ive lied. how do i sort it out

[totallovefool]

I had been seeing this man for about 5 months on and off.
He contacted me a couple of weeks ago and we got talking.

I told a small lie, which is seems has changed everything, and based on that he wants to give it another go.

I didnt intentially lie, i thought it was harmless due to the on/off nature of our relationship. I never expected to talk to him again, let alone for this to happen.

So, now there is this big fat lie in the way.
Ive been avoiding it, or being vague for the last few weeks. But, i feel so guilty. I cant lie to him anymore, especially if he wants to give it a go. Id love to give it a go. I love him.
But im almost sure, if i tell him the truth that will be the end of it.
but i cant fix the lie.

i dont know what to do.

yes i like it

of course i do

or else i would be quite crazy

and i would quite like to be a living sex toy actually. well for a weekend in any case.

i appreciate it doesnt make sense to most people and if is most definatley about control and power.
but its consenusal control and power.
if he wasnt so controlling i wouldnt like him.

i know that sound fucked up. but there are lots of people that enjoy this, not just me. so i cant be that weird.

he has lot of latex himself too. He has already brought me some new latex too.

this dress www.westwardbound.com/content/content_prod_detail.numo?idarea=&id=9792

This is beyond the realms of what I am able to comprehend. I don't understand why you would want a power struggle in the bedroom, when life is such a power struggle anyway.

Although I realise that you didn't come on here to ask our opinions on your sexual preferences. It's just hard to advise when I have no experiance of an issue.

The kinkiest thing I have is a suspender belt :/

I think its sad that you say you love him.
Because, from what you've said, this is a game to him.

Forget about the lie, forget about him coming over this weekend. You're going to get hurt here I think.

..and I dont mean spanked.

i love the ballet boots. i think they are beautiful

hes dom/master im sub/slave.

of course i want to hang on to him. its taken ages to find him and was just amazingly lucky.

of course he keeps coming back into my life. its the same situation for him.

he is likely to be a huge arse about the fact that ive lied.

mind you

i supose it will prove if he actaully likes me as much as he proclaims

or, if its all about the latex

He admits he likes making me jump thought hoops. and i enjoy winding him up and pissing him off.

right so then he thinks himself a Dom and you are a bratty sub who needs a slap - at least you have a reasonable outlet to settle this dispute

Or maybe you are mistaking dominance for being a controlling jerk???

Actually this all sounds a bit immature to be honest - you are a grown woman and games aside you just need to be straight up - if you are into BDSM you will now one of the major benefits of this sort of relationship is the honesty - i think you are both missing the point here.

Just be honest - if he dumps you then he's a shallow asshole and you have been a bit silly but it's not a biggie so just get on with it.

Be honest.
Just say - Look Brian, thing is I dont have all those items, I lied because I wanted to impress you. Because I miss you. Sorry about that.

You'll then know what to do from his reaction.

lol at Brian.

This thread is nuts.

and probably it is all about the latex and that you are so easy to make jump through silly hoops - any Dom worth his salt would require a bit more than that

And Westward Bound? a bit British Home stores of the Fetish world in my ever so humble opinion - try House of harlot or pretty Pervy for something really special.

And ballet boots are beautiful for sure, every girl should have them

I think you need to distinguish between being controlling for the hell of it and being a Dom, they are so very different

Weird thread though for sure - but this daft kind of dependence is par for the course in some pervy relationships particularly if one or both are inexperienced - it all gets a bit out of proportion and to be honest you need to rationalise this a bit and shop around for someone with a little more to offer.

OP, have you posted something similar before ?

I am racking my brains...there was something about extending the sub thing to daily life or summat...you know like being led around Asda on a dog lead (I might be getting that bit wrong, but you get the gist...)

fuck, I wish I could remember it...or twas someone addicted a dom dickwad and couldn't let it go.....Oh, woe is meeeeeeee

If anyone ever tries to convince me this sub/dom stuff is a good thing, I just laugh my head off

how the fuck do you get through a day with all this constant, silly drama

attention-seeking, the lot of it

and yes, I judge and find it bollocks

< hoists bosom and adjusts pince-nez >

It's all a bit Emo, isn't it? "I love him"- pah.

yup... and that one started off as a verrry slow reveal too , with lots of coy, teasing references to bdsm

like...ohhh no, I couldn't possibly tell you....oh go on then

< awaits MN trouncing, tarring and feathering as a troll-hunter >

BOF.. can you shed any light on this ?

can you extend my thoughts in any way ?

Charge him for every BJ. Make movies and flog them.

flog him and then flog the movies

win/win

on that note, I am off to flog my husband...

Good idea Anyfucker, let him beat that

Just tell him the missing items are at the dry cleaners.

that dress looks like a giant purple condom.

how much talc do you get through btw?

There's some nice wellies on that ballet boot site

Dont believe a word of it!