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How can I stop being jealous?

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caroline18 · 21/03/2005 09:40

I have only recently realised how jealous a person i am. If i dont try to do something about it is going to wreak my relationship with my partner and it is driving me insane an him. Can anyone please give me some advice or tips on how to control it.

thanks
caroline18

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:26

and you know what when i ask him about it he will lie to me again and again if he was feeling like that why didnt he talk to me i told him he was being funny toward me and in his attitude towards me i said something wasnt right he said how can you tell i said i just can

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:27

hes was telling everyone i was sick and was telling me my head was telling me these things but i could feel them in my heart

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ggglimpopo · 25/03/2005 17:27

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:28

dont know how can i ever trust him 100% again

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:30

you know what he wont be honest because he hasnt got the guts and hes not man enough

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:31

i am at breaking point

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lou33 · 25/03/2005 17:32

what would you say to a friend of yours who asked what you thought about her h joining a dating agency?

ggglimpopo · 25/03/2005 17:32

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:34

she was looking for a partner
i have some family but cant talk to them about issues like this

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ggglimpopo · 25/03/2005 17:36

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:36

i just want it sorted out but i have to wait till he comes home but that not until next week dont know if i can hold out that long

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:37

he talks about me to make himself look better and then everyone thinks he such a family man what a joke

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:38

such a family man bearing in mind that he wants to help me because im ill and hes the one that made me feel like this

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ggglimpopo · 25/03/2005 17:38

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:40

im sorry not up to date with some of the terms used is that your email address?

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:43

hes making me feel so low about myself

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 17:45

when i said something wasnt right and i didnt trust him he said well lets go and i will get dna should have taken him up on the offer said if a lady came on to him he would tell her to .... off.

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mummytosteven · 25/03/2005 20:31

aside from the infidelity issue, the fact that's he's treating you so badly (badmouthing you to his friends) etc does make him seem like a complete expletive of choice, and a bad unsupportive partner anyway. if you can I think you really would find it helpful for you to let a RL friend/family member know what's going on, and give you a reality check from his controlling behaviour.

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 22:36

the more i look into things i just cant believe it i feel sick with all of this

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caroline18 · 25/03/2005 22:37

i want to tell him now how i feel i cant wait until middle of next week i want him to hurt as much as i am

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caroline18 · 26/03/2005 08:56

i just want to know if i can get some advice on how to approach this suject do i tell him over phone or wait till he comes home he can be very threating im scared he will hit me because he has threated it in past

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mummytosteven · 26/03/2005 09:00

i think don't tell him over the phone - i think you need to prepare for this - and you don't want to sounds too out of control angry (hard as this sounds) as he's already setting you up to look like a nutter to friends etc. if you have a horrible confrontation on the phone then you'll be terrified of what he'll be like when he does get home.