Okies.
A friend is someone you have known for a while and shared experiences with. Or to be more precise "Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships."
Harman has met these guys in the pub a few times. Does that count as a "friend"?
She invited them back for coffee after the pub had shut - how much had you all had to drink Harman?
They went to look at Harman's Xmas decorations.
He's there on a regular basis, he's married but his wife works nights.
Now fine, this may well all be innocent. BUT the op asked us if this would look unreasonable to his wife. Some of us said that we wouldn't like it and yes it would be unreasonable.
I don't understand why then posters are being rude and patronising to each other.
Harman - you asked for advice, you got advice. You cannot complain if the advice is not what you wanted. I'm pretty sure that your motives were entirely innocent and no-one is saying otherwise I don't think. We questioned his motives because we don't know him and so we were asked to judge this situation based on what little you had told us.
We did that.
We all have differing views. But some posters are questioning others relationships and trust issues just because they dare to disagree with them. That is out of order and just plain rude.
So you have different standards to some of us, so bloody what, does that give you a right to judge those people?