How can I stop being jealous?

[caroline18]

I have only recently realised how jealous a person i am. If i dont try to do something about it is going to wreak my relationship with my partner and it is driving me insane an him. Can anyone please give me some advice or tips on how to control it.

thanks
caroline18

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i think that could be the problem maybe i dont trust him but only when he odd and says things to me that he doesnt normally say

when he phoned me from abroad he was saying things like this well when you dress up and put make up on you look nice

caroline
sorry but he sounds like pond life

yes
there also want two photo on his camera of his hotel room at 5.00 am 5.01am just see the door in one and part of bed in the other he told me the camera was charging i know i must sound really dence to all of this my thoughts were you had someone there who was trying out your camera and took those photo shots of nothing but he said it was him taking it out of the charger what i am to believe he just phone me

He's got an excuse for everything, hasn't he?

so sorry to hijack but happydaddy can you look at my thread "is my husband having an affair" I would be eternally grateful for a male perspective.

yes but i dont believe him something just isnt right

that's what i mean , caroline. if he was genuine he wouldn't have so many ready made excuses. It was on charge my arse.

Sorry but I've just come back to this and I think he's having an affair. Perhaps even the woman phoning was suggesting that if you weren't the jealous type that you should question why you felt like that.

Also I will apologies in advance for this but if in your heart you feel there is something going on, normally there is (unfortunately)

I would ask him straight up. I don't think his behaviour is acceptable at all, he is convinvcing you it's all in your head so that you will stop questionning him. Next time he will be able to say "Look Caroline, we've been through all this before" etc

I've been so bloody stupid he has phone me four times today but last time every other day said he couldnt get signal i texted him he said he was only receiving them hours later would that be the case or do i really need to ask for the answer

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HD - OMG, I wish my DH was as good at talking as you are on a male perspective, (well he is I suppose in his own way but ty will try ur tips as well)

caroline - i'd go witht eh whole if he's got nothing to hide he'd have no problems in telling you exactly what went on whilst he was away, is there any reason u don't trust him? he should at least be honest with you and tell you the score so to speak. possibly mid life crisis at the rings/chains thing? (no idea possibly barking up the wrong tree there) i'd be livid myself if my DH got someone to ring me saying I was ill etc.. if you do tackle him on the subject me tactful but firm. don't let him blackmail you into not asking questions you want answers to.

The other night i told him it was finished he throw the phone across the room first time ever he did anything like that before i tried to get the phone of him because he couldnt wait to tell everyone i had finished it especially my granmother who is very sick at moment. i beg him not to phone her he said if i touched the phone he would break my fingers then he threw it across the room i was very calm which he didnt like

The kids adore their father i cant see why though i do everything for them. sometimes wonder how much more i can take

well C18 I recon (and i'm sorry if this is harsh) but ur DH is nothing but a bully, he's the controlling one pulling all the strings, and ur'e allowing him to manipulate u in this way, stand up for your self girl, take the kids out of the situation if need be and tell him straight you won't stand to be treated like somehting he's walked in.

I know he's a bully I do my very best in standing up to him and saying what i think to him he gone away overseas again back to the same place he was before he bought himself new ring and chain he said before he hated wearing rings and chains but do you think he's trying to impress someone? or just me going mad again

mid life crisis or trying to impress springs to mind.

yes i think he's trying to impress because he going back to the place all of this started its not me he's trying to impress he said to me that the girls in the photo wouldnt be working at the hotel where he stayed they go and work elsewhere this time of year but at the end of the day he can tell me what i want to hear because i'm not there

just found some of his emails and found out he is signed up to dating agency where he just came from and has gone back out to work again help me

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At the end of the day he will have an answer but their is only one answer. i meant u join a dating agency to date other people what a liar totally fed up with the whole thing its draining me he wont be back until middle of next week why did he do this why?
does this confirm he has 100% now slept with someone?

I wouldn't say it confirms he has already slept with someone else, but it tells you he is planning to, imo. I'm sorry x

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