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I told DH I wanted to learn BURLESQUE dancing and didn't get the reply I wanted!

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Dragonbrandybutter · 03/01/2009 22:33

I found a class locally.
A one day workshop.
I thought it would be a giggle.
And i'd like to know how to do that tassles thing

Anyway, he said, 'have you finally lost your mind?, that's for old women with self esteem issues'

i told him not to be so negative and that I would have preferred him to be a little excited about it.
we haven't talked about it again.

but i still want to do it.
now what?

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Dragonbrandybutter · 04/01/2009 15:36

i is not fick either

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turtle23 · 04/01/2009 15:42

Dragon-where are you? There are some fab burlesque clubs around. If you're in my area I'll gladly take you. I know some of the organisers and it's always a riot.

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Dragonbrandybutter · 04/01/2009 15:46

not in surrey i'm afraid turtle, thanks though.
i don't particularly want to watch other people do it, just learn a routine and have a giggle with DH.

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TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 15:47

I know of the book and have a shelves full of feminist literature and if you knew me you would know how far I am from the airhead you are betraying me. Infact my ex husband cited my feminist ideas and practices as one of the reasons he could not live with me.

But I have a partner whose body I find attractive and he finds me attractive, we delight in looking at each other and acting in a sexual manner. Being a feminist does not mean that you cannot find pleasre in your own body or that of others.

There is a difference between what a consenting couple do in their own room and sexual slavery

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 15:49

Although hooray having looked at your other posts I suspect that you are just going from thread to thread trying to be witty, perhaps this is your audition piece for the place that shall not be named.

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Dragonbrandybutter · 04/01/2009 16:03

thanks twinset for helping out on this thread.
i can't post much as i have my head stuck in a textbook at the moment.

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petesneat · 04/01/2009 16:03

I agree. I think its a shit idea.

HoorayHenry · 04/01/2009 16:07

What you are going and looking me up?
Crikey.

I think I am flattered.

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 16:13

I am supposed to be writing reports.

Petesneat why say shit idea? What are you trying to achieve? Why not just say I think is isnt a good idea or suggest an alternative?

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 16:14

I am not looking you up Hooray I have just bumped into you on a few threads and the tone seems similar.

It is quiet on here today so you are standing out.

brimfull · 04/01/2009 16:16

well at least he doesn't see you as an 'old women with self esteem issues'

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 16:19

Yes there is always a positive to be found ggirl

holidaywonk · 04/01/2009 16:22

Belated at WartyBosoms.

Seriously - when men do as Warty suggests, then women taking up burlesque dancing will be just another thing that people do. Until men do as Warty suggests, women taking up burlesque dancing is an expression of gender disparity.

IMO.

Shoshe · 04/01/2009 16:25

Twinny do you know there is a belly dancing group in town?

And I think it is a brill idea.

And again anyone that knows me would NOT describe me as being enslaved . (Now DH that is another story )

shelleyloukissessantaselves · 04/01/2009 16:34

It isnt about poles they dont come into it at all. its using props such as feather boas and gloves

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 16:36

Do you go shoshe? I have been asked to go before by a friend before we moved but just lacked the confidence, although I am sure it would do me good.

I second the notion that you are not enslaved.

Shoshe · 04/01/2009 16:43

With my belly!!!!!

No actually I wouldn't mind, but with having Fibromyalgia an Lupus, it might not be a good idea.

Shoshe · 04/01/2009 16:43

BTW were you in Tesco earlier?

TWINSETinapeartree · 04/01/2009 16:47

No I am under house arrest so I can get my reports done.

Dp popped to homebase before but I dont think he went to tesco.

Hooray have you seen the knew Virgin Airways advert, that IMO is offensive and treating women as sex objects.

Shoshe · 04/01/2009 16:51

I was just pulling out the carpark and though it was you in a car, that's all.

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Dragonbrandybutter · 04/01/2009 21:49

I suspect i just picked the wrong moment to bring it up.

As for the 'burning bras' aspect.
There are no poles, i don't intend doing it in a club for strangers. Feminism has meant I have a professional career and earn more than my DH. Surely it shouldn't mean we can't have fun in the bedroom with our husbands. surely it's not degrading to feel sexual?

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puppydetox · 04/01/2009 21:53

my issue would be the learning part - with a teacher, and a bunch of other women (thinking of evening classes i've attended). surely just odd and slightly embarrassing? but then i was never one for ann summers parties either.

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petesneat · 04/01/2009 22:51

I think its to do with the objectification of women and the invasion of the porn "industry" into mainstream culture. You can't moan about Bratz toys in one breath and expect pole dancing to be seen as de rigeur in another. Feminism is not merely about equal pay.
But of course being educated you knew that.