ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

X post Happy, ah bless you for always saying the right thing. Heard some really exciting news today. My neighbour told me today that there is a lovely shop after opening up that downstairs does all new stuff but upstairs does all second hand stuff. You can bring your stuff to trade upstairs & you get a credit note to spend on new stuff downstairs. This is perfect timing as I have a lot of stuff that's too good to give away but that I could def part with for new stuff . More motivation to keep going on clear out. I'm not going to allow myself to go to shop till I've everything sorted! Got a lot done today so it's still all systems go!

Those bras do look nice but it is indeed false advertising. Have to get friendly with the lights out! LOL

Not me of course being a church girl, you lot I mean

I wonder where Maybee is?

Our sex drive was god given Tea, you can be a church girl & still enjoy a bit of hanky panky .

God Given Sex Drive.........good title for something.......not sure what....maybe that lovely bra.

I would feel sad too Chairmum but you're doing amazingly well.

Stay away from the new stuff Starting, todays new stuff is tomorows junk (unless you really need it or it's so beautiful you can't imagine life without it.)

You ok Happy ? How's DS1 ?

Oh no I believe God designed us as sexual beings but I believe it's for marriage See church girl here

Love you ladies x

What gorgeous weather we have again.

Hello girls,

I am off to the park with DD and dog in tow, better enjoy the weather whilst it is good.

I am trying to pretend to be on holiday with a picnic in the park as I feel so mentally drained after the last 12 months. I am due to run a military 10K race for charity in September so I better start getting used running UP hills.

Good news, X is due to complete on his new house next week so hopefully that will keep him out of my hair.

That is a lovely bra btw, not in my size though!

My name is starting & I've just realised I must be a shoe addict amongst other things! Approx 100 pairs & counting..........approx half never worn .

Pink, those were the wisest words I've ever heard. I have been sobered by my new mantra "today's new stuff will be tomorrows junk" & the reality of my shoe situation! I won't even mention clothes!

Tea, as your H has gone awol even god would give you his blessing .

Dutchy, enjoy the peace of the park. I'm heading to the park later too.

Now am off to figure out wtf I'm going to do about my shoe situation!

starting - pick half of them that you really love, and SELL, SELL SELL the rest!

Wow 100 pairs of shoes and I thought I was bad!

Hi everyone including Beauty

Have been AWOL as beleive it or not my laptop refused to let me post to MN Obviously protecting me from your corrupting influence.

Havent much to post except am in state of shock as H has mooted us getting back together. Am finding it hard to deal with as have got myself together quite well and was feeling quite happy. DOnt really know what to do - so am going to give myself some time , think about it and take it easy.

OMG Mumfun, that's big one to ponder! I thought from your last post that this might be on the cards but I can understand you being in a state of shock. Take your time & best of luck with your decision.

Chairmum, would love to convert my shoes to cash but have no idea how I could do that. I think ebay would be beyond my capabilities!

ebay is easy. Take a picture on your camera and upload it with description of shoes for sale and price. If I can use them anyone can.

It takes a while the first time you start using it but you get faster. You need to set up a paypal account too. I used to say collection only for big items to save on postage and they still sold and people came and got them!

Lovely day took kids swimming with H and then spent afternoon at Grandpa's.

Mumfun is it good news or bad about your H wanting to try again? I'm not sure I know your full story

Hi everyone really busy at the moment with work so not had much time.

Did just notice this though somewhere...

"To keep a lamp burning, we have to put oil in it." ... true on various levels me thinks

MumFun, interesting news on the H front, food for thought I guess, glad to see you posting again

Starting, does this include boots? Can't remember now who was into the boot thing - think it was Beauty - was it you too?

Pink, DS1 kind of ok, pretty much the same

Waves to all dumplings...............

Hi Tea, glad you got to bring dc's swimming. May come back to you for a lesson on the ebay front!

Hi Happy, hope you're not turning into one of them gals where it all work, no play ! I confess, I am indeed in possession of a fair number of boots !

OMG there is a drop dead sexy man just on tv! He's just said in interview he's heading to edinburgh tomorrow, anyone located there?? Shit, sorry he's just said he has a wife .

Had to tear myself away from cleaning & do college work tonight. No lunches done yet!

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Hello ladies, gorgeous weather here again. My H sent me a text last night that made me hopping mad again Men hey?

How are all my fellow dumplings?

Starting what's this sexy man's name? Want to google

Hi Tea, sorry no idea what his name was, he was Italian though. My exh has just done something that has me hopping as well. Feel the fu*king rage coursing through my veins!!

Waves to all.....

It must be full moon tonight as my X has sent me hopping mad as well.

He has been snooping around in my hotmail account again, despite me changing passwords three times. Getting very tired of this, wonder how difficult it would be to send a computer virus to his computer

I've since been restored to serenity tg! Dutchy, sorry to hear you're also being triggered to rage! Can't for the life of me understand how he can manage to get your password. Is he a wiz with computers? You could always report him at this point but I guess that's a last resort as it'll make things strained with dc.

Waves to all. Hope nobody else is being affected by full moon syndrome.

glad you have serenity Starting and sounds like it is something that we all need to work on

perhaps a meditation evening in order

Dutchy change your secret questions if you forget your password with hotmail, that maybe how he's doing it.

Or change e-mail addresses to a google one or something and e-mail everyone to let them know?

Another fab day today. Had a hair cut last night and went for a rather outrageous hair style. Is it me moving on from H and wanting something new?

Great idea Tea, may have a new hair cut and colour too. Techie friends have taken care of the email situation, X is just such a sh*t and I feel so stupid and guilty for ever getting involved with him, I should have seen through him.

Wonder if I can pull it off to go baby blond again at 34?

New beau is back tomorrow night from business trip, apparently he is bringing me some presents

Sorry to hear all the Xs have been making trouble.

Mumfun - that's a big thing to think about. You seemed to be settled with the situation as it was so it must be so hard!

I've had an interesting few days. I spent quite a lot of time with H yesterday. We drove to aberystwyth together (3 hours each way). He did some stuff for work and I took DS to play on the beach and caught up with an old friend (we both went to uni there) I didn't know what to expect of it all, but we actually had (I think) a good, relaxed time. Talked about his work stuff, and politics, and DS on the way in, which was nice cos we'd really given up having adult conversations for a long time.

Had dinner before we left and he told me about his day and was interested in what DS had been up to.

It was all very friendly, nothing more but we hadn't been able to communicate like that in a long time. Things felt easy and it was nice.

He's also been more thoughtful and considerate over the last couple of weeks than he has been since DS was a baby (he took DS home with him after the trip which meant I could go straight to sleep, and has offered to have him for an extra night on Friday as I'm off early saturday morning)

I'm feeling a bit unsettled now as I'm finding this polite and considerate man attractive in a way I realise I hadn't in a long time! I have no wish to rush into anything at the moment - things are too good right now -but I would really like to know that he has seen the change in me too. I'm not going to ask because I've pushed everything in our lives so far and I want to know that this is coming from him, but it is hard not to wonder.

At least I know that I have changed because in the past I would have been jumping on every little thing to try to get what I want, and now I can sit back and wait and see without having to take control. Being a dumpling makes you free to be what you need to be sometimes

I've gone baby blonde at almost 32, so I reckon you could do it Dutchy

OK Tea, you convinced me, I will be a baby blonde by next week!

Beauty please come back, we need more beauty advice!