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Dilema Sleeping with 20 year old, please be gentle

72 replies

toyboylover · 31/12/2008 10:07

Please somebody come and slap me, I am a regular and over the festive period I have ended up sleeping with a 20 year old man and he keeps on wanting to see me I am a old women compared to him, I am 35 and single (people think I am only in my mid 20's), but he thinks I am sexy and he says he enjoys my company. Do I just enjoy this for what it is or knock it on the head.

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N1 · 31/12/2008 12:09

Enjoy the now. While you are swimming in the happy thoughts and memories, things will stay good, but good things don't last.

When the lad starts to get used to the idea that he has regular sex (and good company) then he might start to want more. The question should be, what more will the lad want? To move in? To spend more time with you? To have you and a relationship?

Perhaps the la might want nothing, but it's fair to say that the good times will end at some point..... then what.

Someone quiet rightly mentioned pregnancy. Have you considered the options if you get pregnant? Your answer might not be the same as the lad's answer...so already a diffrence of opinion.

Condoms..... If you start having sex with them, then you can have sex with them, but once you move from condom to flesh, then going back to condoms is a step in the wrong direction. Quality counts. Have you thought about you and this lad going out one night and coming back a bit to drunk, then having sex without a condom? The line is crossed.... the pressure might just be on....someone.

Good sex invokes emotions (we can't ignore that). The feelings of being close and knowing tat the good times shared are being developed. To let go of that is not easy.

From what I can tell (and I am not trying to be critical here) the relationship is based purely on sex. When the novelty of sex starts to die, there is nothing to sustain te friendship or relationship.

Heated · 31/12/2008 12:15

at vicarious pleasure you're giving lots of MNers, me included!

unavailable · 31/12/2008 12:22

Just a word of caution - Are you sure he's 20?

Shoshe · 31/12/2008 12:30

My DH is tn years younger than me I was a 38 year old Grandmother (with custody of DGD) when I met him, he was single with no kids, 11 years later we have been married for 8 years and very happy.

Go for it girl.

Just dont tell KerryMum she will die with frustration

DoubleBluff · 31/12/2008 12:35

wow you go for it girlfriend!
Am very

ButIForgetMyself · 31/12/2008 13:17

I had a "thing" with a 21 year old when I was 33. He was my brother's best mate. It was long distance. I was besotted, for a while.

When my mother found out she went MAD, said she would never accept it, tried to make me feel it was bad and wrong and dirty.

Didn't put me off, I still carried on. What DID put me off was the fact that he didn't have a job, and one time when he came to stay with me for a few days he dropped the bombshell that he didn't have enough money to get home so he'd have to stay until the weekend when I could drive him the 274 miles home, or give him the money for the fare. Began to bug me that he was in my space ALL THE TIME, space that I worked to provide for myself, and he would drop in comments about me being old. Pushed it too far when he was talking to my brother about my brother being skint, and said "You'll have to get yourself a girlfriend with a job, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha".

Dumped him without a second thought. "Go on, off you fuck". Can't stand the sight of him now, nearly three years later, and he still doesn't have a job.

OneLieIn · 31/12/2008 13:24

Ooohh, you are soooo lucky - all that stamina....

NAB3lovelychildren · 31/12/2008 13:27

Young men often don't want a size 6 bimbo. They want a woman with something to snuggle up to and enjoy and more than a few words to say. Enjoy!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 31/12/2008 13:42

toyboylover enjoy lol!!
am seriously enjoying this thread!!

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 14:31

my new man is 10 years younger
works for me!

Shoshe · 31/12/2008 14:36

Cath you have joined a very elite club

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 14:41

I seriously think it is the way forward shoshe
Far from being immature, there is a certain seriousness, passion, eagerness, determination, excitement and millions of other positive points about my younger man.
Plus he makes me feel as sexy as anything - even though I have put on about a stone since we have been together

Shoshe · 31/12/2008 14:49

PMSL I blame all my weight gain on DH

By the way have I got you FB????

muggglewump · 31/12/2008 14:50

Lucky You!
Does he have any similar aged friends in the Glasgow area?

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 14:53

shoshe - nope but I think you have my email?
sorry muggle!

NoShitSherlock · 31/12/2008 14:58

My sis did this a few months ago he was 22 and she 37 and had a whale of a time. If you just want fun go for it and who cares what anyone else thinks

Shoshe · 31/12/2008 15:21

No cath i am at nanny 475 at hotmail dot com

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 15:30

found you

Shoshe · 31/12/2008 15:48
Grin
goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 31/12/2008 15:51

ooooo you lucky thing

nappyaddict · 31/12/2008 16:15

enjoy it.

MerryFlippinChristmas · 31/12/2008 16:25

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AlistairSim · 31/12/2008 16:27

I think this is fine but only if you come and tell us all about it.

Every detail.

We/I must live vicariously through you.

BlueSapphire77 · 31/12/2008 16:34

HMPH!!

BlueSapphire77 · 31/12/2008 16:35

Is the offer to slap you still open lol