Personality Disorder - any success stories of living with them?

[feelingpositivemum]

Just that really, is there anyone out there who has successfully changed the way they are and react to someone with a PD (abusive) to make a success of the relationship?

(Really, could I have changed the way I reacted to my exH and forced him to change his behaviour. Did my lack of boundaries make it worse, and if I developed some would he have responded positively?)

I find it ironic - and sad - that we're all being careful to say we're only talking about NPD (and justifying the label) to someone who's displaying the very characteristics we describe.

STIDW, you are making everything about you; you are trying to invalidate others' experiences & beliefs; you are trying to bludgeon us with 'superior knowledge' and you are picking up on words out of context; you are going off at tangents.

If you seriously think you are being reasonable, you could do worse than compare your posts with borderliner's last. Maybe your meds need adjustment, I don't know. Something's wrong with your attitude & reasoning though. Please go away and fix it.

True, Grace -- for me this is out of respect for Borderliner and others who have described their experiences and shown insight into how other people are feeling.

STIDW, again, your remark about parental alienation has no place on this thread. Why did you mention it?

She mentioned it I assume because it is pop psychology and she is likening using that as a throwaway explantion as us using PD's to explain behaviour too - she is just being contrary and unpleasant.

Her posts have been trolly and snidey and I think there is an element of attention seeking with them. She hasn't even made any new points, it's just the same old thing until one of use relents and comes round to her way of thinking - to my mind, hell will freeze over first.

ST - like I said my ex has been diagnosed, does this make my experience more valid for you? Do I have more right to express my feelings because of this?

Is it the same as if someone is drinking to excess and to the detriment of those around them, are they still an alcoholic without a formal diagnosis?

I am torn between pity for your misplaced pedantry because obviously splitting hairs is so important to you but also filled with contempt for your lack of empathy and grace. Your superior attitude to people posting here is spectacularly insensitive to their experiences. Stop it and get some help with whatever issue it is that plagues you.