Are you 100% certain your dp/dh would never cheat on you?

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if you are why do you feel that way?

I am truly interested in the answers to this seeing as Mark Owen has joined the long line of celebrity cheating ar*eholes.

Also when I first met my ex h I would have bet a £million that he would never cheat on me. Even though it was in my face I trusted him implicitly because of all the things he said and his reactions to other peoples infidelities.

I personally am of the opinion that all men cheat given the opportunity, don't flame me though these are just my personal experiences of men. I have been in the army and worked mostly in male dominated environments so have extensive experience of random men and their relationship habits.

Perhaps 99% sure. have to leave the remote possibility that Kylie or Cheryl would whisk him away.

He obviously has a 'type' as I'm just like those 2. A 5'8" heifer

ds's hamster cheats with cotton wool. he has rough wool sex.

He sleeps in the day. unsociable and smells.

is it against law to feed it to cat?

doing fine hoochie. bought a slow cooker, another doggy and going to morocco . Miss the bastard a bit though

Morocco, hey! That's on my list of interesting places to go, unfortunately DH hates the idea of the place

Sorry that you're missing him - think about him at his worst, that should put paid to that quicksmart!

at the hamster, btw.

ah, the only difference now is that it isn't stupid o'clock for me, hoochie - now I am in Australia so tis lunchtime for me! In fact, I must go and have lunch cos we are going to the da Vinci exhibition this afternoon to see his machines (in Newcastle, NSW)

lovely to see you again though!

UA - we had one hamster eaten by a cat and another one that kept escaping and ended up in the dishwasher - found it after a wash - hope the RSPCA wont turn up.

I think to say you are 100% sure your dp would not cheat is silly - just read some of the posts from women who find themselves in this situation and really cant believe it.

I think i learn more about myself everyday - i would never say never.

Anyone that does cheat i dont think sees it as that for a start it is something they dont think will ever be found out. They dont embark on an affair just to end their marriage - sometimes it ends up that way but usually that is not by choice and cetainly not the intention.

I'm confident enough to say that DW and I share similar values and in general think monogamy is a Good Thing and something to strive for. We wouldn't have got married if we didn't think that was the case. I expect that's true of most people on here.

But to have 100% confidence that another person won't do a particular thing? Can you ever? I'm not 100% confident that DW will never watch Quiz Call, buy an Eminem album, spend £1000 on chocolate or want to paint the living-room pink - even though these things are unlikely.

Shared values are one thing, but 100% confidence is quite another! I can't even be 100% confident about myself, let alone her. We still have a very happy and strong marriage "despite" that.

Just picked up on this thread, been away.
I agree with Happywoman, my relationship ended because I found out about my cheating Ex H. He always says he never intended me to find out and never wanted to leave me, but I made him chose between me and OW, so he chose her. I have to live with that now.

I can never say that I am 100% certain. I'm not 'certain' of anything, never mind something completely outside of my own control, but I do trust him to do the right thing and I do know that he is a very loyal, truthful person. So all things being equal I am as sure as I can be that I picked a faithful one and happy that my trust is well placed with him.

I trust my husband 100% but that is not at all the same thing as knowing 100% that he wouldnt cheat.

You cannot know something like that 100%. Am pretty certain of it, think it highly unlikely, but all I can do is trust..and hope for the best.

No is my answer. Not because I think he probably will or that I think there is any particuarlar weakness in our relationship but because life changes.

Imo anyone who thinks their OH would/could never is being naive.

Ofcourse not EVERY man(nor woman) cheats and I would like to think mine never would (would be devestated) but people change, life changes, relationships change. I would never be so naive to think that everything in our life will remain as it is now and that it could NEVER happen.

I think if you really 100% think it could never happen in your relationship then prehaps just possibly it could - complacency and all that perhaps???

Who would be so foolish as to think they can guarantee someone's behaviour? Crazy. I couldn't even say that I wouldn't cheat.

Most people given the circumstances would do the unpredictable.

I have just stumbled on this thread and skimmed through. It interested me as it is something that I have been thinking about a lot lately. I don't think he would cheat on me. We have a great relationship really and a good sex life.

However, since recently seeing a thread on mumsnet about a woman who was browsing punternet and possibly seeing escorts it really got me paranoid. I was intrigued and looked at punternet. Wish I hadnt in a way as it is a forum much like this, except the men on there are discussing the prostitutes that that have slept with.

A lot of these men seemed like 'normal' husbands. While I could not ever imagine my dp having an affair as such I do wonder if he would ever be tempted by sex with a fantasy figure. He tells me he never would but you can never be sure can you.

Sorry i meant a woman whose husband had been browsing punternet

There's nothing "normal" about a man who would pay to use a woman's body for sexual gratification imho - they have a very abnormal attitude towards their wives for one thing.

Posie, I'm definitely not foolish, I just know my husband as well as I know myself, after almost 30 years I would be worried if I didn't.

Malificence. I agree. They appeared quite normal though, It really has made me feel quite sick that their wives haven't got a clue

M....sorry about 35 into my parents marriage, my father who was 100% unlikely to cheat did just that. Trust is one thing, 100% is foolish. You can't say that 5 years from now after financial ruin, illness or whatever you've neglected your husband, become distant and along comes a little piece of happiness in an otherwise unhappy life that your DH wouldn't stray.

I can say just that as it happens, because all that and more has happened and he didn't stray and neither did I - so I do know. We've both been tested to our absolute limits and managed to stay true to each other.

Mal - this is genuinely out of interest (I think we know each other well enough now to know our questions of eachother come from a good heart

I'd be really interested in your H's view about what might have happened during your bad patch, if an attractive woman had started wooing him and telling him how wonderful he was? Would he have been totally immune to that, or even a bit tempted, especially if he thought there was absolutely no way you would ever find out?

You see, I often think my H's affair was an appalling set of circumstances. Just at the point when he was feeling lower than he'd ever felt - about himself, about his appearance, about his potential at work - OW got in contact, completely out of the blue.

You might recall that in our case, H had rejected OW 13 years earlier when she had propositioned him, but this was at a time when he felt wonderful about himself and had high self esteem. I genuinely don't think my H would have ever have had an affair if an opportunity had not presented itself at this time.

I'd be really interested in your H's honest views on this.