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Dilema Sleeping with 20 year old, please be gentle

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 10:07

Please somebody come and slap me, I am a regular and over the festive period I have ended up sleeping with a 20 year old man and he keeps on wanting to see me I am a old women compared to him, I am 35 and single (people think I am only in my mid 20's), but he thinks I am sexy and he says he enjoys my company. Do I just enjoy this for what it is or knock it on the head.

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Northumberlandlass · 31/12/2008 10:08

Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy !!!!

Please don't worry about it and have fun!

xxxx

evaangel · 31/12/2008 10:10

did you enjoy it?

bigTillyMint · 31/12/2008 10:10

, ,

Nemostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 31/12/2008 10:11

if you are happy then enjoy it..

dietstartstomorrow · 31/12/2008 10:12

Enjoy!

Coldtits · 31/12/2008 10:12

er, enjoy it, why wouldn't you?/ He's 20, not 14!

35 isn't old.

My neighbour, when I was a child, had a husband 20 years her junior. He was actually younger than her eldest daughter - he was her second husband.

He has been a devoted husband, he is in his 50s now and she is in her 70s, and they are still together.

It can work. It may not work for you but that doesn't mean it is wrong.

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 10:15

oh yes best lover I have ever had

I havent told anyone in real life. I just cant believe it's happening to me

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LiffeyValleyOfTheDolls · 31/12/2008 10:17

Enjoy it, 'til the moment he starts making you feel old rather than young.

Rindercella · 31/12/2008 10:20
evaangel · 31/12/2008 10:20

enjoy it!
If he thinks your sexy, take the compliment, you can be sexy at 35

does he want to see you again?

whomovedmychocolate · 31/12/2008 10:21

Good for you. Just don't get pregnant!

brightwell · 31/12/2008 10:24

Heavens...enjoy & stay safe!

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 10:35

Yes I have seen him 4 times now and god I have never been so horny, he knows what he is doing in that department and so caring and always asking me if I am ok. And he texts me all time and every morning when he leaves he asks when he could see me again I just dont know how he could fancy me as he is gorgeous and a body to die for when I have a stretch mark stomach from hell and wobbly bits. And can hold a conversation he seems more mature than my ex husband.

Dont worry we use condoms and he doesnt complain about that!!! makes a change from some men I know.

I will just relax and enjoy, I have just been worrying to much about what the neighbours would think if they saw him leave or my friends, but he is most discreet leaves his car around the corner.

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lalalonglegs · 31/12/2008 10:38

God, I would be longing for neighbours to see - demand that he drives up to front gate, stereo blasting and blasts horn . Have a fabulous new year.

XmasFairyGrrrl · 31/12/2008 10:50

you are an adult, he is an adult, you are happy, he is happy. I see no problem myself. There's 12 years between DH and I and it's never affected our relationship. And there's nothing wrong with wobbly tits!

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 10:52

Oh lalalonglegs that made me laugh, gosh that would give the nosey old bat across the road something to moan, I could just imagine the look on her face. Very tempting

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Northumberlandlass · 31/12/2008 10:52

He's 20 and a good lover......fecking hell. I am v now.

xx

MumHadEnoughTinsel · 31/12/2008 10:54

Woooo hooooooooo, enjoy it!

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 11:11

You have all put my mind at rest. I will enjoy it and all the orgasms he is giving me

Will keep you all posted I am seeing him again at the weekend oh bliss, I am in lust

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QueenEagle · 31/12/2008 11:19

Oh, fantastic! Enjoy! If he makes you happy and is a fab lover, what is wrong with that? He loves your body as it is, he knows what he is doing, wow, wow, wow. (Little secret - I had a very brief fling with a 22 year oldlast year, I am 38 and it was awesome while it lasted). Like you I have stretchmarks and wobbly bits and I worried that I was old enough to be his mother - you have to put that aside and just enjoy it girl!!

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 11:23

Oh yes I worry about being old enough to be his mother. But the more reassurance that I have got from you all on here the bigger my grin is getting

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misscathcart · 31/12/2008 11:28

enjoy it! As long as you are both open about where it may or may not be going then I don't see the problem.

solidgoldstuffingballs · 31/12/2008 11:31

Enjoy, enjoy. It's doing you so much good!
I copped off with two 27-year-olds last month (and I am in my 40s). COuldn't get the spring out of my step for weeks .

Relationships don't have to follow the mundane path to the grave marriage-and-breeding to be valid and valuable: a short fling between consenting adults that ends amicably is life-enhancing and to be appreciated.

XmasFairyGrrrl · 31/12/2008 11:34

solidgold- were you madame z?

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toyboylover · 31/12/2008 11:43

Yes it is doing me so much good everyone keeps saying that I look so well!!!! If only they knew why

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