Going against my DH

[eNABlemetobebetter]

I don't want to say what it is as I want genuine unbiased opinions.

There is something I want to do. It is just for me. I think it will help me. DH doesn't want me too as he doesn't think it will help. Am I a really bad wife to still do it?

i have no one in rl. maybe that is the problem. i rely on mn too much.

lulumama, that was just what i was trying to say, but yours sounds so much clearer [

NAB - tbh, acknowedging you have a problem suggests that you are more "with it" than ignoring it.

Plesae try and find another counsellor so you can talk this through; if you don't want to go in depth because of awful life experiences, then I suggest you try and find someone who can do NLP or EFT as both of these have mechanisms for removing a lot of the fear and emotion from memories so it isn't as painful to explore them.

I rate NLP enormously - it has done wonders for me, even after the counselling I had.

I am off to bath the monkeys.

Thanks all.

not sure what i would do without mners to talk to tbh.

other days i know i use it too much and need to keep busy so I don't have time to think.

Lulu, can I hijack briefly to ask what you did to get better - I suffer as well and would be glad of a success story, you seem so sorted these days.

Did you have counselling?

Probably not a helpful response but you do have someone - you have your DH. That is a start isn't it, even a small start?

Lulumama and hedgewitch are saying some very wise words from their experiences so relying on MN is not a negative thing....but do let them guide you with their advice and experience. Also, accepting that sometimes the best advice is the hardest to actually undertake.

i had counselling, various meds, access to the crisis team and finally some private in patient treatment and seeing a consultant psych who prescribed different meds at a high dose that actually worked. it turned my life around.

it was hard work though

NAB, i don;t mean for a minute that you should not use MN, but it is not actually going to answer the questions that really need dealing with

we are all, i am sure, happy to support you, in conjunction with RL help you will be better and it will happen

am you have had no counsellig for 3 years though

sorry, that sounded kind of blasé ! it was over a period of years, but if i had know then what i know now, i would have pushed for more intensive help far far sooner

GPs are not experts in depression

i wish i had seen a psych far sooner,especially when it became apparent that anything the GP could prescribe was not touching the sides

Jeez, sorry, yes I do thumbwitch. I was getting mixed up with pregnanthedgewitch and assumed she'd had her baby in my madness - sorry, sorry!!

Yes NAB I meant thumbwitch!!!

Thankyou Lulu, that's quite encouraging

Didn't sound blase btw.

hope you are feeling tip top yourself, v v soon x

NAB try not to worry about losing your children, am sure there are lots of us here who have had episodes quite severe mental ill health, perhaps with lengthy admissions (including formal ones) and even without the backup of a husband or family not had our children taken into care

if anything the children are sort of invisible to the adult mental health services, who will view you as a patient rather than a parent (generally a Bad Thing), they are unlikely to do more than pay the bare minimum of lipservice to whether or not the children's needs are being met

am keeping my fingers crossed that the right sort of help materialises for you soon