Will never forget... the most hurtful/ insensitive/ ridiculous comments you heard from DP/DH

[TrippleBerryFairy]

Thought to start this after yesterday I got treated with following:

'...your leaking boobs are not exactly helping with my libido!' - - said as a rude joke (they're ok in our relationship but this has gone waaaay to far!) and followed by tons of appologies for the rest of the evening.

I forgave but will never forget.

Would you like to share yours if any?

oh i've got loads. and i'm still with him. planning to leave when the time is right though.

apparently i am disgusting, an unfit mother, mentally ill, a freak, obese (i'm not...), a wimp for having an epidural, a failure for not having natural births (emergency section followed by planned section), boring, uncool, rubbish at housework, and so on. every day i get insulted...

worst one is when i was attacked a year ago, mugged and woke up having blacked out with a fractured cheekbone, and he did not say one sympathetic thing - he said i was disgusting and it was my own fault (happened on way home from night out with some work colleagues that he hadn't wanted me to go on). he literally did not show any sympathy at all. and yet we live under the same roof and i was on hospital visits, x-rays etc for months afterwards.

funny thing is i don't let it get to me at all and actually feel stronger and have more self esteem than ever before.

feel like showing him this thread - not that he would read it - to show him how bad it looks written down.

he doesn't think he's ever been out of order and has never apologised.

god that sounds rubbish doesn't it. and there are tons more. i need to escape...

These are all so sad ladies.
I'm very sorry that you had/have to put up with these comments.

and at these.

Frenchie-don't wait. you need to escape like yesterday.

my ex said

y''ouv'e had so many boyfriends0i'm just the unlucky one who's having a child with you.''

my first boyfriend called me a bitch when i got better a-level grades than him.

sorry typos-one hand.

This has turned into a VERY sad and bitter thread. I realize it could help when the person mentioned is an ex, but it certainly does not when the men involved are current partners!

I feel I need to counteract this thread...

Aurynne

yesterday's was a treat - only the truth i suppose but he could have found another way to put it; 'i don't like you going on top because you're too heavy'

note this from a man who weighs 18 stone

After I found out that he had arranged to meet a 19yo for drinks - i got mad and said maybe we should separate.
He said he would quit his job, run up loads of debt, and take off.
I asked if he would really do that to the kids...he said (with hatred in his eyes) "no, I would do it to you".

He also said I should F off back to Canada without the kids.

My ex once said about my long thick hair and my short, a bit overweight, stature (at that time) that I looked like... (that little female smurf)... can't remember her name...

Then further down the line in a heated row 'pre divorce' he said that I was 'short, fat and ugly and should crawl in next to my Mother (who has passed away)... .

But Hey! King Size Jerk... who begged to come back and start afresh... No Way.

Isn't it lovely to look back and laugh and feel no stab of pain or remorse.

DH once said I was "boring". I was suffering from depression at the time, so was probably true although there was nothing I could do about my social phobia except work at getting better, which I have done.

However, he has lived to regret it big time as every refusal to get out and do something is now met with "so who is the boring one now?". Cue shamefaced cringing, mwah ha ha...

I've forgiven, but I will never forget.

The moment I realised it was over - I was throwing up in the toilet, had to ask him to come and take DS away as he was trying to investigate. He came up, saw I was being sick, didn't even ask if I was OK but said "You've probably given yourself food poisoning, you've probably fucking given it to DS as well, great. I can't believe you've made our son ill."

As if I didn't already feel guilty enough for possibly food-poisoning my own son. Turned out to be a stomach bug anyway (and he got it too in the end, ha!)

Well, i got, at 6.30 this morning as he was about to go shooting all day and leave me with all 3 kids, "You're an opinionated, controlling bitch at times and you need to let me have a life". Followed shortly by "I'll sell the house give you our money and we can go our separate ways". Oh and aparently i'm a lush too.

. Needless to say I'm having a shit day.

I made a photograph album this July for our 10th wedding anniversary, we have been together 21 years, so it went from then to now, as DH looked through it we got to a before kids, height of the 90's glam night out picture and he said 'oh wow you look nice (pause) there, 'there' being intallics of I knew how to do them. EG: as you look such a shocker now.

I was so pissed off is was over 14 years ago before kids, sleepless nights etc etc.

He said he did not mean it, it just came out.

Thanks!

About 20 years ago DH and I were having one of those silly "I love you", "I love you more" type arguments. In all seriousness he said "No, I definitely love you more than you could ever love me, because you're quite shallow". He believed it too.

Thinking about it now, he may well be right. [shallow emoticon]

crikey

i'm so sorry for the s h i ? that some of you have had to put up with. this thread was a timely remind of how good it is for me to be single, and how happy i am that way.

This is all a bit depressing isn't it? I'm sure my dh has said lots of horrible and nasty things to me, but I've been equally responsible for saying shit to him too.

It works both ways.

Reading this just gives a very one-sided view and is really bloody depressing.

I was part way through chemo and just getting comfortable'ish' taking off my wig in the house.We had been out for the evening and I whipped off the wig(very scratchy and hot).He looked over at me and said
"It doesnt suit you being bald"

I will never forget

A rather ridiculous comment from my DH the other night - not particularly hurtful or anything. He came home absolutely bladdered, had obviously had a bad day at work and decided to pick a fight on why I hadn't left a dinner out for him! This was from someone who went out for a big business lunch and told me he wanted no dinner. When challenged - he said so, you're a housewife aren't you - cook me a dinner!!

I laughed, continuously in his face. How dare he?? He apologised profusely the next day - this is totally NOT the kind of thing I would ever do - or he would ever ask for. I won't ever forget it though.

frenche iand bigus u ok?

This thread makes me feel very sad and very lucky. DH has never said anything to me remotely on a par with these.

flowery how the bloody hell are u? how lovely to see you

I am so so sorry to hear all the vicious things your P/Hs (i can't get myself to call them dear) have said to you.

i guessi am very lucky that the worst thing a boyfriend ever said to me was "I've never had a fat girlfriend before" (note, i was a size 10 at the time).

Hi mehdismummy, lovely to see you too. I'm very well thank you, 36wks pg at the moment so spending a lot of time with my feet up which is nice.

How's things with you?

This thread is making me feel quite down.

And it's quite sobering to realise that I myself have undoubtedly been horribly hurtful at times to XPs in the past.