last weeks general outpourings and now im faced with ds shouting mum ive done a poo.Unfortunately didnt quite make the toilet and lots of squelchy brown and wee wee everywhere ,oh well at least its bath time,onwards and upwards fellow dumplings ,glad everyone doing well !

ps Need to learn to meditate top of my list now !