Is it acceptable for a married man to call on a single woman after the pub shuts?

[harman]

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DP is NOT allowed to buy clothes in my absence.

It's for his own good.

harman, now you are letting yourself get worked up

no-one is making those insinuations about you at all

I am with ll.
I am just off to tell my dh the things he is not "allowed" to do.
then wait for his response

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest if my dp went back to someone's flat for a coffee after the pub, even if they were female and single and he only knew them a bit. After all, I trust him.

I would probably assume that the single friend was interested in one of the girls and dp was there to chat to her friend.

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yes, its getting hysterical

I might have to flounce

its kinda annoying when people come on who obviously haven't read (or understood) the whole thread

harman, please quote any venom I have spit

if anything, I think the implied insults have been squared at the people who dared to say they might have a teensy problem with their dh behaving in this way

I really don't understand why we are assuming that the man had ulterior motives?
maybe, just maybe, he liked harman's company
maybe she is an interesting person and he liked talking to her and her friend.
I know it is wildly unlikely, but harman mightbe quite an interesting person and some men actually like talking to women without needing to take their knickers off.

I want to see these Xmas Decs

But why shouldn't he go to Harman's house after the pub? Is it illegal? He wasn't being disrespectful to his wife. He wasn't breaking his marriage vows. They weren't alone.

Harman's house was on the way home
She had been boasting about her Christmas decorations (i do too)
and so they went into her house on the way home and then had a coffee
Sounds reasonable to me
Are all your husbands on leashes?

and I still say that if you thought it was 100% acceptable, you would not have posted the question

< looks for hidden venom in statement >

nope, completely venom-free

I would also add I find it a little unsettling when people don't acknowledge an an apology

i trust my dh, i just wouldn't want him going back to another womans flat.

ok harman. hand on heart, swear on your kids, that you had, nor have any interest whatsoever in these men when you invited them back to your to show them your xmas decorations.

I actually have no problems with men, nor have any monogamous partners or xdh ever cheated on me.

theBlonde

I like it

fuck, this isn't getting the kids fed

< goes to feed hungry children >

this thread is SO weird
I had twelve people round on Friday, some I know well, some not so well.
three single men
one gay man in a civil partnership without his partner
one married man without his wife
one married couple
five married women without their husbands (this includes me)
they all stayed until about 2 in the morning
was this all very weird?
should those there without their partners have been at home with their partners or waiting for them?
is it all very suspect?
it would havebeen OK if we were all close friends, but the fact that some of us didn't know each other makes it not acceptable to hang out with people of the oppoiste sex because we should be at home with our partners/families?
is it hard to believe that a group of adults can just hang out and get on without it being all very WRONG
I just don't get it.

but harpsi

did you shag them

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littlelapin- I see what you mean about the thread splitting on trust lines. For me, I do absolutely trust my own DP, and would not have a problem with him going for a coffee in the scenario Harman describes. I suppose though, that it's easier for me to feel that because he isn't out down the pub without me most nights. I don't necessarily think every married person can be trusted though, and if they are out and about after the pubs shut regularly, they wouldn't be high up on my list of people to cultivate as mates and I'd be a bit wary. Does that make sense? I don't think that's being wildly paranoid, just a bit cautious of getting dragged into someone else's domestic hoo-haas IYSWIM.

lol at harman
yes, I shagged them all, one after the other. the conversation got a little dull, tbh.

FGS harpsi, you COULD have shown them the Xmas decorations....delayed the sex for a bit longer.

yeah, but my decorations are a bit shit, unfortunately. not like harman's.
one of them mocked my tinsel (might have been the gay one, I think) so I had to take my clothes off out of sheer embarrassment and to distract their attention.
and it all snowballed from there.