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poorly person or hypochondriac? you decide

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orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:32

Been seeing this man for four months. It's begun to strike me that he very regularly has an ailment. A sympathy-generating ailment. Or am I being harsh? Is he genuinely unlucky in the health department?

For instance: he has sinus problems, then asthma. Fair enough, I can see that he has this.

Two weekends ago, he was awake in the night with back ache and had to wake me up to say he was going to get himeslf 'some warm milk to help him feel better' hmmmm. Why wake me up at 2am to tell me this?

This weekend he's had a numb big toe, then a numb foot and lower leg (I think it's because he strained it while taking some exercise)he thinks it's something more sinister and it's been the main topic of conversation.

He's also had a 'nasty splinter'

a headache

and last night, he had a bad dream, then three long and troubled incidents of feeling queasy, which involved lights on, noise and waking me up at 4am onwards.

I feel I am loosing sympathy. At first, I would be concerned, now I'm

Am I being unfair?
Am I being too tolerant?

Opinions please!

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cocolepew · 23/11/2009 17:37

Hypochrondriac, hide the medical dictionary.

thesunshinesbrightly · 23/11/2009 17:39

Hypochrondriac, sorry i cant help but

cocolepew · 23/11/2009 17:40

The waking you up seems a bit needy what did he expect you to do? Is he under stress at work or anything?

Sorry but I did at "nasty splinter".

My DH gets no sympathy.

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:42

Oh lord - this is what I was worried about!

Whatever to do about it?

Say something or just ignore his medical woes?

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coppertop · 23/11/2009 17:42

For me the real issue would be his total lack of consideration for you. Even if his many ailments are genuine he doesn't need to wake you up to tell you about them or switch the lights on at 4am.

He would drive me insane.

cocolepew · 23/11/2009 17:44

Say "stop moaning you fucking old woman".

HTH

AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:44

omg, get shut of him

is this how you want to spend the rest of your life ?

what a fucking mummy's boy

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:44

Well Coco - I'm beginning to think that he is going down the route of if he wakes meup (not that we spend lots of nights together!), that I'll go and tend to his needs for 'warm milk' etc.

TBH - it was the 'warm milk' thing that made me think hello - what's going on here. It's not really that normal is it?

I have been ignoring it all, but the ailments are stacking up.

I also guffawed at 'nasty splinter' !

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SolidGoldBangers · 23/11/2009 17:45

He wants you to look after him. He is a self-obsessed whiner by the sound of it.
And (no disrespect to those who have nursed family members or friends through awful illnesses, quite a different matter) there is something fairly thoroughly unerotic about someone who's always got a boohoo-poorly thing, or a sore foofy or whatever.

AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:46

yeahh, don't he sound sexy?

not

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:47

Anyfucker - you took the words right out of my mouth.

I came seriously close to telling him to pull himself together last night at about 5am, but for sanity's sake, I pretended to sleep through the whole episode.

Beginning to wish I'd said something now...

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cocolepew · 23/11/2009 17:47

I've decided "warm milk" is even funnier than a "nasty splinter". Really he wants a mother figure. Have you ever asked why he feels 'ill' so often and why he feels the need to share?

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:49

I'm going to whisper this as some of you have helped me previously...

He's the one who ahem - oh golly goshed in the boudoir - apologies if this means nothing, I'm crap at links, just embarrass myself with attempting. I went by the moniker of toopolite then...

The saga continues eh? Doesn't bode too well really

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AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:50

does he ever ask for "bitty" ?

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:51

AF - you don't know how close you are with that.

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AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:51

OMG

I remember you !!

Nooooooo, this has to be a wind-up but it is a very funny one !!

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:52

I feel deep shame in confessing here again!

Why?

Why?

Why?

Where are all the nice, normal men?

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AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:52

I am pissing myself here

< wipes tears from eyes >

AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:53

he dresses up in a nappy and sucks a dodey, right ?

cocolepew · 23/11/2009 17:53

Oh no! Him! I was thinking about you the other week (no life emoticon). Well I'm right he wants a mummy.

Have you got him saying "bite me bitch" yet?

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:53

Seriously - not a wind up!

I've been deliberating whether to post this after all the disbelief at the other thread, but I just can't stop thinking about it all and I need MN wisdom. In spades.

Absolutely, seriously - this is not a wind up!

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AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:54

ohhh, if you are genuine I apologise for my utter lack of tact, but OMG

< faints from laughing too hard >

orangelampshade · 23/11/2009 17:55

Coco - nope! He is still making free and easy with the 'gosh'

Thank you for thinking of me though!

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thesunshinesbrightly · 23/11/2009 17:55

Just tell him to shut up and stop being a baby! god men.

AnyFucker · 23/11/2009 17:56

ok

one word for you in advice

BIN

alternatively, as I think you were advised on the other thread, keep him as a pet and keep all us MN'ers entertained with his bloody weirdness

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