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Sex while breastfeeding

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winogal · 06/02/2009 19:40

My DS2 is 12weeks. My partner and I haven't had penetrative intercourse since a good while before he was born, but I'm keen to 'get back in the saddle', so to speak. Problem is, my body won't play ball. Whenever we 'make out' (eek - please excuse this awful turn of phrase), I don't get wet (sorry!) the way I used to. The same thing happened after DS1 and I think I read that hormones related to breastfeeding may be the culprit here. Anyone got any experience/advice?

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gemmummy · 06/02/2009 19:41

lube!!! enjoy!!

RipMacWinkle · 06/02/2009 19:44

yup - agree with gemmummy, KY is the way forward.

My only other tip is not to try both at the same time....

Disenchanted3 · 06/02/2009 19:48

Boots have an offer on durex condoms, lube and massage gel, 3 for 2 on any of them

foxinsocks · 06/02/2009 19:50

DO NOT get the ones that say tingle

pamplemousse · 06/02/2009 19:50

I had the same and looked it up, tis def the breastfeeding. Not to worry though, use the suggestions above

pagwatch · 06/02/2009 19:50

seriously. bad. thread title.

gemmummy · 06/02/2009 19:51

insist on lots and lots of oral prior to the penetration!

pagwatch · 06/02/2009 19:51

scrub that.
It is probably me being weird

100yearsofsolitude · 06/02/2009 19:53

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winogal · 06/02/2009 19:56

No pag, you're quite right right, it is an awful threat title that conjures up deeply disturbing images! But rest assured, the last thing I feel like when the wee blighter is latched on is a bit of 'how's your father?!' The KY solution is, I guess, the obvious answer. But was wondering if others had experienced the same. Would save me from feeling like dried out old boot!

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pagwatch · 06/02/2009 19:59

at winogal

I thought it was just me ...

I didn't have that problem but did have DH who found it impossible to cope with my producing milk every time he came anywhere near me . and when certain songs played on the radio. And if I tried to have a bath. I was like a human geezer....
He just steered clear for a while

winogal · 06/02/2009 20:03

Pag, am jealous at your -geezer-esque abilities (I suffer from poor supply but struggle on). But much more intrigued to know which songs made you 'productive'?!!!

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thisisyesterday · 06/02/2009 20:04

yep i've experienced the same thing. had no idea it was breastfeeding that did it though!

pagwatch · 06/02/2009 20:09

It was a long time a go with DS1 who is now 15.

More than words. Can't remember the name of the band - two guys with long hair.

nowanearlyNicemum · 06/02/2009 20:17

Extreme
great song
Had same problem while breast-feeding and agree with all suggestions given above.

Er, not the same problem with the songs though!

pagwatch · 06/02/2009 20:19

I remember going out to dinner for the first time when DS1 was about three months and as soon as we sat down...... that sodding song......

winogal · 06/02/2009 20:34

I remember that song well! Good to know that others suffer a similar plight. Feel like such a clapped out failure, but hopefully it will pass.

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whomovedmychocolate · 06/02/2009 20:36

It gets better btw - I had this problem for a few months and then my hormone levels dropped and we ditched the jelly!

onefunkymama · 06/02/2009 20:42

only caught the heading and it made me laugh, I've never tried having sex while breastfeeding, think the baby would fall off the nipple!

onefunkymama · 06/02/2009 20:42

only caught the heading and it made me laugh, I've never tried having sex while breastfeeding, think the baby would fall off the nipple!

pagwatch · 06/02/2009 20:44

winogal
don't think like that! Your babe is only 12 weeks. You are neither clapped out, nor a failure. Its just hormones etc.
you'll be fine

catMandu · 06/02/2009 20:48

winogal - don't forget contraception, I have living proof that bf doesn't give you any protection, but enjoy!

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blush1 · 06/02/2009 20:50

namechanged regular here

I *have) breastfed while in the act. DH and I were getting interested when DD woke up for a feed. It was perfectly possible to do both at the same time!

whomovedmychocolate · 06/02/2009 20:51

Yep DS is another one CatMandu!

I'm impressed you are up to it after 12 weeks, I think it took me about five months and even then it was the most careful gentle sex I've ever had (and I had a caesarian so I didn't really have any excuse!)

catMandu · 06/02/2009 21:28

whomovedmychocolate - I have 11 months between dc's, dh found the pg me a turn off, so we were both raring to go asap. Wouldn't be without ds now of course.

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