FAB & GLAM 10 - Gosh, Do We Really Talk That Much???

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Hi, new thread

Lovely to see all the old posters again. Don't go now you are back.

Annie/UC/MHIS - lovely to see you and thanks MHIS for the FB chat.

I'm with HW and TFM Tannee. I've lost count of the ultimatums I've given DP and never carried any of them through
In the end they lose respect for you and just carry on regardless as they know you don't mean what you say.
I feel for you though, it is so unfair that you are torn between DP and DD like this.

Happy Easter everyone

Happy Easter from me too - hope you all have a great day and eat too much choccy!!!

Hello Everyone

It's been a while since I have felt able to post on here but I have kept an eye on you all and just wanted to share with you my news on how far I've come since I left you all, a gibbering wreck in September 2008!! (can't believe it is that long ago)

ATM I'm in the middle of moving to a lovely new house - that is MINE and DD's, I've started a fab new job (so no longer work for the MIL!!) and this week I received my decree absolute - whoooop whooooooop. I've also I've been on a few dates. Not 'Mr Right' but 'Mr Right Now'(s!!)

I can't describe to you how much better life is compared to last year. I am so much happier in myself, I have lovely DD and fab family and friends. I've emerged from the dark hole that XDH (!!!!!) put me in a much more self assured, positive and stronger person.

Hope that you all had a lovely Easter xx

Hi MyHead, good to hear from you again, and it sounds like things are going REALLY well for you. Hope everyone else is having a good hols?

Things calm here. Hard to give DP an ultimatum when he's being nice. We went out for the day on Saturday, picnic in a wood, it was like old times before things got bad. Heard on Saturday night that his best friend from school and his second wife have split up (only married a few years and we danced at their wedding). And the reason? His drinking. Seems the two of them have been binging since they were teenagers and DP told me they used to go on benders, but i didn't realise he had an addiction, too. Would hope DP would take in the message - ie, love is NOT enough to keep you together, when alcohol comes between - but no. They were a lovely couple and it must have taken a lot for her to give up on him.

Hey MyHead - great news! I always knew you would come out of it smiling with your head held high. Good luck with the move - what perfect timing that the move, the new job and the decree absolute happen about the same time - a real fresh start for you both.
Tannee- I know what you mean about it being hard to give ultimatums when they are being nice. They really are like 2 different people aren't they. The DP sat across from me on the sofa drinking tea and watching Eastenders is a million miles away from the monster he can be and all it takes is a few drinks. He's great atm but its always there in my head how easy it is for him to change and I never completely relax even though he hasn't done anything for ages.
He has had countless friends' marriages fail around him, but he always puts the blame on the wife, never on the drunk!! That's denial I suppose.
Anyway - now the weather has improved maybe its time for a meetup????

ooh yes, deffo time for a meetup. Any takers? Dior? HW? Annie? Anyone? Still hoping to lure TFM to London...

Yes Ginny, very hard when they're being good. Tried broaching DP's friend's situation with him tonight, but got nowhere. Just said his wife/ex said she'd had enough and she left him in February after just two years of marriage. He went missing over the weekend, which is why she called us, and she sounded really anxious, trying to track him down (turns out he'd fallen, knocked himself out, and was in hospital). DP said I should ring her 'so you can talk to her about me'. Ha! She may have had enough, but she obviously still cares about him. I feel some sisterly solidarity coming on. I feel so angry about the drinking. They're both good men, and they are destroying their chances of happiness for the sake of some liquid oblivion because life has dealt them some tough cards and they can't deal with the good cards that they have (aka us lovely women!).

Yes I'm up for a meet up What beautiful weather today

MHIS - glad things are going well for you
Tanee - you must be very busy at work atm. LD if iirc? Were you impressed with NC's performance? The media certainly were.

Hi everyone Just popping in to let you know I'm still around and I'm doing great. I'm house hunting now so it's exciting times!! I'm feeling good and ready to take the step of moving out of the refuge and into my own place. I honestly cannot believe how wonderful I feel compared to how I felt when I first came in here. I am a different woman! Woop Woop! And I love me!!!

I hope everyone else is doing well and is ok. xxx

Great to hear you sounding so upbeat TFM Happy house hunting

Hurray for TFM - long may it last!

Hi TFM, that's fab news! Yes LL, it's manic w the election. Hardly time to breathe. I missed Nick's performance but he's done wonders for the polls. Looks like I may keep my job!

DD's 18th birthday today. Where has the time gone? Very proud of her, especially with all the crap I've put her thru. DP a bit remorseful this morn, wants to wish her but didn't know how . He seems better but it's a slow process...

Hi guys, sorry for long quietness (somehow missed this thread reviving last week).

Delighted to hear of TFM's house hunting, and sure that a positive person like your good self will quickly find somewhere you like.

Happy birthday to Tannee Junior. She is now officially grown up!

Am currently available for meet-ups in south east.

Happy birthday to Tanee's dd Wistful memories of hitting 18 - so many possibilities, so much time ahead to achieve them............... Sorry - mustn't be negative

Yes, I'm ready to meet up again! Would be good.

Hope you are all doing well girls. I have been ill with a nasty cold for the last two weeks. It is still lingering, but it was nice to have the Easter holiday potter around in. I think that I would have been worse if I had had to get up early every day.

Things with h ticking along. Not great, but not horrible.

Lovely to see MHIS again - thanks for the FB chats.

TFM - great news re the house hunting.

Tanee - good luck re the job!

Well, I'll certainly be up for a meet after the elections - will be a relief when it's over. Exhausted. Drank Cava with DD and her friends last night and after only one glass, was ready for my bed! She had a good afternoon and we're going to see HAIR tonight. Let the sunshine in . Hope they don't make us get on stage and take all our clothes off. That would not be a pretty sight!

Ah, must be lovely to have an adult daughter you can drink wine with I will be an OAP by the time dd is 18

Hair! Have fun!

Well, Hair was fantastic. We got a great bargain on Lastminute.com, in the 3rd row stalls, so got involved thoroughly, flowers in our hair and dancing on the stage at the end. Bit of an eyeopener when the cast got their kit off .

But better still, attended a Mumsnet Ironing event on Friday. And now awaiting my own iron to try out. Now, I never iron (except my patchwork), so this has caused much hilarity at home. DP thinks I'll start doing his shirts ....

Hi everyone.
Tannee i bet the elections are driving you mad - but it will soon be over.

Manic here - extra child for 5 weeks!! And a DD who has stopped doing any school work at all. Dont really know how to punish her (well i know what i should do just really hard to carry it through).

Love to do a meet up - but probably summer hols better for me now.

HW - I am counting the days! I have RSI from stuffing envelopes all afternoon and people are unbelievably rude to us on the phones. Why would you phone up a political party office, just to be rude to the staff? And I'm so polite to them! Good vibe in the office though, and plenty of laughs.

Looking forward to having our meetup, whenever.
Any luck with getting DD to work? Is she suffering from exam overkill? Tricky one.

Hi everyone

Just popping in to let you know I'm still alive! Still house hunting but enjoying myself at the Refuge a bit too much to be doing it seriously.

I'm on a course at the moment, it's brilliant! Aimed to help raise confidence and self esteem. There is a bit of drama involved too which I am also enjoying. I am playing the part of a mother which is very apt! we have even performed it in a local school today which was excellent!!

I'm doing a 7 mile sponsored walk too on the 23rd of May, in aid of the Refuge. If anyone would care to sponsor me then please feel free to do so!

Well, that's my briefing! I hope everyone else is ok and doing well. xxx

DD not exam work - just generally not doing anything at school. Treats it like a social event and 'stupid teachers' stop that.
She is clever she just acts the fool all the time. Driving me and h mad.
Sure it is just hormones and boundaries but still hard to cope with on a daily basis.
Finding it very exahausting - she has an arguement for everything. Just wish i could fast forward a couple of years.

Glad to hear you are enjoying the vibe at work Tanee - despite the hecklers Hair sounds like fun

Glad all is well with you TFM. On unpaid leave atm but would sponsor you if I could - or could do it retrospectively when back at work in Sept. Good luck with the walk. I'm trying to do a 5k run to raise money for the SCBU dd was at Halfway through a running programme and atm hard to see how I will be able to run 5k but positive thinking is key here I reckon

HW - sorry to hear your dd is being a bit workshy. I went through a phase like that when I was about 15/16. Hated school and found lessons really dull. Used to skive a lot Loved A Levels though and managed to go on to uni and get a degree. Hopefully your dd is just going through a phase.

Hope everyone else ok.

Lush good luck with the run - we do the race for life every year - i dont think i will be able to run it this year - even dd (6) will run and beat me.

TFM - did you get my donation yet?

Tanee hope it all goes well this week - actually quite excited by it all here too.

DD still being a pain - lush i too remember being like that which makes it all even worse. As i know nothing would have worked with me.
Sure it is a phase but wish it would hurry up and end and take away this horrible girl and replace with my lovely dd once again.