Is this controlling or am I in the wrong?

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Soz 4 name change, got to be quick.

DP was working until 8pm tonight. So I spend all day looking forward to seeing him.

He gets in at 9.45 and tells me I need to help him get shopping out of the car. Ok, dressing gown, slippers, thick snow, freezing temperatures ... but I agree.

5 minutes later, he looks in the cupboard and says "hmm, you've had two buns today?" I say "no, I've had one, DS also had one" he then kicks off saying I was in wrong for giving DS one and this is why nothing ever lasts.

It worries me however that he knew exactly how many buns were in the cupboard to know one had been eaten.

He then kicked off because the washing up hadn't been done.

He then kicked off because there was a bit of drinking chocolate on the floor (which I hadn't noticed). He then kicked off because I hadn't fed the cats (and then because I fed them too much).

He then went off on a tirade: "I come in from work, the house is a shit hole. washing up not done, crap all over the floor, sod all has been done ... "

I felt about 5 years old

Hmmm....reminds me of a friend's ex- critical, picky, controlling....One night, in front of his 2 kids from a previous relationship, whom she'd looked after and fed all day, he said "Why haven't you ironed my best shirt? I'm going out tonight!" (first she'd heard of it....).

So....she flung his dinner at his head. And got a round of applause from his kids.

They are separated now. She is much happier (about not having to have cloth napkins on the table for every meal, among other things). He is still a miserable git.