Is it acceptable for a married man to call on a single woman after the pub shuts?

[harman]

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and he talks to people of the female persuasion

why do people have to twist things?

this has gone from at married man going to single womans house for "coffee", ogle at xmas decs/shagathon/ whatever

to anybody who might object to this being accused of not letting their dh talk to any women

a bit of a stretch, that one

harman, in case you missed my apololgy, here is is again

dittany more often than not the trust issues stem from the jealous person having been treated badly before - but not necessarily by the person they're with now. iykwim

*apology

chamomile, have I offended you on this or any other thread ???

sgb must be at work

I didn't say I would be worried that he was shaggin someone else. I said it is not a trust issue.

Most of our nights tend to be like yours.He is out Tuesday, I am out Wednesday and he is out Thursday. That is why we like spending time together when we can.

I still think there is something wrong when a bloke would rather spend so much time at the pub and not with his wife.

His wife was at work. Is the poor bastard supposed to sit at home all night alone?

my dh went out with his (single) female friend on Friday.
they were even out after dark.
somtimes I visit my (single) male friend in the evening too.
all very shocking and without a chaperone.

not all people who are friends with members of the opposite sex are looking for a shag.

sometimes friends are just, you know, friends.
to answer the OP I would not care if it was my dh, as long as he isn't shagging you.
it's all pretty simple really.

were they minging harman? I mean why invite these two?

No one invites someone back to their flat unless they are interested. At least not when they are strangers.

No ChiefElf the poor bastard is supposed to go down to the pub and drink (did they buy harman and her friend drinks?) and then go back to single women's flats to look at xmas decorations at midnight.

Of course that's what they're supposed to do...

Yes, obv, ChiefElf.

Me and the kids went to Birmingham without DP a few months ago. I obv expected him to sit at home crying into his microwave meal for one every night.

hc the op is not talking about friends here.

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no, i don't think it is acceptable.

full stop!

oh so now these two men are friends harman? is that what you're saying now?

elf, of course not

pub, yes. After this....

off to Indian/kebab shop etc for a nosh, yes

nightclub, yes (with proviso that I get my turn )

back to single womans house for coffee with 2 other single people, no

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noiamnot, you sound very bitter towards men.

Maybe you have never found a good one.

Or maybe they all ran a mile in the opposite direction when they realised what an awful attitude you have towards their gender.

littlel, single best freind

therein lies the difference

I walked back through a [park at 3 am a couple of weeks ago. With a man. Who wasn't DP

I bet you all think I am schlaaag now.

I have read the OP and she said some people she met inthe pub went back for coffee.
I really don't get the big deal. I hang out with married and single people all the time. I really would never consider it disrespectful for a single person and a married person to have a coffee together.
there threads just do my head in. it is just a parallel universe as far as I can see.
coffee and a chat is coffee and a chat. sex is sex. I really don't get the two confused.