who helped me move:
he is probably angry and maybe surprised that you have friends with resources. Thinks you have another man.
did I use a van:
suggests he thinks a man was involved.
who had been chain smoking at the back gate: again he thinks there's a man involved.
when did I decide it was over:
again the man suspicion. No idea what he could have done to run it into the ground.
why didn't i tell him:
poor me, left in the dark. Also, hinting you have been underhand and cheating on him, have something to be ashamed of.
when will I allow him to see his son:
red flag -- warning use of the term "his son". Expect a fight on access to your DS, ATA. And lots of ongoing issues re contact times, places. You need to get this sorted with a solicitor asap.
if this is why I wouldn't lend him some of my car money:
duh, not too bright is he...
where I was living:
suspects you are with a man. No need to answer this if you don't want to, even though it's a direct question. You could reassure him you're safe and comfortable "and thanks for your concern."
if it was private rented:
thinks a man may be paying the rent or taking care of you somehow.
if I was ever going to tell him where I was living:
again you don't have to. If he finds out and harasses you or if you feel afraid, get an order.
what should he do regarding bills:
hope you told him to pay them? Poor baby...
had I met someone else:
the crux of the matter.
why did I leave while he was at work:
again DUH....
why didn't I tell him when he rang me at lunchtime on moving day:
suggests you are being dishonest. This is mild attack mode.
what if I decide in 6 months time I want to come back:
this is wishful thinking on his part, also shows he thinks you are a flake who doesn't stick to her decisions.
if he can call me up on the phone:
better to say no on this.
I think he is looking at this from a pov of wounded manly pride and he has also decided that his behaviour towards you has no bearing on the matter. He is not prepared to be accountable for his part in the end of your relationship. He is accusing you of being underhanded, presenting himself by contrast as reasonable and direct, and he is also very suspicious that there's another man involved (which also lets him off the hook as far as his behaviour is concerned).
Lots of love ATA to you and your DS. xxxxxx