My mum has advised me to terminate....... I don't know what to do

[preggydonuts]

I don't want to be flamed but would just like some advice. I am a regular.
I am thirteen + weeks with my fourth child which is the product of an affair. My OM has left his wife/ been thrown out twice but has gone back because of the children.
We have been seeing each other regularly still and this week his wife received two phone calls to say I am still in contact with him. He phoned me to say he couldn't see me anymore and when I replied 'ok' said 'don't say that'!
He then said he would text me monday--- he has another phone and email account.
I told him by text that if he blamed me fully for everything I would forward all of his emails and texts. Especially the ones were he promises he will grow old with me and that she will do something stupid if he leaves again.
Anyway my mum called last night to ask me to think again about having the baby. She is worried I am going to crack.
I am just so tired. I do really love him but I can say what he is doing. It just feels so cruel. No one their side knows about the baby I just don't want to put a child through pain because of me.
Thanks for reading.

I will not be responding to texts.....
I will not be responding to emails......
Om is now persona non grata
He has made his choice now I am making mine....

I want to say Good Luck but it sounds trite.

You know what I mean.

You will be OK. And wankyman and his wife do deserve one another and can go on making one another miserable forever while you go on to a better, happier life.

His wife DESERVES to be miserbale
FUCK me am just gonna stay away from here for the minute becaue it is making me so bloody mad I could spit - am going to enjoy my LOVELY NM who treats me with care and respect and not spare my STXH and HIS shagging exOW a single thought - and as for all you excusers I think you all deserve exactly what you get

preggydonuts, i read this thread and it made me cry. why do these men act in this way?(lies ,lies and more lies, broken hearts and tears all round).i am convinced both you and his wife are victims of this purile being.try and show yourself some compassion and go forward with your plan to have a great life with your children and without him.put your children and yourself first and forget about everyhing else.wankyman is a sperm doner, nothing more. lots of bright successful people come from single parent families, it is better to have one great parent than two crappy ones!wishing you luck.

Good for you preggydonuts. The more we hear about OM, the less appealing he sounds. The wife has a real albatross gem of a husband there.

GL

Well I have my commupence....
Om has emailed to say its hurting his w and him too much so I have to leave him alone....
And apparently my slightly unhinged father has threatened to sort him out.....
So why do I feel like telling her everything?
I know he has lied to her.......
I know no contact is the right thing I just feel so hurt........

PD you have already told this wanker to leave you alone: he is contacting you. (And he is the one who has hurt his wife, not you. HE is the person most to blame for this situation.) What an arsehole he is. Ignore his email, don't reply to it. Block all contact attempts from his wife if she is still harassing you. COncentrate on you and your DC.

I'm with solidgold - cut him out of your life completely.

If he tries to contact you, don't respond, but keep any emails/texts etc so if his Mrs comes round shouting the odds you can prove that it's him initiating contact. Better still change your numbers/email address ASAP.

If he wants anything to do with LO once he/she is born let him instigate contact - via a solicitor.

Best of luck - I'm sure you'll be fine once yo've got your head straight and that'll be much easier when you are having nothing today with this tosspot bloke

Turns out my mum and dad text him friday night after seeing me look like a nervous wreck.....
I am lucky to have supportive family......
I just need to get rid of that horrible gut wrenching feeling...
They [om and w ] have battened down the hatches and he has apparently told her everything....
I know this isn't true....

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Have emailed you.

Glad you have your parents on side preggy. This oM sounds awful. PP is right he has hurt his wife. HER self esteem must be on the floor that she is allowing him to get a way with his second affair, and deluded enough to blame you.

I agree with pp, get them OUT of your life and concentrate and you and the children.

PS good for your Dad, he's not even 1% unhinged. He's a good man, aghast at the behaviour that some men get away with these days. That is how my Dad is too.

Saw him at school this morning. Made me feel ill. He just blanked me.
Have epu tomorrow. Work have given me till monday off as I literally fell apart monday night.......